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I have paid a sponsorer to sponsor me 14000$ but no w he doesnt pick the call nor call us.Every penny we gave him was hard earned money this man have cheated us what shall we do with this person if I am from NSW.
I dont have his address just bank details and phone numbers.
Hey,
That is really unfortunate that this guy bailed on his commitment to sponsor you, it must really anger you. When you paid him to sponsor you was there any form of contract involved?
You could potentially get legal services involved as that is a lot of money for someone to take from you. I would suggest you contact the numbers first of all but I\'m guessing that\'s been done. I would not advise using his bank details for anything as that could get very messy and end up making the situation much worse; any form of fraudulent activity would.
I\'m sorry that I haven\'t been of much help but if you have any way of proving that he basically stole this money from you then your best bet is to seek legal help.
Hope this helps,
AskSinz
So, I'm a 14 year old girl and I'm pretty sure this isn't normal. It's usually every morning I wake up with soaked underwear, it doesn't smell that nice either. During the day it's nit so bad but it's still happening, it's very uncomftable. I find that whenever I need to pee I all of a sudden become very desperate to go and I can't hold it in for that long and if I don't go I can't hold it in. I don't want to have to wear a panty liner or something like that, any ideas on what this could be?
I'm too scared to tell my parents about it as I would be embarrassed and I really don't want to have to go and see a doctor unless I really have to.
Thanks.
Hello,
It\'s normal and healthy to produce a clear or white discharge from your vagina. Healthy discharge does not have a strong smell or colour. You may feel an uncomfortable wetness, but you should not have any itching or soreness around your vagina.
Any sudden change to your discharge may indicate a vaginal infection. You should be aware of how your discharge naturally varies throughout your cycle and what is not normal, but obvious warning signs of infection are:
a change in colour or consistency
a sudden bad smell
an unusually large amount of discharge
another symptom alongside the discharge, such as itching outside your vagina or pain in your pelvis or tummy
unexpected bleeding from the vagina
If your discharge is fishy smelling, green, yellow, frothy or you have intense itching and you yourself are not sure whether your discharge is normal and are worried about it, I would suggest you see your GP or nurse.
As for the sudden need to pee, it sounds like weak pelvic floor muscles, which is easily strengthened, or a possible UTI (Urinary Tract Infection)
I highly recommend either speaking to your GP or nurse, or even informing your mother if you are seriously worried. You have nothing to be embarrassed about at all.
Hope this helps,
AskSinz
i am a 16 year old guy i'm gay my boyfriend is 17 we are really in love we have been talking about having sex we have given each other blow jobs a few times i want to have sex i'm a little worried it will hurt he has a big penis so i'm a nervous about having sex
does it hurt a lot? any advice?
Apologies with the late reply to your question.
Its really good that you two are both talking about he possibility of having sex, communication is key throughout.
Its perfectly normal to be worried about having sex, eerybody always asks if it hurts, and to be perfectly honest it might just hurt the first couple times but just be sure to use plenty of lubricant and tell him to take it slow. Theres no need to rush your first time at all. Just talk about it and explore each other bodies.
Sometimes some gay men to tend to 'play around' with that area themselves, try gently massaging your anus and make sure to put lube on but see if you can insert a finger- or maybe even get your partner to do that first before penetrating you.
All in all I cant really tell you what anal sex feels like as ive never had it but you know that you're ready and want to take that step with your partner so talk about it and if its wht he wants to then go for it. Take it nice and slow and remember to communicate with him to say what feels good and what doesnt to you.
Again sorry this reply took so long but hope Ive helped you out in some way. Never hesitate to inbox if you need more advice.
AskSinz.
Hello . Me and my boyfriend had sex. We have had a pregnancy scare before. I just got off my period but it was lighter then usual. And i read that u can be pregnant and have your period. But the thing is he didnt cum.in me and i havent been broken yet.
Hello Ask Sinz here,
You are right in thinking that it is a possibility to be pregnant and still have a period. I have a friend who had exactly that happen to her.
