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Is he trying to say I am annoying?
Hi, a friend says I'm drove him mad and instead I said, no, u drove me mad over a situation that I called him Narky and he called me cocky. When we are having chat,he looks me in the eye, holds the eye contact for few seconds but turns red and smiles at the same time and looks away and looks back. I feel like saying, what's the matter, are u shy, the thing is he's not shy at all. I fancy him but not quite sure if he does. He lightly touched my shoulder and ran his fingers from my arm to shoulder and shoulder to arm while we're sat next to each other the other day. He recently started to give me a high fives and fist bump. I hear that's he's got a girlfriend. I'm 22 and he's 24. So, why is he acting like this? Turning red, saying I drove him mad?? we just disagree sometimes. Guys, any suggestions, please?! Thank
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Ever notice how it is harder to approach, look at in the eyes or talk to someone you have a crush on. If you haven't experienced that, then ask your girlfriends. It counts more to us to make a good impression with certain people (like those we are crushing on) and we tend to fear doing something to mess it up, thus acting shy or unable to carry through on doing any of the things I mentioned. This kind of shyness only happens with the one a person is interested in and not with any other people unless they are truly shy. So he can be very confident and outgoing, just not with you until he knows where he stands.
This could very well be his reason for how he's acting with you. I can't say for sure. But for what you said, even though he has a girlfriend, he is finding something he likes when seeing you. He may be avoiding breaking up with her if he doesn't know he has a for sure thing with you so he is only dabbling right now with you. Problem is if his girlfriend sees that and gets jealous and vindictive against you. We don't want that.
I don't know what you've heard about his girlfriend and that fact that he has one is only info passed on to you from what I read. You only heard he has a girlfriend, but you've never met her or know her, correct? So you really don't know if there are any obvious problems with his relationship with her. Just because someone is dating does not mean they plan to stay with that person long term. When we are young, it takes some time to figure out who we want in a life long relationship whether married or not. Once we decide a person no longer is right for us, then we need to break up and move along. He may be having trouble doing so.
Do you find yourself fancying him? If so, try complimenting him as your friend. I think his picking fights is the only thing he can think of to say with you cus his mind goes blank. With his touches and high fives and fist bumps, he is trying to drop hints of how he feels about you. I'll bet he's looking for an excuse to leave the girlfriend. Being comfortable near you and wanting to have excuses to touch you is a sure body language sign that someone is interested in you.
What you need to discover is whether he is interested in both you and the girlfriend at the same time. If he's lost interest in her, he needs to break it off no matter if he gets together with you or not. It isn't nice to string someone along.
Lots of good relationship start as best friends and later move on to being something more. So there may be a possibility. It will be scary to bring up such a convo with him and thats probably why he hasn't made any firm move yet. So if you like him, next time he touches you, thats the perfect time to mention that you heard he has a girlfriend. then ask him how his girlfriend would feel to see him looking for excuses to touch you. If you don't mind, let him know you don't mind him touching you and you enjoy his friendship, and a few compliments like loving his smile, sense of humor, how he thinks.... but let him know that you would never worm yourself in to steal a guy from another girl. This is a time you can ask if things are not going well with the girlfriend. If not, encourage him that its the right thing to do, to let the other person go so they no longer have false ideas that they are important and have opportunities to move on themselves. Don't worry about what you consider fighting...that isn't true fighting and more of a serious teasing that isn't all that fun to you. Guys are teachable. Bring up different subjects to see what he'd like to talk about. But you will have to say something eventually. Better he break up with the other girl than her come to attack you because you're with her boyfriend.
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He's probably just teasing you, which could be a sign he likes you. He definitely does not think you are annoying.
In matters of love, it is best to talk to him about it. Ask him if he likes you. Easier said than done, I know.
Maybe you should do a little snooping to see if he has a girlfriend still. Try asking your friends or his friends if they know anything about it. You can say it casual like, "What was the name of So-and-So's girlfriend?"
If he does have a girlfriend, the next time he gets touch-feely with you, remind him about it.
In my opinion (this is just looking at the surface of your relationship) I would say he does like you. He definitely thinks of you as a close friend at the very least. Tell him how much he means to you and how thankful you are for his companionship. If you want to date him, let him know, even if he has a girlfriend. It's better to let those feelings out than in. And if he doesn't like you, than you can move on and just be friends with him.
Good Luck!
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