'Sup everybody, I'm Blade. I'm 5'9"ish, i have brown,gold, green eyes, brown hair. Love playin sports,(there aren't many that i haven't played) any of them and every one out there. i play soccer, swimming, and martial arts. I live in California in the bay area. And most of all I love helping people, so if you have a problem or question on ANY subject then ask and ill be more than happy to answer and help you out, if i cant answer your question or help you i'll find you someone who will.
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Does anyone know a really good diet pill that i can get in a drug store like CVS? I am looking for a pill (thats safe) that can help me get a flat stomach, and thinner thighs. It cant be perscription and i would have to be able to buy it by myself (i'm 16, and my parents would flip out if they knew).
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Diet pills are 1) expensive &2) worthless because once you stop taking the pills your metabolism goes back to the way it used to be if not slower and you gain back the weight you lost, and then some.
the best way to loose weight is eating healthy and lots of exercise at least 3-4 times a week if not every day for at least and hour if not more. Cardio is what you need to burn fat; weights are for strength, definition/toning, and building more muscle (which will make you look bigger if you still have not burnt off that fat). exercise all you like but the key to losing weight is your nutrition and eating habits.
stop eating sugar, dairy, and white processed wheat, fatty/greasy foods. now you may think not eating dairy is bad because "you wont get your protein" but in fact dairy is bad fo ryou because your body can not handle breaking down the milk protein. you can get your calcium other places such as dietary supplements (calcium pills/tablets). Sugar causes your body to have thicker blood and cause breakouts etc. as well as trigger your body into being "hungry".
now completely going off all these is impossible, you might be able to do it for a few days or weeks if your lucky, but sooner or later youll crack and say "screw it, imma eat what i want!". you have to slowly cut back on those things, choose one main group to focus on primarily and cut down significantly on the others. have a "treat" every once in a while to get that "fix". also cut down your snacking in between meals if your eating large meals 2-3 times a day. your better off eating several small meals throughout the day with healthy snacking than 3 large meals each day. when eating, eat slowly so your stomach registers its full, do not eat until your stuffed, just until full.
another important item is your sleep. make sure you have the energy to excercise each day and function properly, otherwise your body will make up that lost energy from lack of sleep by EATING MORE.
so EXRECISE, EAT HEALTHY, CUT DOWN PROPORTIONS, GET YOUR SLEEP!
hope ive helped,
-BLADE-
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So there is this boy that I had liked big time my freshman year. He was the typical bad boy, smoked, drank, had sex with any girl he could...that kind of thing. But he was really sweet to me and I fell for him hard. Then, of course, he broke my heart. So I didnt really talk to him for a long time. He moved to mexico and I didnt see him till my 17th birthday. He took me out to a movie and treated me like a princess. He opened doors for me, bought my ticket, all that jazz. I felt bad the whole time because I just couldn't let my guard down, I just couldn't trust him again. I am pretty sure he was expecting something out of the day but I just wasn't interested anymore. That was back in March. Now here I am in August and for the last three days I have talked to him every night for like 3 hours. I can't help but flirt with him and make plans with him. I can't stop thinking about him.......but here is my problem. Things can't go anywhere if I am talking to him online and he is in mexico, right? but he is moving back to California in like a week and I cant help but want to see him. My parents dont approve of him so i cant tell them i want to go see him so i told them i want to go visit the college that is in the town he is moving to.....Should I go back and give the guy another chance (since he didn't break my heart on purpous) and lie to my parents to see him? Or just let things go and if he wants to see me let him come to me? (link)
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wow. ok, well you COULD go down there and visit him and lie to your parents but if they found out they would only dissaprove of you seeing him more. So if you go down there visit the college and have him go with you and check it out together, I doubt your parents are gonna trip off of you two looking at a college together. It might make your parents think a little different of him if hes looking at a college to go to.
But if you go down there he knows how you feel about him cuz your going out of your way to see him, and then he has the upperhand on the situation; savvy? Considering what you told me about what he used to be like and how he broke your heart, you probably want to have the upperhand and control of this situation.
So let him come up and visit you, he'll come to visit anyways cuz he'll probably want to visit his other friends in the area so you making all that extra effort to go see him probably isnt necessary. Like you said, you dont want to let your gaurd down; so dont. let him come to you, let him make the moves, let him work. I hope all that made sense and everything works out for you. good luck.