Most people believe that if a guy pulls out and doesn't cum in you then you wont fall pregnant but that's not true. A guy also has pre cum which can make you pregnant. If you have sex with your boyfriend without any form of contraception then there will always be some possibility that you can get pregnant.
In regards to you not being broken yet, that doesn't really matter. Your hymen can break from a number of things, some girls have even had their hymen break from cycling, it doesn't necessarily break via sex.
So there is a chance you could be pregnant yes if neither of you used protection during sex, the best possible way to check if you are pregnant is to either see a doctor or pop down to your local pharmacy/shop and purchase a pregnancy test.
I remember when I was a kid I was watching a movie with my mom that I THINK was on Lifetime. It had Jamie Lee Curtis in it and she had been in a coma for like 15 years or something at her home with her family and she suddenly wakes up older and her kids have aged. Me and my mother both remember the movie but we can't think of the name. We both searched Wikipedia and IMDB but couldn't find it.
Is it Forever Young? Sorry if it's not. I think I have also seen this movie but I myself can't really remember.
Okay, well I had a thing for school that is a Music Festival. Well, there is this guy I know and he is three years older than me. I had a boyfriend at this time and this guy wasn't him. Well, I was around this guy all day I would hold his hand. At one point me and him went into the choir room and there wasn't anyone else in there. So, he fingered me and I gave him a hand job. He kept trying to get me to make out with him. And, we laid on a couch cuddling together. Well, then at the end of the day we ended up making out for at least five minuets and then he tried to have sex with me. Now remember, I had a boyfriend. Well, a couple days later we had sex and I felt so bad so I broke up with my boyfriend instead of telling him the truth. I now have a totally different boyfriend but I still feel guilty and I love the other guy not my ex. But, I love my boyfriend now just not as much.!
You're not a slut/whore but what you did was wrong and makes you a cheater. You say you feel guilty now and you love the guy you are with now but not as much as the guy you cheated with on your ex. Before being unhappy again and then looking for love elswhere which is what you did here. Come clean! Go to your ex and tell him why you guys broke up - he deserves to know. It will give you both peace of mind and allow you guys to move on. As for the guy who you cheated with - talk to him. If you're still in touch and you love him like you say you do then do something about it, don't just go out with some other guy in the meantime to 'fill a gap.' In order to have a successful relationship you have to be happy. So in order for you to be happy you have to come clean to your ex and admit your feelings to this other guy. Tell you current boyfriend what you will be doing, as you should have learnt by now keeping things isn't the way to go.
Inbox me if you need more help, good luck, hope this helps.
AskSinz
WhEn me and my bf are having sex he gets me so wet that whn his going to put.his dick on me i get dry so fast
I don't think this is a sign of infection or anything this kinda thing happens. I would suggest using a lubricant which you can buy in most shops
hope this helps,
AskSinz
I really need to talk to somebody about my life. More about my love life though, obviously. I'm not really keen about 'professional' help though. I just want someone like me, going through the same stuff as I am. My friends aren't listening, they're too busy going off with their boyfriends. (14/f) Please??
I'm 18/f and definitely willing to help you out. Just inbox me when you need me and I'll get back to ASAP. Most definitely same day replies!
Don't hesitate to communicate,
AskSinz.
I'm 13 and I loove Emo style or their music(BVB)
1st question is...I don't cut myself. Do I have to do it if I wanna be a real emo? And also I'm a cheerful person so, am I not Emo for that? I have nothing to be sad about in my life.
You do not have to cut yourself or be depressed to be a real emo. Emo is about fashion not about lifestyle, a way of dressing and expressing yourself through clothes and make-up. Self harm is completely separate to being emo it just so happens that people have decided to associate it with being emo which is not the case.
Hope this helps,
AskSinz
Well,Im 14 and me and my boyfriend have already spoke about how we feel for eachother and how we want to spend our lives together,i know many say your too young to be thinking about it let alone discussing it,But we really love eachother and he said if we last a few more weeks he will propose to me. Honestly i don't know what to do,i mean i love him alot and weve been together for a while now but im not to sure how to react.i dont know wether to say yes so we have a long time to talk about our future or say no and deal with it when were a btit older.Any ideas?
