E-mail: weirdnumbers@yahoo.com
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Member Since: August 16, 2015
Answers: 3
Last Update: March 14, 2016
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Hi 17/F .. I'm just going to get right to the point. I love my best friend, we are like sisters and my whole family love her. We play hockey together and her mom is an employee at my mom's business. My mom pushes me really hard at practice and in games. I play because I want to prove to her that I can. I asked her to make me an appointment at the physiotherapist(R250) because I have a lot of problems with chin splits. She said no I only want to waste money. At our match saterday, 5 min into the game, my friend fell and hurt her arm. My mom took her to the doctor while I was still playing( I was sad because I really was playing my heart out). Her treatment was quite expensive(R1000) and my mom just gave the money without hesitation. She keeps telling my friend how good she is doing and she only screams at my for 1 or 2 mistakes. I don't want to talk to her because then she will be very very mad. PLEASE help me. I cry every night.. I just want her to also love me and see what I'm doing..
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Your mother was kind to take care of your friend and be supportive of her. Though it seems obvious to you, it's possible that your mother doesn't even realize how differently she treats the two of you. We have a tendency to develop blind spots with the people closest to us. Especially with family members that we've been with for so long. It may be that she pushes you harder than others to succeed, but that doesn't mean she doesn't love you. It may mean just the opposite, in fact. I understand that you don't want to upset her by bringing up the difference in the way she treats the two of you. You may want to say something to her anyway, so she knows how you feel. When you talk to her, don't be confrontational, and don't accuse her of anything. Tell her you love her and you're worried that she might not love you. Don't be angry. The more you accuse someone of something, the more they feel they have to defend themselves, and that leads to negativity and bitterness. Just try to be honest without getting upset. Instead of saying, "You treat her better than me," say something like, "I feel like my hard work goes unnoticed," or similar. When you talk about yourself and your perspective rather than about her and her actions, she's less likely to feel like you're attacking her. Help her to understand your feelings and where you're coming from, but also keep an open mind. You should pay attention to what she says and try to understand her perspective as well. The better you understand each other, the easier it will be to communicate without getting angry or hurt. I know your feelings will always come into play and things won't become perfect instantly, but perhaps this will help you to explain your concerns to your mother without stressing out over it too much.
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I want to find a boyfriend and be in love. Or at least have some kind of trust/commitment with someone. Every guy I ever go out with only wants to fuck me. I am a virgin. No guy ever lasts more than one or two dates because they just want to fuck me and when they realize it's not going to happen they magically lose interest. I've been on dates/hung out with dozens of guys and this is always the situation. I am not sluttty. I am actually quite modest. I'm introverted and awkward and weird. I can't for the life of me understand why I never attract someone who wants something more than sex. Maybe I should just have sex with all of them and allow my life to be a series of one night stands. Maybe that is my destiny? (link)
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There are plenty of people in the world who can be interested in you as a person and not just as a sex object. Don't let a history of bad dating prospects ruin your whole outlook. Be patient, and don't force it. If you don't want to have sex, don't. It can be frustrating wanting to have a boyfriend and not finding someone who respects your wishes. You might get lonely or sad, but sticking to what you feel is right is important. I know there are others out there who feel the way you do; you will meet them some day. The perfect person for you just hasn't come along yet. Be patient, be confident, and above all, be yourself. Don't be what other people expect you to be unless that's really what you want. And keep in mind that out of the great number of people you have met and have yet to meet in your life, a lot of them are dating just because they want sex. That's how some people are. That's not how everyone is, and you still haven't met most of the people you're going to know for the rest of your life. Keep your chin up, and keep living your life for yourself. The right person may be just around the corner, or they may be far away still. Take care of yourself, and you'll find someone special eventually.
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I'm 16 years old, I had asked a question a few weeks ago because I was wondering if I could of been pregnant. I took a pregnancy test and it came back positive. I know sometimes the tests could be false, but I'm nauseous in the mornings, hungry all the time, and no sign of my period at all so I think the test is accurate. I don't know how to tell my parents, they're so strict.. (link)
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The most important thing is for you to be honest and up front, and as soon as possible. Hiding the truth from them is only going make you stress out more, and the longer you wait, the more difficult it will be to tell them. I don't know if the young man in question is someone who will be a part of your life and take responsibility for his part in this situation; I don't know whether you plan to see the pregnancy through, give the child up for adoption, or raise the child yourself. No matter what choices you make from here on out, though, your family is going to be your strongest support system. They may be very upset with you right now, but you're going to need their help no matter what you do in the future. Teenage pregnancy is a difficult thing to deal with, and you're going to need all the help you can get. STAY IN SCHOOL; having an education is still of prime importance. Find out what other resources are available as far as counseling and financial assistance; you're going to want that kind of help, too. But definitely talk to your parents as soon as possible. They can help you through all of this, and though you're afraid of their reaction right now, you'll be glad of it later.
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