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What are some good ska bands? I'm really into punk, and people are always telling me I've got to check out ska. So... in your opinion, what are the best ska bands, and what are some good songs by them?

My favorite Ska bands are Reel Big Fish, Streetlight Manifesto and Suburban Legends. Check out the following:

Reel Big Fish:
Sellout
Trendy
Beer
Where have you been

Streetlight Manifesto (My favorite, so everything)
Point/Counterpoint
Big Sleep
Somewhere in the Between
We will fall together
We are the few

Suburban Legends
High Fives
Any of their disney covers are cool

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I'm 17/f going into senior year, and really, really stressed, embarassed, sad, disappointed, intimidated, and scared to death. This summer I took on this job that is only 3 days a week but enough to make me go crazy. So, my boss is this crazy, compulsive foreign woman (not that that matters, just giving you a picture). I am absolutely scared to death of her. The jobis at an office and it involves a lot of paperwork. If you make one minor mistake, she'll scream at you, and I mean really scream. Sometimes, I tend to be a very nervous person. I get really jumpy and I'm not very good at working when I'm nervous or under pressure. Things also get to me really easily and I get upset. Lately, I've been very, VERY careful at work to not make even the most minute mistake. The past few times at work, though, she's screamed at me. She's done it in front of my other co-workers who are also around my age. They don't get yelled at because they've been working for a while and are used to the job. And I've really, really been trying. Omg it's soooo soooo embarassing. When I can sense she's about to erupt, I get this terrified hot feeling inside my gut. When she's done yelling at me, I wanna crawl into a ball and die. I always feel like the stupidest person in the world when I'm there and I know the co-workers think I am too. I feel like I'm "that person" who always gets yelled at and I don't want to be. It lowers my self-esteem tenfold. And then afterwards, when I'm sitting at home trying to enjoy my summer, I start thinking about it and it depresses me. Thinking about the place and that woman just scares me to death sometimes. Imagine having extreme embrassment, disappointment, low-self esteem, and fear all rolled into one. I cannot quit because my parents are making me work this summer. I'm trying to find another job but I've been applying to a lot of places and jobs are really hard to get now, i don't think I'll find anything. And plus, I don't wanna just give up. And if you're thinking I should talk to the woman about how I feel, it's out of the question. I'd get fired, she has no sensitivity whatsoever and I would be too scared anyway. Should I be so upset by this? Do you think I'm just overreacting? This is another story but lately, things I would normally just be nervous or anxious about are almost terrifying me. This job is making it worse. I used to be really excited about growing up and going into the real world but now I'm getting pretty scared. I was watching my baby videos the other day and just burst into tears at the fact that I had such a loving, carefree life back then and now it's just the opposite and I can never go back to that again. But, anyway sorry to go kind of off topic. Just please tell me something, anything to make me cheer up. I need it. Thank you

-Jess

I don't think you are overreacting. If this was me I would give two weeks notice and quit. You don't need to be this stressed out when you are still in high school. Don't panic about being a senior and going out into the real world, everyone feels like this during their senior year. I know I felt the same way when I was a senior.

In fact if you were older she probably would not treat you this way.Are all the empolyees high school kids or are some adults? If there are adults does she treat them like that too? Out in the "real world" as you put it bosses treat you with the respect you deserve so don't panic about getting a job in the future, just because you had a bad experience.

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i put some pictures on one of those blank CDs that you buy at walmart..and i was wondering how i can take those off??

If you have a CD-RW (rewritable) than you can just put the cd into the computer and delete the items from the folder. But if you just have a CD-R you cannot add or delete items.

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I'm 15 and need personal references for job applications. Everyone tells me to use my teachers, but I'm already out of school and I was never that close to any of my teachers (they all liked me, but I just wasn't close to them). I haven't done any volunteer work or anything like that, and I don't play sports, so no coaches. I don't know any of my neighbors very well, except for the ones who are my friends' families. I have no idea who I could put down. Help?

Family friends, your friends parents, there has to be somebody who is willing to vouch that you are a good kid.

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ok so i have been friends and a little more than friends with this girl. for like 7 to 8 years. we have talked about dating but for some odd reason things always get in the way... right now i am in college and i see her on the weekends. which is great but its not enough time to spend with her and build a solid boyfriend / girlfriend relationship. i was offered a management position at a very well known company but the problem is that she doesn't want me to take it because then we wont see each other at all!!! a part of me wants to take the job but then the other part of me is saying that she means way too much to me to not see her... tell me what would you do if you were in my situation???