The fact that you're asking us whether you should say yes or no clearly shows you that you want to say no. You are young but that doesn't change how you feel about someone. I've been going out with my girlfriend since I was 14 and to tell you the truth I did think about spending the rest of our lives together and marriage but as time went on in the relationship you change because you're still growing up. I don't care for marriage any more because I don't feel it's necessary. The fact that you're 14 means you can't actually get married without parental consent and I highly doubt either of your parents will allow this and in fact it will just cause trouble for your relationship and cause you guys to drift apart. I would be really grateful if you could inbox me more on this as I would like to know just how long you guys have been going out and how long you guys have known each other, and maybe we could discuss this further. You need to tell your boyfriend that your not sure about marriage because of how young you guys are and how much things might change in the up and coming years (GCSE'S, A Levels, University etc). Tell him honestly that you still love him and still want to be together and you'd rather wait to get married.
Please inbox me, hope this helps.
AskSinz.
I have cone-like breast that are no more than a B cup. Every other girl -younger than me even- have a larger bust than me. At first I just told myself that I had less problems than other girls but then this friend of mine called me a washboard.. We always have little, silly fights but that was the one and only time it has ever hurt me. I feel uncomfortable wearing little clothing in fear of being ridiculed. Like my bra falling of or something. -Also I can't swim so I always take that as an excuse for not going to pool parties.
There is nothing wrong with being a B cup. Don't let your friends get you down. If it really is beginning to get to you and make you feel insecure then go to your friends and tell them to stop saying things like that because it makes you feel insecure. I'm a girl with big breasts but to tell you the truth I wish I was smaller! They're such a hassle! My girlfriend has B cup breasts and I love them! I'm a lover of smaller breasts and not afraid to admit it! Just like the others who have answered this question have said, yes it would be nice to know your age in order to figure out whether your starting puberty, going through it or have finished that stage of your life. I was extremely flat chested in the beginning of secondary school, a B cup just like you (those were the days!) But when I reached 16/17 they just started to grow and now I'm an E cup! There's nothing you can do other than accept that your boobs are smaller than your friends and hey if they really get on your nerves with their comments just say, "At least mine won't sag as much" :). Hope you feel better about having smaller breasts because I myself would love to be your size.
Here if you need anything,
AskSinz.
Alright so my bf is the best and we Well I need to ask something which is actually really embarrassing. You see we have been moving faster and had a little problem when the lights went out. We ended up giving up and going to sleep because we couldn't communicate. Help me please!!!!
As the other answers for this question have stated, perhaps leave a dim light on? Otherwise perhaps before having sex maybe you create signs/signals that you both can understand when in the dark or light to be bale to enjoy sex. For e.g. tug on his ear if you want it slower etc. Small subtle signs so it doesn't detract from the whole mood. Then you can even "test the waters" with the signs/signals it'll be a bit of fun.
Hope this helps,
AskSinz.
I have agreed to take on a kitten that has had significant hair loss. Thyroid isn't swollen, she eats and drinks well and plays fine with the other kittens. her skin is soft and supple, no sign of flakeynes or dander. Im sure she will need to see a vet but i was wondering if anyone has dealt with this one (seemly) symptom and what the outcome was. Thank you
This a condition called cat alopecia. There are many possible reasons for hair loss in a cat, some of them serious and some of them not so serious. If your cat has hair loss, you should take her to the vet for a diagnosis and treatment.
Alopecia usually causes patches of hair loss. The location of the hair loss will help with the diagnosis.
Your cat may have other symptoms, as well. Her skin may be red or inflamed where the hair is falling out. She may be scratching or licking those areas. She could have a myriad of other symptoms, depending upon the cause of the hair loss.
It can be somewhat difficult to diagnose cat alopecia because there are so many possible causes to rule out. Your vet will start with a thorough physical exam. He or she may do a number or special tests, such as blood tests, a urinalysis, examining your cat’s skin under a special light, scraping her skin for some cells to examine under a microscope, and/or a skin biopsy.
Please take your kitten to the vet ASAP.
AskSinz.
