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Torn between quitting a toxic job and having extra money
To make a long story short, I found myself working as a waitress at a strip club about two months ago. I love the money I make there as it let me quickly pay off debt I owed that was holding me back from finishing my degree and I can now focus on padding my savings where as at other jobs I barely made enough to get by.
However, you're forced to drink there because customers will often buy shots for you to try and get you drunk and if you say no you don't make any money (I make money for each drink I sell) and the managers frown on it (seen as losing money). Due to this I've already gotten in one mild car accident that I was lucky enough to have not been hurt in and nobody saw it happen so I got away with what could have turned into a DUI. I'm scared to death of getting a DUI because I would get kicked out of my college program. I also run into a lot of men that force me to give them my number or else they won't buy drinks off me and a lot of people who are in general shady characters.
On top of this I started a day job this week so now I'm barely getting any sleep because I work at the club 8pm-3am (go to sleep around 4am) and wake up for my day job at 7am.
I'm currently on summer vacation so classes aren't a worry now, but in about a month I'll have to quit one job to make time for school again.
My day job is related to my major and it pays decently, but I can see how the hours will be more difficult to work classes around.
Working at the club my hours won't affect classes at all and I make really good money there, but I'm in a somewhat dangerous environment with a lot of risk.
I'm not sure what to do :(
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If you must accept drinks, then I would make sure the bartender knows that whatever the guy orders for you, he makes it look like he made it alcoholic but makes it non alcoholic.
Although if I understand correctly, the managers don't even like the waitresses drinking, seeing it as money lost.
So I think a talk with managers would be a good choice. Let them know what tactics the customers go to in order to pay for a drink, refusing to buy unless you accept a drink they buy for you or refuse to buy one until you give out your phone number. Ask them how they would like you to handle this and let them know you do not want alcoholic drinks because you don't want to drive home drunk and you certainly don't want an accident that may ruin the career you study for before you even start the career. I am sure they want the money from sales but if you have to fake that you are drinking alcohol but really aren't, would that be acceptable? I see no reason to stop the night job if it works better schedule wise and some agreement with the bosses can be managed so that you can still earn money while finishing school.
If things don't work out so you can stay sober and safe going home, then you will have to quit because d riving drunk is not going to do you a favor if you get a DUI, kill someone else, damage property, or worse, get killed yourself so the major you were going for is now never going to be a reality. Sometimes, you have to think ahead, use the imagination and picture all the possible outcomes, including a drunk patron following you after work in their car and learning where you live so they can start to buy you there. If you were drunk, you might not be thinking clearly enough to realize you are followed let alone to call police. So think, are you willing to risk your life and future career and life plans if nothing changes at your job?
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Most places where staff may be required to drink with the customer the staffs drink is non alcoholic. The customer is charged for the alcoholic beverage at normal price .
As the bartender to water down your drinks when you order shots being purchased for you. If the bartender won't do it for you the find another club where they will.
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