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Am I bisexual or homosexual?
So I am a girl and I've dated 3 guys and 3 girls. I identify as bisexual but have a major preference of girls. I 100% want to end up with a girl in the long term, but I would consider experimenting with guys before settling down- but I don't think I'd ever want to sexually experiment with a guy. And the only guys I have 'crushes' on are celebrities. So if I can be attracted to guys, but only want to end up with a girl- does this mean I'm bi or gay? Opinions would be appreciated- but please no hate. Thanks ^_^
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Its like Razhie said, its never 50-50 if bi sexual. I have known a few women in the past who were clearly bi-sexual, however each had a husband or boyfriend, just one male they could tolerate, well actually came to be in love with but they also had lots of female lovers who were part of their life. On a few occasions, I did ask the males what they thought. One female had told the man before marriage that she was bi and he said he had no problem with it, but it might be another story if it was other men, then he might feel jealous. Another said she didn't confess her secret that she felt bi until after the kids were out of the house. So he and she attended swing clubs for her to have a chance to have her fun and meet women, while he simply sat and chatted or danced with others, not desiring to have sex with any other female than his wife. So don't worry if you find you are sexually attracted to both sexes. In most cases over the coming years, you will become more sure if its one or the other. Right now it sounds like bi with a tendency to desire women more than men, but its possible to find one man when you are ready, to commit to for life. Some people even end up living together as family in a triad. One of one sex and two of the other. I've researched this and found it does work well for some people.
For now, just explore your sexuality. You don't need to give out a label for yourself, just say, I am still exploring and not decided yet. Or if you decide to go with bi for an explanation, if you find in a handful of years you have grown and changed and decided you are most definately gay, that is fine too. But as for where you are at currently, I still stand with bisexual, leaning towards females more than males.
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It's okay to not be sure.
Most bisexuals don't have perfectly even, 50/50 attraction to men and women. Sexual attraction isn't like being served dinner on a flight where you have to choose the chicken or a steak. It's more like a buffet, where lots of thing might look good you, and a few things may look really good.
If you are experiencing sexual attraction to men, then bisexual is going to be a label that will help other people understand what you mean. If you are sexually uninterested in men, then homosexual might be more helpful to let other people understand.
It's really up to you. It's okay not to know. It's also okay to change the label you use as you better understand yourself. Don't stress over this too much.
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If your leanings are 100 per cent of the time to wanting to with women overall as preferable than you are gay. If you have no sexual attraction or interest in that way to men than you aren't bisexual. It's normal to be curious about men or want to experiment but in your heart you have really determined your orientation but haven't applied a label or identified with it yet. That's okay.
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