It sucks because I'd love to have a boyfriend or a best friend but it seems so out of reach and out of my control. I'm 18 and it's just embarrassing that I haven't experienced such things and I feel depressed over it. I don't think it could be my looks, cause being totally honest I think I look good. The only thing I want to change is my weight, cause I'm slightly overweight, according to my BMI, but it's hard to get motivated to work out and eat healthy when I feel depressed over my adolescence. I'm 18 but I don't even feel like an adult, really. I just feel like curling into a ball and hiding away from everyone. It's hard to even get motivation to clean my room. But my mom exaggerates my room being messy when I think my mental state is far more important than clothes being on the floor. My mom took away my laptop for not cleaning my room, so I have to use the one in the study room, but it's annoying because I'd rather just lock myself up in my room all day, and only leave to get food. It's pathetic but I don't know how to change. I just feel like my life has been going downhill since I was 6 and my family moved here to America from England. Last year I thought was the worst year of my life but this is, and it shouldn't have been, as it was my final year of high school. But there's absolutely nothing good about these past 2 school years, except the concerts I went to, and the two times I got to travel overseas. Everything else was total crap and I blame myself, cause I think it's mainly my fault, so I don't know why I'm causing soo much pain to myself. and then there's other issues I have to worry about, like race, because for some stupid reason most people aren't colorblind and a lot of people believe racial stereotypes and are racist in a way, when, as someone who's lived in 3 continents, I see the world as my home and I'd never not try to be friends with someone because of their ethnicity because I don't think that way at all. we're all individuals. but I've had some fake friends, like some people who used me and then if I saw them in the hallway they wouldn't even acknowledge me. what the hell? I find it hard to trust people. I even have trouble sharing really personal things with the therapist I just got. I'm just afraid. I criticize myself so I don't want someone else to criticize me for things I'm already worrying about. And I hate how I only get to see her once a week cause I feel like seeing her everyday. There's so much pain I just keep inside. And then I feel guilty, too, cause there's people who have way less than me who are happy and here I am moping about, so why can't I just be happy and move on?? I'm just so mad because I'm such a mess right now and I don't know how I'm going to be able to break free of this and be able to reach my dreams.
Its not huge intimacy issues you have, it's trust issues. You're afraid that if you get really close to someone and have them be your shoulder to lean on they're gonna tell the whole world your problems. I have the same problem, and because of this you on some level don't trust your therapist but you know that you need her. Don't be embarrassed that you haven't had a boyfriend yet! Plenty of my friends have recently turned 18 and they're still waiting on their first kiss. There's nothing wrong with that it just means that you're holdin out for the right person to have that first intimate moment with. As for the whole weight thing I find that if you set one day aside for yourself and really look hard at yourself in the mirror and you seriously don't like what you see start then and there. Don't just go back to your bed and say how much you hate how you look you use that whole day to come up with a plan on how you're going to lose a few pounds to get to your ideal BMI, and you start the plan in the same day. Have a healthy breakfast, walk instead of catch the bus, grab fruit snacks or cereal bars instead of crisps and chocolate, do a few sit ups and squats and press ups instead of being bored and pointlessly flicking through the channels. Force youself to make a change because no one else is going to do it for you. I don't have to suffer abusive racial comments but I do have to suffer abusive homophobic commers and have been for the past 4 years and will for the rest of my life and the sooner you come to this realisation the better. There are always gonna be people who are ingnorant and stupid and think they're comments are funny when in fact they're hurtful derogatory and just plain wrong. But we can't change those people. I seems like quite a few of your problems actually stem from you being couped up inside your house. It sounds to me like you feel trapped and it's making you delressed because you feel like you can't escape everything you're feeling. You should go out more, cycle round your local lark, go for long walks, cinema, theatre, arcade, anything! I hardly ever left my house and always felt down and as soon as I started to agree to go out I felt a lot happier. Maybe make one day at the end of each week a day that you go out, it would give you something to look forward to. Don't think about other people's problems - focus on your own. It doesn't matter how hard other people have it right now it matters how hard you have it. Part if me feels like you're not allowing yourself to move on because you're scared of what will happen if you put yourself out there. You have to believe in yourself be able to live halppily and move on. Continue those councelling sessions, tell her everything, air every last problem you have with her And you'll start to see a change.