I would take the job since you don't see much of each other now, are not in a relationship. It is still likely that you will remain friends since you have been for 7 years. And who knows, down the road you could end up dating. But the other side of this would be you not taking the job and missing out on this opportunity only to have things not work out with you and her.

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hello!(Sorry, it's long please read!)

13/f
Well, the guy I really care for(Joey) dated my friend(Tay), she wasn't right for him at all. At the beginning he dated me than,he started liking my friend and they both backstabbed me and went out. I warned him about my friend she liked other guys when they went out, and she asked someone out WHILE dating Joey. The other day she broke up with him, because she likes someone else and she asked him out. Joey was devastated and was really sorry for not believing me.Now, everything I predicted that would happen, HAPPENED It make me feel awful. Well, Joey asked me to go to the movies with him yesterday. (I don't know as a friend or as a date)I couldn't come because my mom would like to come , and she was working. So, my mom said maybe this weekend and joey agreed to that. He also told me that my family should come over to his house for a cookout sometime, so our family can meet.Well, I really like him. I'm not sure if he's starting to like me or if I'm just a best friend? I really helped him out threw this, he was really hurt.On My space he put me in his top, but Tay was the first person,he told me he still likes her, it' hard not to. This hurts me because I really like him, and care for him and I know I can treat him better. What I need to know is do you people think we could ever be in a relationship again? I know it will take time, but do you think we could..or will I just be a best friend to him?

Please help out!! Thanks for reading!!

Bye!

He might see you as a close friend since you dated and seemed to remain friends while he was dating other girls. On top of that you were there when he had to break up with your friend. But on the other hand he might realize that he likes you and is sorry he dated your friend. I think you should take your time and not rush things. You need to kind of gauge how he feels about you, before you try to jump into a relationship.

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How can you tell when you're full? I am not overweight, but I tend to over-eat often. I'm sure my body gives me signals when I am full that I am just overlooking. How can I know when to stop eating?

Most of the time when you think you are hungry you are actually thirsty, so try to drink a full glass of water before you reach for a snack. Also it can take almost 20 minutes for you body to realize it is full, so eating slower and chewing each bite longer will help you from over eating.

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Are energy drinks really bad for you? What are the health risks, if so?

There are worse things out there, but they aren't really that great for you either. Most energy drinks have lots of empty calories, tons of sugar, and a lot of caffeine. Too much caffeine can cause you to become dizzy, have heart palpitations, and you can even become "addicted" to it.

http://www.edrinks.net/energy-drinks/drink-safety.aspx

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Do guys like it when the girl takes charge sometimes? .. like where to hang out for example.

Usually, because guys often feel like they are pressured to pick things they think you would like. So when you pick which movie to go see or what restaurant to eat at it takes off some of the pressure. My boyfriend loves to make plans, he'd rather pick what we do, mainly because I'm always like "I don't know" or "whatever you want" But I know that he sometimes would like me to decide, at least every once in awhile.

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how do you know if you are in love with someone?

i cant stop thinking about him. and cannot ever stay mad at him even though he is a jerk alot of the time.

and i think that its only one way..im feel more for him than he does for me...ALOT more.

Someone sent this to me a long time ago and I think it helps a lot. You didn't specify how old you are but don't be discouraged by people who say you are too young to be in love.

Are your palms sweaty, is your heart racing and is your voice caught within your chest?
It isn't love, it's like.


You can't keep your eyes or hands off of them.
It isn't love, it's lust.


Are you proud, and eager to show them off?
It isn't love, it's luck.


Do you want them because you know they're there?
It isn't love, it's loneliness.


Are you there because it's what everyone wants?
It isn't love, it's loyalty.


Are you there because he kisses you or holds your hand?
It isn't love, its low confidence.


Do you stay for their confessions of love, because you don't want to hurt them?
It isn't love, it's pity.


Do you belong to them because their sight makes you heart skip a beat?
It isn't love, it's infatuation.


Do you pardon their faults because you care about them?
It isn't love, it's friendship.


Do you tell them everyday that they are the only one you think of?
It isn't love, it's a lie.


Are you willing to give your favorite things to them?
It isn't love, its charity.


Does your heart ache and break when they're sad?
Then it's love.


Do you cry their pain even though your strong?
Than it's love.


Do their eyes see your true heart and touch your soul so deeply it hurts?
Then it's love.


Do you stay because a blinded incomprehensible mix of pain and relation pulls you close and keeps you there?
Than it's love.


Do you accept their faults because they're a part of who they are?
Then it's love.


Would you give them your heart, your life and your death?
Then it's love.

