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WHY DON'T ADULTS RESPECT KIDS?!
My question is why do adults teach their children not to interrupt people because it's rude and then they end up doing it? It happens to me ALL the time. I can be talking to my mother at a party for family friends or something when one of her friends just comes up and starts talking, to which my mother would go to listen to because or else it would be considered rude. So what are kids just not worthy of being the first voice? Is interrupting a kid who's talking somehow justified with "oh its just more important" when its its actually not even close to that? Are kids talking to somebody just invisible to the other? Why should kids not interrupt adults when adults do that all the time to kids?
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Hi Young Questioner,
I think that you've answered your own question to some extent.
It's not acceptable for people to interrupt other people taking, kids or adults.
There are several reasons Adults may do it;
Adults often don't see the kids as equals, or think that they should respect their speech equally.
Kids are often not as good at (and not experienced at) saying "Excuse me, I was having a conversation here with my mother. Is it urgent?"
Kids are (usually) short, so yes, unfortunately, sometimes you are less visible than an adult, and easier to interrupt unintentionally.
You need to talk to your mother as well, as it's also her responsibility to show you value, and show other adults that you shouldn't be interrupted. They've had many more years to learn what you seem to understand, so they're long overdue to have her teach them not to interrupt you ;)
This is one thing that will get easier as you get older.
I hope you will not forget what it was like to be young, like many Adults do.
-Silentone
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Its rude all around to interrupt a person when they are talking or even really focused on a task. My husband is a highly functioning autistic. You wouldn't know it until he had too many things, input, vying for attention. So its not just interrupting speach but a persons concentration on something, heck even a good movie or game.
Heres something I learned in a parenting class decades ago when my kids were little. its called the 'interrupt rule'. kids are told to know it by this title at least for the training period until it becomes a habit to use it.
Its quite simple, using another one of the five senses, touch to get a silent message to a person that you require their attention as soon as possible. SO in the beginning, as a child came running in to tell me something interrupting a conversation, I would simply say, "What's the interrupt rule?" Immediately, I'd feel their hand on my fore arm and they were quieetly waiting their turn. It is rude to make someone wait too long though so both people need to work on it.
Recently when hubby was engrossed on teaching someone on line how to use a game, I had waved at him to get his attention, something he could see without me talking but knowing I wanted to talk and afraid of losing his train of thought, he started whining and losing it. So next time, I silently laid my hand on his shoulder or arm while standing there silently.
It seems this form of silent message, with just a touch is something the brain is able to work thru better, able to still focus and come to a stopping point on the first task while at same time a part of the brain acknowledges that they have to take a break to discover what it is you need to say.
I wish this was taught uniformly across the world, in homes, in classrooms because it works.
Good luck teaching it to adult friends!
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No it is not right for an adult to interrupt a child when they are talking. Problem is when adults teach their children not to interrupt someone when they are talking it is more of a; "Do as I say not as not as I do," type lesson.
There is also the problem of a child's age. A very young child of course wants to be included in the conversation but has little if anything to contribute. The child may not understand the conversation an start to talk something he or she may be interested in , has happened to them or even something totally nonsensical. A good parent will listen to the child so that the child feels included. The Aunt, Uncle or family friend may listen to what the child is saying and decide it is unimportant and talk over the child.
This tends to change as a child gets older and starts to understand the conversations better and can actually participate in the conversation. When you reach that age, generally around 15 or 16, maybe a bit earlier. If you are contributing to a conversation and someone starts to interrupt or talk over you. I have no problem with you saying, "excuse me but I was talking or I was giving my point of view on the matter."
I don't know your age but when I was younger I did this many times. Sometimes I received an apology and other times I was told I'm a child and children should be seen and not heard.
The fact is that in situations like this you have to stand up for yourself first then let mom or dad support you. That's how it worked in my family.
My suggestion is talk to mom and dad, tell them how you feel and ask them if the next time this happens if they will support you if you say something like I did above. To say to someone, "excuse me but I was speaking," is not rude. I've used it hundreds of times.
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