AskSinz.
hey uhm i just wanted to ask how can i make my column like yours? i mean i wont copy it exactly as it is. i just want to get rid of the "ask" word on my column cause my column looks like this when i open it "ask askjane". i want to change that. help please. thanks.
Write to Dangernerd at dangernerd@gmail.com as he is the only one who can change it. Or inbox his advicenators account http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=DangerNerd
Be sure to tell him your column name and the reason you want the change and hopefully he'll change it for you :)
Good Luck
AskSinz.
I know it has to do with conception trouble but what is the definition of impotence really? Does it mean you can NEVER have babies or you are just having trouble for a while?
Impotence is chronic inability to attain or sustain an erection for the performance of a sexual act. It doesn't mean that you can't have children it just means that you have difficulty getting your penis erect to engage in the physical act of 'making babies'. The word 'infertile' is the term used for when you can't have children or have a really low chance of having children.
Hope this helps.
AskSinz
i have thick white discharge and sore nipples but my period went off two weeks ago whats wrong with me
Thick white discharge and sore nipples are early signs of pregnancy but it doesn't always mean your pregnant. When you have sex, if you do not use protection, you can get pregnant at any time during your menstrual cycle, even during or just after. The only way to definitely know if you're pregnant is either take some home pregnancy tests or you can pay a visit to your doctor. I would recommend paying a visit to your doctor in case you're not pregnant because then it could possibly mean you have a yeast infection.
Good Luck.
AskSinz.
Recently my boyfriend said things arent working and that he loves me but he is not in love with me anymore. However I don't feel the same, I am still in love with him and want to be with him, we have been through so much. We said we are going to talk about things but I know it will end in a break up which I really don't want to happen. They say 'if you love someone let them go' but its so hard. How can I make him see that it might just be a rough patch and we can sort things out?
I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through this and atm I'm going through the same kinda thing. It's unfortunate and we want them to see that it's a bad patch but - you can't force someone to love you. When you talk with him ask him exactly what it is that he feels and what he thinks is the problem between you two - don't let him just say it's not working or there's nothing between you any more. Make him explain what he feels for you, why he fell out of love with you, what makes him think that it's not just a bad patch. If he dots around the questions, if he doesn't want to talk, then I'm sorry to say but it sounds like he's trying to take the easy way out by saying I don't love you any more. But by asking these questions you gain closure if the dreaded 'break-up' does happen. Im not gonna be one of those people and tell you that there's plenty more fish in the sea because I know how it feels to just want to be with that one person. It's absolutely heartbreaking to know that it's gonna end but you have to remember one thing and know that it's not your fault. You have done everything you can to show him that you love him and show him that your in this relationship for the long haul, through good and bad times.
I hope it works out for you, I'm here if the outcome isn't what you wanted. I wish you the best of luck.
Ask Sinz.
can a girl get pregnant if a boy sperm fall on her ass but sex didnt take place
Sperm has to enter the vagina for a woman to get pregnant. Unless the sperm trickled towards your vagina from your ass then I don't think there's any chance of you getting pregnant.
Hope this helps xx
Hello Im 13 years old and so is my boyfriend. We have been dating since March 2011 and its now January 2012. He is pretty shy around me and Im sometimes like that. Everyone asks me if we say I Love You and I have to say no because he has yet to say it. Would it be weird if i told him? And how should I? Ans so far he has hugged me. Thats it. No holding hands. And obviously no kiss. How do I hint him i want to go farther
If you have to ask if you should say I love you then you're obviously not ready to say it. Now when you say how do I hint him to go farther I really do hope you mean just a kiss and holding hands. I guess for that you could maybe lean into him when you hug get your faces close? Quite a lot of the time especially at this age both guys and girls are shy. And the majority of girls expect the guy to make the first move - but really you can make a move to if you want something to happen? So just grab his hand one day in the playground or something and be like Hi and have a conversation, don't make it into a big thing, act natural with it.
I hope this helps xx