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They just want to screw me
I want to find a boyfriend and be in love. Or at least have some kind of trust/commitment with someone. Every guy I ever go out with only wants to fuck me. I am a virgin. No guy ever lasts more than one or two dates because they just want to fuck me and when they realize it's not going to happen they magically lose interest. I've been on dates/hung out with dozens of guys and this is always the situation. I am not sluttty. I am actually quite modest. I'm introverted and awkward and weird. I can't for the life of me understand why I never attract someone who wants something more than sex. Maybe I should just have sex with all of them and allow my life to be a series of one night stands. Maybe that is my destiny?
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GIRL ALL I GOT TOO SAY IS CONGRATZ YOUR A VERGIN AND YOU SHOULD BE VERY PROUD OF THAT !!!
TRUST AND BELEAVE ME YOU DONT HEAR OF VIRGINS THAT OFTIN. NOW A DAYS EVERYONE GIVES IT UP TOO SOME DOMB LAME WACK GUY , BUT HEY IF SOMEONE REALLY LIKES YOU THERE GOING TO LIKE YOU FOR WHO YOU ARE. THEY SHOULD EVEN LIKE THE FACT THAT YOU STILL A VERGIN ! PLAY HARD TO GET !!!!
DONT JUST GIVE IT UP TO SOME GUY BE SMART AND YOU WILL KNOE WHEN YOUR READY . A GUY WHO WILL NOT LOOSE INTEREST IN YOU AFTER A COUPLE TIMES GOING OUT ON A DATE AND STILL HAVNT GOT THE CHANCE TO GET IN YOUR PANTS BUT STILL CALLS YOU AND IF HE IS SWEET RESPECTFUL NICE FUNNY CARES FOR YOU ECT THEN GIRL MAKE SURE THAT A GUY WILL TREAT YOU GOOD AND MAKE SURE THAT YOU DONT LET THESE GUYS BRAIN WASH YOU CUZ BELEAVE ME THEY WILL SAY ANYTHING LIKE EX I WILL BRING DOWN FOR YOU THE STARS ECT BUT BLAH BLAH BLAH ....
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I think I just corrected my answer to this question from yesterday. I do apologize for answering another question in the box for your question, my mistake and I am really sorry.
As I said I think you may be looking in all the wrong places, not really your fault because that is probably where the guys are. At your age the best places to find guys are mostly what we called meat markets. By the way I'm old enough to be your grandfather.
Sometimes you get lucky and you do find a decent guy or incase of a guy a girl you want to bring home to mom but not always. In general you will find Mr. or Miss right away from these places.
When people ask me where I met my wife I tell them we met in an elevator which is partially true. We worked for an Airline. I worked at the airport and she worked in reservations. We spoke often each day as I checked people in for their flight. I had to go downtown for training and was on my way up to her floor to meet her for the first time. She was on the elevator, I took one look at her and knew who she was and she knew who I was. We each said hello to each other calling each other by name never having been introduced. That was 46 years ago and we have been married for 45 years.
Guys your age and I was certainly one of them at that age are always looking for sex, except when you meet someone that meets the ideals you are looking for. Then the game changes as it did for me. I knew immediately the girl was someone I wanted to get to know better first for I have always believed you must be compatible outside the bedroom. In the bedroom you can learn to be compatible if you can communicate.
Marriages do not last as long as mine has if you can't communicate. Don't give up on your ideals and don't give your virginity away just to have sex. You will be disappointed. Sex for the first time should be a loving experience and that won't happen if you have sex just to loose your virginity.
Below is part of my answer that should have been in the first answer and is now in context in the answer to your first question.
My son finally turned to a dating site. He had a couple of false starts. The girls were all nice and I could see him living out his life with any of them. Though they just didn't or couldn't be fitted to what he was looking for. Then he met my future daughter in-law. They were both looking for the perfect fit but they have been able to change enough (each making a compromise) to be perfect fits to each other. So much so I can see how deeply my son loves her and how much she is in love with him. They are now a perfect fit for each other because they were willing to change just a bit for each other.
