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Does he like me or what?
Hello there, sorry it's bit long, I was having a chat with my friend, told him I've missed him as I hadn't seen him for a week, he said,'he didn't miss me,'turned bright red and laughed, he kept having that nervous laugh, I said sarcastically no, why did you have to miss me, i only missed you because you help me with my projects, he then said,'of course (says my name) I've missed you too, I said OK, he then smiled. Also, there were few other students at the college at the time among us, he accidentally used my name when he was talking to one of the student, he said sorry to the girl, he then turns to me and says, see, your name is always in my mind with laugh, I said, I know, I can tell, we both looked at each other and smiled. We joke and tease plus he has a gf and I have a bf. Does he like me or is he just messing around? I'm starting to have a teeny tiny feelings for him and wondering if has the same. Any advice are appreciated. Thank you
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Sure sounds like he likes you. If he is all that close to his girlfriend, I would think that it would've been easier for him to subconsciously use her name when talking to the other girl student instead of using yours. The person you spend the most time with, even if not liking them due to how they treat you, can be the name that comes to your tongue when not thinking about it. I used to be married and the man I was with mistreated me. But as I was constantly having to talk to him day in day out, subconsiously, his name was what my subconscious provided sometimes early on in new relationship with 2nd husband. He also has a few times used his ex's name too. too many people get jealous and think feelings are still there. But I know the situation and he's only got feelings for me. So glad He understood when I accidentally called him by ex's name a time or two.
What this experience tells me is that it isn't from his conscious mind that he used your name when addressing another. It could be simply that the amount of time you spend together has gone on longer than his relationship with gf so when the subconscious tries to help with providing words, it chose the most familiar one. But then again, this could mean that the girl he is dating isn't as special to him as she once was or perhaps she never was and he just wanted to get out in the dating scene and went for the first opportunity whether he really connects with her or not. And you can't assume that he likes you more than gf by his doing the name mishap. Sometimes a person can be torn between two people. Maybe thats what is happening. IN a relationship, there are two things people need to feel fulfilled and happy. One is having a best friend and also the most compatible sex partner and romance. Too many people go for one and find the other part doesnt exist in that person. So they have a sex partner with one and best friend in another. this means neither one is right for the person. The object here is to find the partner for you who is not just your best of friends but can also develop into your romantic love and sex partner.
Heres what you might say if you really are curious: We do pretty well as friends together and I realize we both already have dating friends. But have you ever wondered if it was possible for us to become something more than just friends? Either he'll say yes, say no, or just say, maybe we should spend more time together and find out. If this happens and you both want to try to see where it goes, you'd have to ask the gf bf's for a time off from your relationship as you need time to think about whether you really want to stay with them or move on.
There is also such a thing as crushing on a person. This is a 'what if' scenerio, all imagined in ones head as to what the other might be like. Heck I did that as a teen and early 20s. Although I knew that I really had no clue what they were like so I knew I was imagining all of it and I was okay with that as I was too shy back then to approach any people, having had social anxiety back then.
Your situation is different. Both of you already have dating partners. One does not cheat on or break up with such a person simply out of curiousity if something could work with them.
If dating is a process to get to know a person enough to be sure this person is a right match for your needs and will make a good father and husband, then you date until you are sure that it is time to let the person go, or you commit your heart to them without any what ifs rolling around in your mind about others you come across. Some times, we make these decisions too early in life, long before we've had enough experience
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Honestly, he surely might. However, don't go abandoning your boyfriend for him yet. If I were you, I'd see how things go for a little while and see if he keeps up this kind of attitude. If it really seems like he likes you (blushing, thinking about you all the time), then ask him about it.
If by then, you have strong feelings for him, tell him about it.
If you fall out of love with your boyfriend, it's best to tell him. If you don't like him, don't waste his time by keeping him as your boyfriend. Otherwise, it may be a good idea to talk to your boyfriend about this. If you trust him to not get jealous and that he'll understand you, you can get advice from him.
This other boy might really like you, but make sure you like him before you begin a serious relationship with him.
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