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My husband has planned our summer vacation every year since we have been together. With the exception of last year, we traveled out of state to my nephew's wedding. (He now says that was my turn at planning)
Usually we do things that I am not interested in, but I go along with it because I want the kids to have fun. At the beginning of this year he agreed I should plan the vacation. I planned on a fishing/boating trip. He agreed at the time, but has now changed his mind. He told our 12/yr old son (the older kids aren't going) we will go to World's of Fun and a baseball game. (without consulting me) I don't like the rides, and I don't like baseball. He won't take the boat due to gas prices, and besides we have the Missouri River out our back-door. I tried to work out a compromise, but he won't budge. I told them to go without me and I will find something else to do here.
He says now, thanks to me the vacation is cancelled, because he refuses to go without me.
I don't want to dissapoint my son. So now what?
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ask your son what HE would rather do, putting your plans and your husbands plans and feelings aside. take it from there. I might consider counceling with your husband if this isnt the first time something like this has happened. counceling is a good thing for a marriage wether or not something serious is happening or wether or not there is a problem. his reaction about the family vacation being canceled and refusing to go without you is understandable but a little extreme. is this vacation about him? about the two of you? or is it for your son? sit down and talk with him and hopefully you guys can get to the root of his unwillingness to compromis and settle it to a common ground.
(this is a very familiar, situation in my household as well as many others that I am aware of, so if you feel alone on this just remember your not)
-Blade-
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I just want to know how you know when the person your making out with is enjoying it or not? (link)
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You can see it in their eyes when they look at you or if and when they smile. when they start making a move to the next level, you know your a reeaallyyy good kisser.
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say I like this guy, and I do, I think he likes me too. I mean, he sends all the right signals and we flirt a ton. But Im friends with his younger sister, his best friend hooked up with me awhile ago, and we are on the same swim team, so theres a few obstacles ffor you. I want to make some sort of move. I dont know what though. He gives me rides home and stuff and we also go out to eat after most practices. If anyone had any ideas...that'd be great. (link)
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this is a very common situation that comes up, but most people dont handle it the right way. the wrong way would be to go forward with your relationship with him until however far it goes and have your friend(his sister) find out after something happens. this generally leads to ample amounts of fighting and drama and can cost you your friendship and relationship with the guy.(this is generally how alot of people handle this. not too smart.)
The right thing to do would be to talk to your friend and let her know how you feel about her brother BEFORE you make a move on him. Also Id do a little snooping and check to see if he really DOES like you, because nothing could be more embarassing than voicing your feelings to him (verbally or physically) and having him react with "WOAH!! Your my sister's friend, and your like MY little sister!" or something along those lines... But anyways, definatley talk with your friend and clear the air with her, get her feelings on the whole thing and try and make things as civil as possible. try and keep a common ground that will alow you to keep the friendship with her and your relationship with her brother all on good terms and moving forward in the right direction. If she says "No, Im not comfortable with you dating my brother" then you HAVE to respect that and not move in on her brother. It may not be what you want to do but you will earn her trust and respect by doing so; which in any case is much more important. in the off chance she might get over being weirded out, she just might give you permission to date her brother BECAUSE you respected her wishes and she was able to trust you.
The main focus here is your friend. "Romance may come and go, but friendship is forever." Keep the relationship with your friend healthy and worry about her brother second. There are plenty of fish in the sea, passing up one guy wont kill you, especially at this age.
I hope it all works out for the best and your friend is comfortable, or is willing to cope with you being involved with her brother. Just remember your relationship with her is more important that your feelings for her brother.
-Blade-
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Junior in High school: my boyfriend is totally against drugs and i smoked today and i didnt tell him, but some people might have...should i lie and not tell him at all or should i straight up tell him even if he might break up with me??????? (link)
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always tell the truth. geting in trouble while telling the truth is easier to deal with and less harsh then getting in trouble while lying.
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Okay, Blade...I wonder if you know who this is.
but yesterday I cleaned out my birds cage, and there was like little maggots/worms in his cage. I got rid of them, but now he seems really sad...like hes not complete, And I dont kno if its from the worms, maybe he got attatched to them....but I think they were from his food...I dont know, I think I need your advice on weather I should have kept the worms in there or not... =o\ (link)
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thats gross.lol get rid of the worms and keep them outta the cage.
