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someone lied about me at school how do i fix this?
16/south africa
At school ive always been known as the "nice girl" and the teachers think im a really sweet person - which i am. Now my class has been having problems because we're in a small school with only 13 in a class. We got in a huge fight. Theres one girl, lets call her bella. Weve never liked each other but we do get along sometimes. She asked me what i thought of this other girls profile picture and i said shes changed alot - she went from quiet and shy to confident and showing her body. Now i was absent from school and bella told my favourite teacher i called this girl a slut and how two faced i am. And the teacher was shocked that i would say something like that. Then today in when theybwere in that class and i wasnt they told her that ive been fingered - even though i havent. Now this teachers oponion of me is changing and all the other teachers probably also.
This is bothering me alot because i dont know how to stop this. Its ruining my reputation and i also wana be headgirl at my school - so my reputation cant be ruined. How can i get my teachers to understand that they were lying? We have young teachers so its really close relationships with them.
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Going to the teacher with your side of the story is important. If it seems teachers or any other school officials start treating you worse, then it will be time to involve your parents or guardians. I also feel lots of teachers know that a student with a good behavior does not change so drastically. You did say your teachers were young so if they are in their early 20's they may not yet have to skills to know how to properly deal with this situation and they need to learn. You may just be the person with an issue that instigates a new training of the teachers on how to handle such a thing in the future. So don't keep quiet about it. Be vocal about anything and everything someone does to you that seems vindictive. Its better coming from you first before this Bella person can go spread the poison. Don't keep quiet wondering what the adults are thinking about you. If you keep quiet, they may feel you do so to avoid bringing attention to yourself because you feel guilty cus you did do something to feel guilty about. You don't want to send the wrong message. So start with practicing telling your parents to see how you'd do telling your story. That girl is probably being affected by puberty hormones which can alter the persons character and make some emotions run out of hand, such as uncontrollable anger and easily irritated or just hating someone and wanting to be mean. This can happen to even a girl who is always nice and hormones change her attitudes so I am not surprised to hear what she did. However, the adults shouldn't believe it. They may not. Just because they looked or sounded shocked when told, doesnt mean they beleive you did it, they could simply be shocked at what the girl said to her.
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What I've found with teachers/professors is that most of them really like honesty. They can tell when a student is lying/skirting the truth, especially if they have been teaching awhile. I would just tell them what you actually said about the profile picture, and tell them that you have no idea where the "fingered" thing came from. Teachers, especially women teachers, know that girls can be pretty vindictive and mean, and yours should believe you. Since you've been known as a nice girl, those girls might be jealous, but teachers should not use this one incident to ruin your image in their eyes. Best of luck, and keep me updated if you want!
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