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Stalker won't stop messaging me what do I do
17/f
For 3 months now I keep getting messages from this random guy. Everytime I block him he starts on a new number. He knows my name and says he got my number off of Facebook and when I searched his name he didn't have Facebook. my friend messaged him and then he had a new name and wouldn't stop messaging her and phoning her so we phoned him off her number and when I accused him of lying he started swearing at me. He smsd me saying that he has an offer for me of money and I ignored him. A week or two ago he messaged me this long message about being friends with benefits and I ignored him. My friend messaged him asking if it's this one guy cause I had a name I thought it might be now he keeps messaging and phoning her. Her boyfriend messaged him telling him to leave us alone. What can I do about this? Can I go to the police? I think it might be my ex brother in law (sister's ex husband) who molested me from 2010-2013 and he would've done stuff like this. I don't wanna tell my mom until I know who it is. How do I figure out who it is?
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This is most definitely a police matter and the molestation is still open to charges as well even if it is not your ex brother in-law who is harassing you. I urge you to bring those charges against him even if it is not him who is harassing you. He molested you he will molest again if he is not stopped. If you bring charges now you can save another young girl from going through what you have.
As for the stalker who ever he is. He offered you money in exchange for benefits. This is promoting prostitution since we all know what benefits he is talking about. It is also sexual harassment of a minor since you are not 18. Both are charges he can be criminally charged with.
Do not tell him you going to the police, don't threaten to go to the police just call the police. You do not need to figure out who is harassing you. That is a job for law enforcement. So tell your mom what is happening and call the police together.
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Don't feel guilty, in short there are many scammers out there from other countries trying to start a LDR with an American female in hopes that if she falls for him, she'll send him money or the scams asking you to accept money from them, or lonely men who won't use a dating site but expect to do the same with facebook and those who will start several different fake profiles so if I don't accept one, they'll send another in a few days hoping that i will respond if I like the photo. Its always one photo or two and no others and usually a very new account. Don't accept any of these. If you have an occasional problem with some guy, you can report it to facebook.
But you did say he did not have a facebook account when you checked. I had that happen a couple times. They somehow wrote a message to me even if not a friend, the same way you can write a message to someone if you want to add them as a fb game playing friend and you let them know which game the friend request is for. they are not yet FB friends but can contact me. I think you can change settings so that people who are not already a FB friend can not see your profile details or be able to send you contact mail. But I havent had the issue in some time so I haven't looked.
Since the guy is persistant and it also sounds like he is scamming and also the content of his contant is very offensive stuff, he is in the wrong and the police should know. It is their job to find him. The police have the most up to date technology to deal with finding someone like this even without a name or profile. Everytime someone uses their computer, the info is available for advertisers and those bad guys who know how to look for the address of your computer. I don't understand all that and how it works hon, but the technology that a bad guy is using to keep pestering you on the computer can be turned on him and the same used to catch him, who ever he is.
So, no, i can't tell you how to know who it is, thats for the police to figure out. So let the parents know. You are still a minor and they are responsible for your safety. If they don't know abaout the molesting, you need to let them know that too because if it isn't him it could be a friend he told about you and they think you're easy prey if he got away with it or it couldn't be proved. Do not erase any inbox FB messages or friendship requests. Do not say no. Just don't accept and let it sit there. Let the police look at any and all requests that you looked for a fb page and found non or found it to be a brand new account and let them handle it. The fact you were molested in the past, i think they will take this seriously and get right on it. Sorry this is happening dear. But you have to be extra careful and not click to accept even a female name you don't know. YOu need to look at their account and see if it looks suspicious or if it doesn't exist. Most do exist and are new or have conflicting photos of whose account it is or only one photo and no history. Those should be deleted automatically. However in your case, don't delete any until the police can see it on your computer or cell phone on your Facebook account.
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