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Should I try dating a girl or have I just not found the right guy yet?
I'm 21, in college and questioning my sexuality (as I have been for years).
In the past I've had two serious relationships, have gone on several dates with men who didn't work out, and I'm actually currently in a relationship (which I'm seriously considering ending). All of these have been with men and now I feel like I would be happier with a woman.
Sexually, I'm attracted to both men and women, but prefer the female body to a males. As for everything else, I also feel as though I enjoy the company of women to men.
I enjoy feminine activities, shopping, doing makeup/nails, reading, interior decorating, cooking, eating out, gardening, arts and crafts, walks on the beach, ect. I know that these things aren't just attributed to females and that everybody is different, but when it comes down to it most men don't like doing them as I've run into time and time again. I'm so tired of being with a guy and being told he won't do anything "girly" with me because everything I like to do tends to be "girly".
I tend to wish I was holding hands or laying in bed with another female when I'm with my boyfriend. I have such better conversation with other girls and always have more fun around other girls.
When it comes down to it. I can't see myself spending my entire life with a man. I keep giving it another chance with men because I always think "maybe this one will be different" but I always wind up wishing I was spending time with a girl.
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I think there are several things going on here.
It seems like you are attracted to men on some level or else you wouldn't have dated one.
Now let's not mistake that attraction because you haven't found someone that shares your interests.
There are men out there that do have "feminine" interests
So it's quite possible you have not found the best man for you.
Now as you mention you are also very attracted to females.
So ofcourse this seems like a better fit . However some females prefer a man with more "masculine" interests.
It's nice to have someone you can relate to however SOME women are turned off by this . So please keep this in mind.
It's quite possible you are bisexual. So while you are exploring your sexuality I would continue to date women and men.
Don't drive yourself crazy if things don't work out because this is normal. As a matter of fact you have a bigger dating pool which is nice.
So maybe a more "feminine" man and or maybe a more masculine woman... maybe
you will see how things pan out . Just concentrate on finding someone that will treat you right and that you share SOME interests with.
Leave the rest to friends!
Have some great girl friends and guy friends and that will fill in gaps.
Good luck to you and remember to have fun! you will find the right person and figure all of this out! xx
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You may be a bisexual person but are you a true lesbian; that I'm not sure of. Scientists now believe that Lesbians and gays are born that way. It is not something they become or a disease that can be cured. They are not as sure of Bisexuality is something they are not so sure of. They think it may be a learned experience though they have not ruled out that like being lesbian or gay it is in the DNA from birth.
Just about every guy I know hates doing girly stuff myself included. Just as many girls hate doing guy stuff. Though when you love someone and I mean truly love someone you make compromises. I have been married for 45 years, you don't stay married for this long without making compromises.
You compromise on just about everything from where to go to dinner and on vacation to what color to paint the walls. When I shop I want to go in find what I want and get out. Typical male. My wife likes to shop and look at things. We compromise and shop then do something I want.
Your feelings are that of a typical women from that point. Your relationship feelings I would say may put you in the category of being bisexual. Everyone has different feelings about bisexuality. Mine are what happens in the privacy of one's own home is strictly their business. I have no problem with people being Gay, Lesbian, bisexual or transgender.
My suggestion is simple. Do what feels right for you though I would suggest you not give up on men altogether. I feel you will or still need the male touch from time to time if so that is just fine.
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Date the person you want to date.
Honestly, when you are confused like you are now, it might be best to stop thinking about the rest of your life, and stop worrying so much about what junk they have below thier belt, and just find someone you want to date (who also wants to date you).
That might mean being single for a while, but it's better than dating someone you don't want to be dating anyways.
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