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i confessed to my classmate (boy) i like him..please hep me :)
im a girl, 3rd in high school ,so i really like my classmate (boy)...i started to have feelings for him in septembe (beginning of school year) and now is end of june(end of my school year) and yesterday i finally confessed to him how i feel about him.. i did it by giving him a note in which i wrote that i like him eg..i felt so relieved giving him that note..and i thought he would text me to say something about it, some reaction, but he didnt..also today at school he said nothing to me ...Why?...i just need to know how he feels about it...today at school, group of our classmates including me and the classmate i like were in the hall, sitting around table (he was sitting on the opposite side from me)and talking , they started talking about what traits do they like about girl /boy...and THAT classmate was talking about what traits does he like about girl..then it was my turn..so i started talking and THAT classmate before my other classmate said i could look into his eyes while saying the traits...and why i was telling traits THAT classmate winked at me..so he probably read the note ...but why didnt he said anything to me about it ..what does he have to say about it ?...why did he wink at me ? . should i say something to him tomorrow at school ? i just need to know how he feels about it before the end of school year which is the next wednesday...i cant spend whole holiday(months) thinking how he feels
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A wink can be meant to convey a variety of things or situations. For me, its been usually some conspirational/private secret or thing beetween me and another person when I did not want others around me to hear. He was acknowledging your note to him. Example: you're invited to eat at a girlfriends house. She knows you hate broccoli but to not offend her mom, you eat a bite and tell her its delicious. Your girlfriend then winks at you, a way to say, I know you don't like it and just said so to not hurt my moms feelings.
Sometimes a person may wink to see how the other person reacts, a positive or negative response from you before they verbally approach you.
Sometimes, a wink is nothing more than an acknowledgement or approval of what you said or were doing. This can be a bit more confusing unless you are really totally aware of exactly what you said or did and how that might have gotten that response.
Heres my example. Long ago I was riding the escalator with my 3 small daughters with me, when I felt someone watching me as I answered one daugther. I looked up to see a good looking man riding the opposite escalator, looking my way and then he winked at me when he had eye contact. Never saw him again to ask, but I choose to take that as several things, He found me attractive as a mom. Lots of moms let their appearance go after they have kids. Or it was a quick silent away to show his approval of how I didnt find it daunting to take my children with me everywhere when most moms my age couldn't handle just the getting kids in and out of car seats and keeping tabs on them, and making sure they behave well in public. It could be he was impressed also by how well my kids were acting. Its not much time, but he was at least conveying his first impression which was a good one and made my day. Obviously, it had a big impact as I still recall it to this day.
Since you gave the note recently before this discussion, I would assume it means that he was simply winking cus it is a secret between you and him. YOu kept mentioning classmates in the discussion but I am not certain whether things were said by the boy you like or by another boy and you are worried if a friend of his saw your note???
It might help to know exactly what was written in your note. If you were expecting a text, it must mean you gave him your cell number or he already had it somehow. Did your note include your number and ask him to call you and let you know if he'd like to spend some time hanging out together this summer. Sharing a piece of information, even just revealing a fact to another does not necessarily mean that there is any need to respons to what they read. Females are different to males how they process info and how they react. His wink may not even let you know whether he likes you in return or not. The only way to find that out is to ask a guy if he wants to hang out with you. If you're not his type, he won't make any kind of move that would encourage you.
If you knew he liked you back but neither of you made any plans to get together at all during the entire summer, will that be good enough for you? I doubt it. Just knowing someone likes me and then doing nothing cus of shyness or a fear of messing up or saying something stupid hold hims or me back, then the entire summer I am not at rest, wondering why if he likes me he's not doing something to show me and spend time with me or at least call or text. Not knowing if a guy likes me is one thing, but knowing and neither of us doing anything to make the next step is a lot worse for me. I was shy and introverted in school so I suffered thru that kind of stuff. Its not until one of you gets brave enough to do more than you have done before you'll find out what you want to know.
The wink is a good sign though. He wanted you to know he was thinking about the note. Now if you had given him a positive sign and winked back at that moment, or at least had a private chat with him right after, he'd know you really are interested. Sometimes, a person at your age range can wonder if a friend or classmate put you up to this, like a truth or dare thing. He may not be sure enough just because you handed him a note. And if you are too scared to give him some other signs of interest, like talking to each other about the subject, then he can't know for sure. Egging on ones friend is the usual stuff kids do in school. I remember two guys who were best friends and they tried to hang out often with me and 3 other girlfriends who were a tight group. The one kept telling me that his friend liked me, did stuff like give him a push when standing close enough so the guy in question would stumble into me. I never got a word from the guy himself whether he liked me or not. So I finally told his friend, "If he really likes me, I need to hear it from him, not from you or anyone else before I'll believe it. You can tell him that." I never heard another thing about it. So I must assume they were only choosing to tease each other that way.
Don't give him room for doubt just because he's being cautious or isnt sure that someone may have put you up to doing this. Try talking to him. I wouldn't mention the note unless he brings it up but you can certainly start a conversation with him. Sometimes, other than being attracted, a guy wants to know if he will like a girls personality and character. What you see at school isn't always who the person really is. Theres our public self and our private self, the one his family knows and best friend knows. So asking if a guy likes you may not be the right question. He may not know if he likes you that way yet and won't unless he has a chance to spend more time hanging out with you. Texting isnt the best way to do that but if its your only choice, its better than nothing. Phone calls are even better and in person, the best.
So, In your chat, try for an answer one way or the other as to whether he'd like to plan to hang out with you this summer for a chance to get to know each other more. If the guy is attracted to your looks, step two to him is getting to know who you are on the inside. A guy can be attracted but once they spend time around, find a certain gal just doesnt hold his interest, not enough in common. Because of this, guys can be cautious to make a move, afraid if they agree to spend time together, a girl will misunderstand that it means he loves her or wants her to be his official girlfriend. Females tend to jump ahead in their conclusions while the guys are not sure yet.
Most guys don't want to hurt a gals feelings, and its hard if the person is nice but not one they are attracted to. Girls get emotional, feel rejected, bad about themselves, may burst into tears, or get angry and vindictive. This is often what guys have faced already or seen their friends face and its always a BIG concern. So whatever you say, if you really want the truth, even if you wont like the answer, then let him know its okay either way. And don't get emotional on him.
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Hm... is he a player? That sounds kind of strange that he winked at you. Because if he didn't like you, he probably wouldn't do that. But if he did like you, he would probably talk to you about the note... right? Personally, if I were you, I wouldn't wanna seem desperate so I wouldn't bring it up... but if he doesn't bring it up by tomorrow, then just talk to him. Because like you said, you don't want to spend time wondering if you never ask.
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