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i need your help: my dad thinks that my mum is cheating
so lately my dad thinks that my mum is cheating on him but it aint true. If the situationwas different i would talk to him but he s never in mood for conversations he only yells us and he also gets drunk. Anyways what hould i do
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Just stay out of it all together. Regardless of your age, this is your parents problem & it has probably been going on for far longer than you even realize. If he gets violent, call 911. None of this is your fault & it is not anything you can fix.
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If you have info. from overhearing Dad that your Mom is not aware of, you might tell her and what he thinks and ask if she is willing to go for marriage counseling. Just plant that idea. The rest is up to her. A child shouldn't get mixed up in what is going on between the parents. This is for professionals to handle if both Mom and Dad are willing to seek help. With all the drinking, Dad may already be or in danger of becoming an alcoholic and it would be best if he and the family get hooked up with Alcoholics anonymous. Him for help as the drinker and family members in a support program to help you know how to understand and work with him. YOu can't talk to Dad about anything hon. Just plant the idea of marriage counseling with Mom. If she can't get him to go, then the best thing might be splitting up.
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There is not much you can do. IF he believes he is being cheated on, alcohol is a good escape mechanism. One thing to take into consideration about drunks. Don't take it personally when they are jerks. If he thinks she is cheating on him, he is not gonna be happy and alcohol makes people lash out their grievances on others. Even if they have nothing to do with it. Don't take it personally. He doesn't know what he is doing or the damage he is causing. Men in general don't talk about their feelings. So don't take it personally. He is hurting and this is how he it trying to deal with it. If you see him drunk, its best to try to avoid him.
I guess the only thing you can do is let your mom know how he feels, then is she really isn't cheating, she might be able to talk to him and fix it.
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You haven't given your age though if you are under 18 and still in High School I suggest talking to a trusted teacher or your school principal. Your home situation needs to be addressed and they can get you that help.
A drunken father who constantly yells at you is an abusive father even if he has never hit you. THe proper agencies can work with your parents to make a better home life for all of you.
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