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Do you aways know when the condom breaks? Me and my boyfriend do it like once every weekend and he pulls out (with the condom on) and cums outside me into the condom, just incase it broke i dont want his cum in me. we check the condom everytime after and it hasnt broken. BUt my question is, do you always know when it breaks? If there was no leakage, does that mean I'm okay and shouldnt worry?

You can pretty much tell when a condom breaks, the guy can usually feel the difference right away and if not it becomes very obvious when he pulls out, because it looks like it is pretty much ripped. I would recommend getting on another form of birth control, like the pill because they tend to be more reliable if you take them correctly, than just using condoms alone. But if he is wearing a condom and pulling out I would say you are pretty much okay.

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I'm a guy with a playboy bunny tattoo on my arm. I was stupid and got it on a whim and wish I had never done it now. I'm not a player, and was never into playboy mag. Removal is not an option ($$$).

Anyway, when I meet somebody and we go on our first, 2nd or 3rd date, at some point I need to reveal my tattoo, since she'll see it a somepoint and I'd rather not surprise her.

When I go out wearing a tank or even a short sleeve shirt, I've never had any success meeting girls, as they tend to be repulsed by my bunny because of first impressions.

It's awkward and embarassing, so what would be the best way to tell her on a date, or respond on a bad first impression when my bunny is showing ?

http://i481.photobucket.com/albums/rr176/cmorton57/Playboy%20bunny/img3.jpg

I think making a joke about it would be the best way to respond to any reaction about it. Tell her you lost a bet or something, but I looked at the picture and I don't really think its that bad at all, plus you look like you have pretty nice arms from that picture. I'd don't think a playboy tattoo would scare most girls away unless they are really shallow. Next time you are out just pretend it's not even there unless they ask about it. Just be confident and have a conversation, so their impression is of you as a person not just your tattoo

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I got a job offer today for a contract position through a staffing agency that starts on Wednesday or Monday. I'm currently working for a company that is closing in February. I was told that the position Monday may not be available if they find enough people to start Wednesday, but if I start Wednesday, I am giving my company a days notice. I don't feel right giving them that short of notice, but I don't want to lose the job. What should I do?

I usually say that you should never burn bridges, but I think you should take this new job, you said your current company is closing, so I'd take the offer while it stands. You probably won't be able to use them as a reference, but I still think it is worth it.

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hey i just heard this song from velvet channel. it has lyrics like... dance dance.. the tune is somewhat like of partyin or somethin.. wutsoever. the song is soo cool! please help...

It could have been Dance Dance by Fall Out Boy

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does jergans natural glow actually work or does it make you look orange?

I've used it and I agree with what others have said. As long as you apply evenly it looks natural, however when I stopped using it, I would get patches where it looked like it flaked off and it looked kind of weird.

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Hey Kate.

I had sex with my boyfriend about 6 months ago, or so. & now i get this white discharge, alot comes out. I always had discharge but not this much. Is it just because im getting older (I am 15 btw) or is it something serious? & Is it okay to get irregular periods around my age?

Thank you!! :)

It could just be because you are getting older, discharge is a way for your body to "Clean out" your vagina. Think of it as self cleaning. You may need to be concerned if the discharge is thick, lumpy (like cottage cheese) or foul smelling because you could have an infection. It is normal to get irregular periods for about the first year or so after you get your period. If it continues after that you should speak with your doctor.

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Is there any websites that allow you to watch Movies for free ?

Hulu.com has full length movies, and tv shows. I personally think its the best out there.

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HEY! for my publications class we have to write an artical for the school newspaper. and i got the topic top 10 high school based movies.... i can only come up with 4. someone help me?


i already have..
the breakfast club
high school musical
mean girls
never been kissed



HELP PLEASE.
its due wens.

Hey i just did a similar project

http://www.filmsite.org/50besthsfilms.html

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ok this might be a little weird but,

what feels better for a girl?
just sex .. or getting oral first then sex?

also..would there be any differnce in the feeling for the guy?

ps. what are some oral tips for a guy to perform on a girl?

thanks in advance.

Like everyone else said it depends on the girl. Some girls take a little time to get "warmed up" if you know what I mean, so some like to have oral performed first. As for tips, you kind of just have to figure out what she likes. But make sure you aren't applying too much pressure, because sometimes that ends up uncomfortable instead of pleasurable.

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I just want to know the exact date the Twilight movie comes out in theaters. Some websites say November 21st, some say December 12th. Gah, I'm so confused. xD Thanks.

Twilight was originally going to be released on December 12th, but since Harry Potter got pushed back, Twilight got pushed up to November 21st.

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