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alright, so im not much for this love stuff but uh, my boyfriend for the past year has been through a lot with me. but just recently we've been arguing a lot and i found out he went to the movies with his ex and wouldnt answer his phone when i called. i of course flipped and the next day he called me and i had one of my guy friends answer just to piss him off.. but today i call him and a girl answered his phone. now he wont talk to me at all.. should we just give up on eachother since all we seem to do is constantly fight back and forth. and how do i make him admitt that he realizes what hes losing?
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well first of all, stop playing games with eachother. that is only going to make the situation work, be mature about it and talk to him, if HE cant be mature enough to talk to you then just say goodbye for a while. dont just GIVE UP, you might regret it later and besides, other people look at your relationship with him (guys primarily) and how you treat an X gives guys an idea how they would be treated if they were your X. But anyways, just take some time away from him, it seems you guys need some space, dont ignore him just dont call him as much are hang out with him as much. If he doesnt come around and keeps acting like a deuche bag then walk out of his life. If he cares about you he'll realize what hes lost and come back, if he doesnt well then you two werent meant to be. hope Ive been some help and everything works out ok. If you would like to discuss this more, check out my contact info and drop me a line.
-Blade-
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wellll, i liked this guy at my school (im pretty sure he didnt know i liked him i didnt tell him but i made it kinda obvious i would flirt a lot) and he all of a sudden started being really flirty towards me, and this went on for quite some time. he would just be really touchy and come down to talk to me during lunch and brunch everyday and would call me every weekend to see what i was doing and we would usually hang out. he even told me that he thought i was hot and that i would be a really good gf and all that kind of stuff. and then one weekend that he left to go to mexico to build houses he comes back and one of my friends tells me this story of him hooking up with this random girl that went to mexico with him. and ever since then things havent been the same between us and he slowly stopped talking to me as much as he used to and doesnt call me at all anymore. now that its summer im just confused as to what happened. i dont know if i should just stop trying to talk to him and leave him alone or if i should try and be his friend. orrr if i should make it more obvious that i like him, because i got the hint that he wasnt interested anymore so i stopped being flirty towards him. so what do you think i should do?
oh and im 16 and female (link)
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Those trips really bring people together, weither or not they choose to. You should persue him a little more though considering all that you told me, he probably hasnt lost his interest in you just his insentive because you have stopped persuing him. So try a little harder and be a little bolder and see where that takes you. Avoid trashing that other girl as much as possible, especially to him, you'll ruin any chance with him that you might have. Good luck with everything and I hope it all works out for the best.
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Mk, well i went out with this guy,(lets call him Josh) he is the sweetest, most amazing guy i've ever met in my life! he was the best thing taht has ever happened to me, and i can swear upon that, but he broke up with me. He said that he didnt think i was ready for a serious relationship that he wanted, and when he had told me that i was willing to do anything in my power to prove to him i could. But i was convinced i'd never get him back. so i was tryin to forgit about it. that weekend (one day later) i went to my best friends, she was determined to git my mind off of him and so we went to the movies. had the best time. that nite we were talkin to some of our friends. they asked us out and we said yes. because we just thought it was soo cool that best friends were going out with best friends.It had gotten my mind off of Josh. but i still couldnt help but think about him. we had only gone out for two mothns i had fallen for him. and fallen bad! well two days later he tells me he wanted to try and git me back. but i told him that i was goign out with someone already.(call him Steven)(Josh and Steven were friends.but they rarley talked. so i never thought nothing of it.) well then Josh desiced ok well fuck you, and said some of the meanest things i can ever imgine. hurt me worse than i ever thought anyone could. about aweek later i broke up with Steven. in hoping i could git josh to atleast be friends with me. it worked. i fell even deeper for him wich sucked because he turned 18. which was NOT good! because im only 16 and so my dad doesnt approve. so it would be illegal for us to date...:'( so sadly i had lost him for good.(well atleast 2 more years!!) then me and my friend did soemthing VERY stupid. which got in me in serious troulbe. my dad thought it was Josh who had done this with me, which he wasnt, and so threatened to put josh in jail. so Josh says that he figured it was best for us just not to even be friends anymore. i was soo heartbroken. i had lost this boy Three times. in only a month. my heart had been broken so many times in so short time i figured i was threw with. well this is why im writing u for advice. How do i git him back? no as in dating but atleast as Friends..?? he hates me soo much. he as spread rumors about me being a whore and stuff (which isnt true) and so im 99.9% positive he caint stand me. and i've tried to appoligize and everything but he juist says no because he doesnt want me gitting him introuble. is ther anything i can do?? i've already talked to my dad. he says NO! and a BIG NO at that! so i've just run out of ideas....PLZ HELP im willing to do anything......
