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Why my summer sucked
This is more of a rant than a question, basically I've had the worst summer ever I didn't do anything at all except stay home and do the same things every single damn day. I ended up getting cabin fever because even when I did go out it was always with family and we would always go to the same place (the freaking mall that's by my house, which we go to whether it's summer time or not) ever since high school ended I've learned who my real friends really were, none of the friends that I talked to throughout high school ever tried to reach out to me this summer, it was always me texting them first to the point where if I don't text them I won't hear from them at all. One friend calls me constantly every single day to talk about her freaking boy problems like I give a rats ass about it anymore (I don't care cause she never cares about how I'm feeling it's always about her). Another friend of mine purposely ignores my texts and pretends like she's never received them but then acts buddy buddy when she sees me in person, another friend only texts me this whole summer when she needed something. So summer is done in a week and a half from now and I can't believe I'm saying that I can't wait for school to begin, cause at least I'll be out of the house and I'll actually have people to socialize with, sorry for this extremely long rant thank you if you have read all of this please feel free to give feedback btw I'm a 17 year old female going to university (don't say why don't you get a job because this whole summer I went job hunting did interviews and still didnt get freaking hired)
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EDIT: Try talking to an adult that you trust and your parents would listen to about you almost being 18 and needing your own time and life outside the house. If someone can advocate for that then they will see perhaps how they're not helping you by keeping you inside and refusing you to be on your own which you are capable of handling unless there's some reason such as street smarts, maturity or whatever that is legit for them not to want you to have your own social life and independence.
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I have to tell you the first thing I noticed was that you're so negative and have an attitude about things that sucks more than your summer does in your mind.
I'm no being mean here but rather pointing out that the outlook you have decided to take is blinding you to good opportunities that were there for you and still are that you didn't take this summer that cost little.
You don't need much money or at all to enjoy yourself much less be locked up with cabin fever all summer nor do you always have to go somewhere to have a good time. You are entering university and becoming an adult.
They don't have the time off kids do either but I get this sense that you feel as though you're owed something spectacular right now that in your view you didn't get be it because of others, money, parents or yourself.
As far as a job goes while you may have tried the mall and conventional places to no avail you could have made money teaching kids to swim, tutoring kids and teens in math, science or other subject you might be good in, mowing lawns and babysitting for example.
You could have joined many different courses offered for very little money that your city or town offers teens and adults over the summer and all times a year for that matter. You can usually find acting such as improv classes,cooking, art, tennis, basketball, self-defense, swim lessons and what have you. You could have enrolled and meet new friends.
Speaking of swimming you can usually go to an indoor city or town pool daily in fact for rec or lane swims for a few dollars here and there per swim or buy a pass good for a month or several in fact for something to do. I'm sure if you wanted a pass for all summer or a few months even now that your parents would help there.
Going to the movies is something you could have done weekly or as often as possible for something to do. The best way is if you find a place with current movies that has a discount Tuesday eg. all films $5 (it goes that low) or around there or has student pricing. Again, if you put $100 of your own money or saved it or asked parents for a loan you could get 10 movies out of that rather easily.
If there was/is an amusement park accessible in your city by public transit you could have bought a monthly or weekly pass and head to it if you put out $100 or had parents help for a season pass and go as many times per summer as you wanted.
Back at home there could also be a local theater perhaps with concerts and other productions that don't have to cost a lot to see. You could explore something new there. You may have joined a community theater group either acting or doing behind the scenes stuff and still can. See if there is a small community radio station too as they need help regardless of being on air and same for a Cable 10 station with volunteers your age. There's a ton of stuff you can see and do and discover and investigate more about on your own.
Let's address parents for a moment. They aren't responsible for making your summer awesome or making it suck. That's on you and same deal for friends you can't connect with. You have to go about doing your own thing at 17-years-old as an adult would to entertain or enlighten yourself. You can always turn down parents if you want to be elsewhere.
Also, if you had a transit pass and a bit of money you could go out checking historical sites such as forts, Niagara Falls as an example or new places you have never been by yourself on your own for something to do.
When it comes to jobs the key is you may need to take the job nobody wants. For example being a student painter, working fast-food, or cleaning houses even with a partner. All of theses jobs constantly hire young people for summer and then lose them in the fall. If you can work some nights and weekends now you can build up your cash supply.
The best place that isn't awful is movie theaters. Walk in to any one of them and chat with a manager. Often you can get hired on the spot there as they will desperately need people come September.
Also, people hiring you can sense anger you may have about anything, fear, desperation for a gig so be sure you go in with a sunny attitude and perky because a lot of these places depend on guest interaction and they want to see that people have no trouble relating to you.
I think when it comes to summer, Christmas or anything you want to do for that matter is find a way to earn money and use it to accomplish goals or do all the things you want to do in the future away from family. This way you will get to do what you couldn't do this summer next time.
The next few weeks and months will be an exciting adventure for you at university where you will meet a host of new people and really discover who you are and where you are going. That will be invaluable and make up for any disappointment you may feel now.
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I can't think of any feedback that will make you feel better right now and of course there is no way to go back and re-do your summer differently.
Since you stated you can't wait for school to start, I tried relating that to myself.
I had some summers that got boring for me too and looked forward to school. Thinking back, I realize that at least for myself part of the issue was a lack of routine or structure to my days and that can weigh heavily on a person. The father in a family that gets laid off and no longer has his routine with a job can go thru the same thing as you, or the couple who retired after having their daily routines with a job find that after they've accomplished the few goals they had with all their free time, they get bored, restless and feel a need for a new meaning or direction in life.
I can't address friends not wanting to keep in touch because I just don't know their particular personalities or character or even what their summer looked like schedule wise but yes it sucks if not a single person Wanted to contact you and it had to be you making first contact.
You just may be somewhat like me, needing a good balance between free time and structured time. When you find yourself ever again in a period of time where nothing really is planned, or planned for you by family, etc... it might be a good idea to start preparing ahead for those times you know may be depressing...like winter/holiday vacation and spring or summer breaks. Depending on what you plan to study, perhaps if you don't find a job, try finding a company/business with jobs in it that pertain to your degree you are going for, and go to them volunteering some of your time, a couple hours daily doing whatever chores they have for you during these breaks. Its a good way to have something to put on a resume in the future after graduating to be able to show what jobs you did volunteered work in that pertains to the degree.
Yeah, I know...thats not fun entertaining stuff. I don't know you but there must be some hobbies. You can always join clubs to meet others with the same hobbies and actually have some fun things to look forward to. I'll use a daughter of mine as an example. The family did do camping and some hikes growing up but not enough for her liking. She really liked hiking so when she turned 17/18, she chose to join a hiking club where members who wish to have another hiker or two in their party for safety sake would call on other members to join them. My daugther didn't drive but members who did were picking her up every weekend if not every other weekend and she was having fun. None of her family, just her and the other hiking club members. You might want to think of doing something like that, if not hiking, maybe learn special dancing by taking a short term class in your breaks/summer for dancing to learn salsa or swing dance or yoga or something thru your local college that offers classes like that to general public or often the public pools have classrooms and schedules for that sort of thing. I know cus I've taken classes there. I hope this helps a little so that you don't need to have a repeat of this last summer.
And I hope you make some wonderful new friends in college this fall. Good luck dear!
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