You have nothing to lose by going on match.com or any of the other sights and putting your profile on line with what you are looking for. It is my firm belief Mr. Right is out there if you look in the right places. Save your virginity a bit longer. Mr. Right will appreciate you did so and you will have a much better experience when you give him your virginity.
Once again I apologize for yesterdays mistake.
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I love your sense of humor (if im reading that right) its very funny and means you are intelligent and know whats going on. ; )
Sometimes people dont realize the vibes they give off to others, think they are one way and others seeing something else. How you present yourself to the world and the people you associate with COULD play a vital part in this problem. If your meeting guys through parties or friends hooking you up then there in lies your issue. Stop letting them do that if you know they hang around shady people. I know its tempting and easy but it may not be the best way to go.
I only say that because you didnt mention HOW you met all these guys so i figured it needed to be said.
ANYWAY, It doesnt matter how much of an introvert you are, if you have an inviting presents but let it be known that you will have NO games played around you then theres more of a chance you will attract the right guys and the bad ones will be put off by it because they will think "uh oh this girl can totally see right through me" see?
Having guy friends, that you can talk to and make jokes with a great start so if you work and know some and you think about them as FRIENDS and not just someone that might be into you, then you might actually consider stepping out of your comfort zone as well when it comes to what type of guy your attracted to (because you didnt mention that either here) so im kind of just trying to wing it based on what your saying.
Nice guys can also know OTHER nice guys and if you hang out with him you might just find one you like.
What the world see's is what you want them to see, its what you present to the world when you walk out your front door, its the energy you give off, the looks you give strangers weather you look up and acknowledge people or smile at a passing stranger.....these all come into play when it comes to making more friends and eventually relationships.
Consider that the version of yourself that you may be putting out there may not be the version that would attract the type of guys you want. Thats why the shallow ones only try to sleep with you and then if they cant lose interest. If your a modest person, then put what you think is a modest but nice version of yourself out there.
good luck and you can pm me if you need more help ; ) good luck.
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There are plenty of people in the world who can be interested in you as a person and not just as a sex object. Don't let a history of bad dating prospects ruin your whole outlook. Be patient, and don't force it. If you don't want to have sex, don't. It can be frustrating wanting to have a boyfriend and not finding someone who respects your wishes. You might get lonely or sad, but sticking to what you feel is right is important. I know there are others out there who feel the way you do; you will meet them some day. The perfect person for you just hasn't come along yet. Be patient, be confident, and above all, be yourself. Don't be what other people expect you to be unless that's really what you want. And keep in mind that out of the great number of people you have met and have yet to meet in your life, a lot of them are dating just because they want sex. That's how some people are. That's not how everyone is, and you still haven't met most of the people you're going to know for the rest of your life. Keep your chin up, and keep living your life for yourself. The right person may be just around the corner, or they may be far away still. Take care of yourself, and you'll find someone special eventually.
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The answer is very possible depending on some differing factors. One thing that does change based on today's definition of virginity is, you are no longer a virgin regardless of whether or not he broke your Hymen. The fact that he penetrated your vagina with his penis says you are no longer a virgin.
If retaining you Hymen so you could say you were still a virgin you may as well let him fully enter you and pop your Hyman. For as I said your no longer a virgin and depending if he had any precum you could be pregnant. Precum has enough semen in it to make a woman pregnant. In order to get pregnant for most women you should be in the 7th to 21st day of your menstrual cycle. It is during this time that you ovulate. Depending on when you ovulate and eject an egg there is a 6 day window, 3 days before and 3 days after that the egg is viable for fertilization. The lifetime of the sperm is 3 days.
The only way to make sure you are not pregnant is to take a home pregnancy test. Without knowing when your last period was, when this event took place I would have to say there is a 50/50 chance you could be pregnant. Hopefully your not pregnant.
From now on until you are married and ready to have a baby, even if you are on birth control, look at the penis as a loaded gun. Make sure the barrel end is covered by a condom. He may not like it but he is not the one who gets pregnant.
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