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Sorry it has taken me so long to answer, I've been very busy. Well I would definately say "that sucks"...to the max. But as for getting him back, well I would just suggest that you don't. It seems to me that your relationship has caused and probably will cause more problems than you need/needed. The reason he said those mean things to you and spread rumors about you was because he was hurt by the fact that you were with Steven and not him, don't try and comprehend why because men are ignorant and stupid like that sometimes. If he truly wants to have a relationship of any kind with you he'll come back, and untill then dont worry about it. Keep living your life unaffected by these things, because they can only keep you down, hope everything works out.
Blade
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theres this guy at my school that i really like. but i don't know if i even have a chance with him. he's in a few of my classes and we flirt sometimes, but i can't tell if he's just like that. a bunch of my friends keep saying they're gonna hook us up but i dont want them to. becuz i'm not the type of person to tell my friend to tell their friend that i like them.
what should i do? (link)
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Well youll never have a chance with him if you have that frame of mind. Of course you have a chance, you just have a larger or smaller chance than other people, but you STILL have a chance with him. Just stay freinds with im for now but try hanging out with him outside of school. as for your freinds getting invovled only use them as a source for information that they already know. dont have them go tell him you like him or have them pump him for information. its your relationship with him not theirs, so dont let them run it. Call him sometime and hangout with him, and when you talk with him dont always just chat about random stuff, sometimes talk to him about subjects that are important and truly mater.
hope everything works out,
Blade
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ok so im a dancer and ive been eating really healthy since like january but ive been eating really really healthy for the past couple of months and i have a performance coming up next month and i want to have a good enough body for my costume cuz they are two pieces but my friends keep telling me that i need to eat more how can i like eat to satisfy my friends but still lose weight or like reach my goal for my performace (link)
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you dont need to eat to satisfy your freinds. all you need to do is eat healthy meaning; stay away from sugar, white processed wheat,and dairy. drink lots of water and excercise frequently, might want to try an abb workout to tone your stomach and try either swimming or running to get more cardio. if you eat right and excersise youll be just fine.
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I've had this boyfriend for 2 years, and most of the time we hang out at his house. When he goes in the shower, or anywhere else, I go to hang out with his sister. I've been feeling some sexual attraction to her and one day we started to hook up. She pleases me better than he does. Does this mean I'm a lesbian? How do I tell Jason? PLEASE HELP ME BLADE!! (link)
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No your not a Lesbian, just...curious. and as for breaking the news maybe you should talk to jason's sister before you talk to him. Cut loose anything you and her have and dont take it anywhere, itd be different if it were just some other girl but its your BOYFRIENDS sister, if you still want to have relationship with jason end anything you had with his sister. As for jason do it somewhere besides his house and just tell him, flat out. hope everything works out between you and good luck.
-Blade-
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Every time me and my boyfriend have sex, he starts to cry. Not just a normal cry, he's hysterical. I try to calm him down by rubbing his back, but all he says is, "sex is such a beautiful thing, how could you NOT cry?" and he gets mad at me sometimes because he thinks i don't care. it makes me feel very awkward. what should i do? (link)
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Shove a sock in his mouth, the one that he'd been wearing all day. naww im just playing ( you could try that if nothing else works). Try talking to him about it and tell him the awkward position hes putting you in and explain to him when he cries hysterically it really kills the mood. make sure you emphasize that you do care and your not being inconsiderate. if this doesnt work try the "if a tear is shed, there will be no play in bed" approach, if that fails try the sock tactic i mentioned above. other than that i dont know what else to tell you, soo....good luck with that.
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I am a Wiccan and so is my boyfriend. I told my mom he was (but not me) now she won't let me see him. My mom's a very conservative Christian who is very judgmental andtakes everything personaly. Should I tell her I'm a Wiccan, my boyfriend says I should..because even though we can sneek and talk we can't sneek and see each other and I'm only 16 so I still have 2 years before I can move out.
PS- I'm worried that if I tell her she will have me on complete lock down (link)
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You should definately talk with your mom about your religion and why you picked it over christianity. Make sure you make the point that you didnt go into this blindly. But also acknoledge her and her faith because itll #1 make the conversation easier and more progressive #2 the conversation isnt all about you, the conflict is between your two faiths. iF you dont talk to her about this it is only going to be worse when it comes out later years down the road. YOU DO have the right to make your own decisions with your life even if your decision isnt the Christianity. Good luck talking with your mom and i hope everything goes well and i hope you and your boyfreind have a great relationship. By the way I'm a Christian so realize not every christian is like your mom.
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ok last night me and my friend was up stairs in my room wachin a movie and then we start to make out and i want us to do more than make out but he is too shy how can i make him make me happy (link)
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You cant force him into anything he doest want to do, and if somehow you did your "fun" wouldnt be as good. Talk to him about it first and just take things slow, if you do that theyll speed up pretty fast and everyone will be happy. But YOU definately need to make the first move and leave behind obvous hints to him when you guys arent like alone in the bedroom but around other ppl, his guy freinds will give him the lil' push he needs.
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I went out with this guy about sixth months ago. It was a really bad relationship and things ended all bad. (I broke up with him). Now recently we just started talking again and we've become really close. I confessed that I've had feelings for him and still do. Since we've been talking, I've noticed that he's changed a whole lot and I'm really considering getting back together with him. He's gone for the summer but I'm willing to wait. What should I do? (link)
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My answer is NO, you should not get back together with him because 1) if it was a bad relationship and ended on bad terms what make you think it will be any different this time? &2) because i can gaurentee you that he hasnt changed enough to make things work. DOnt wait around for him, live your summer up single and dont tie yourself down. If hes gone all summer he prolly is gonna be off with other girls while hes gone so.... just wait things out, the right guy WILL come along hell show up when you least expect it. hope ive helped an dgood luck.
Blade
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OK so the kid i like (who has a g/f) asked me the other day online if i still liked him..and i tried changin the subject but hes like "No don't shange the convo.." so i told him: idk because you have a gf... then he said ooo ok..now hes talking to me a lot more..should i have told him that i still liked him? should i tell him the next time i talk to him? help me! i rate 5s! (link)
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See you prolly shouldnt have because then hell get this attitude of " awww yeeaaa im a pimp" cuz has a girlfriend AND some girl who likes him. Alot of guys have this happen to them and the majority become complete assholes to the girl(you) even if they are nice guys, but there are guys who are mature enough to handle that information and not let it go to their heads. You should let him know that you two are going to remain freinds and that even though you like him NOTHING is going to happen between you 2 until he and his girlfreind are broken up,you chould also add that if he breaks up with her for you there will never be a relationship. cuz he might break up with his gf for you for the WRONG reasons. So basically you should stay freinds with him and try getting over him and find a new guy to like.
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Tonight I have a swim meet and I have to swim 100 yards Butterfly. I'm terrible at butterfly and I can only do about 50 yrds before collapsing. It's an important meet so I want to do well, but atleast finish. Any tips, hints, or advice on how to do well tonight? I'll rate verry high! (link)
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If you go into the meet telling yourself you arent going to finish or do well then you wont. Winning your race or even finishing it for that matter, is by far more mental than physical. As for actually swimming, on your dive make sure you launch yourself as far as you possibly can and streamline and butterfly kick under water for as long as possible( but remember you can only stay underwater for a little more than half a pool length) do this on your turns as well. Work on your breath control and keep your head down at all times even when breathing, also make sure you keep a fluid steady rythum and USE YOUR HIPS/LEGS, that is where your power comes from. Pace yourself, 1st lap go out at a steady pace, 2nd start building up, 3rd go out strong, 4th lap go all out like its all you have to live, hold nothing back and no matter how tired or how much you hurt you CAN do it. Just keep telling yourself that you can do it and that you arent tired and you dont feel any pain. Hope your race goes well and you have fun. Good luck.
Blade
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Hey everyone,
My sister n law is having a baby, and she just found out today that she's going to be having another boy! I was wondering if anyone could help me out, and suggest any boy names pretty much that you can think of. I already suggested about 45 names to my brother, and he hasn't liked any of them! He's the most picky person I know! I know alot of the common ones people use these days, so if you can try not to suggest some of those. Thank you so much in advance! I really appreciate it! I'll rate you a 5 if you try, cuz I'm a really nice person. :-)
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How about Theo? Chase? Tanner? Michael? Paris? Angel? COnner? Noah? David? Alex/Alexander? Jonah?
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