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having 2 best friends are not a good idea.
so i have 2 friends, A, and B. A and I are closer and but B still counts as our best friend. so the thing is whenever we 3 are together, A kept on trying to be in the middle and keeps talking to B as if she wants B only to herself, so i feel kind of isolated. besides, i dont want B to feel closer to A than me, because it is not fair, it would be better if we like each other fairly.
A talks to B about their common interests for example a famous youtuber called pewdiepie. B liked him for so long, but A just recently liked him and i know before she doesnt even watch his videos. one morning we were walking to school and A in the middle as usual, was talking about how she likes pewdiepie's videos and B agreeing, and I was like hey A i didnt know u like pewdiepie? and she replied omg i liked him for so long already and i was like okay...
but i know its just a recent and vague interest because i taught her about famous youtubers and without me, A will still be the lame nerd that she used to be and read books in her free time.
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Liking each other 'fairly' doesn't mean things won't change
or shift, or that people won't have different levels of interest. Fair, doesn't mean exactly the same. It's means hoenstly and with respect and kindess.
You are the one being unfair, when you start acting like a mean girl and insulting A for her interests and calling her name like 'lame nerd'. If I were A, and you were treating me that way, I'd probably want to spend more time with B too!
This is the sort of thing you need to be mature enough to deal with—your friends also have relationships with each other. Stop being so threatened and start being a good friend to maintain the special friendships you have with each of them. Fair means respect and kindness. If you act out with this mean girl shit of jealousy and judgement, you're not going to build healthy friendships with either of them.
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Hey!
First of all, I don't think you'd be a very good friend if you're going to talk behind A's back like that. Second of all, if you're going to be jealous of your friend and act as if you're so much better than her, then find different friends. I did not like how you called YOUR BEST FRIEND a lame nerd who reads books. If that's how you treat your so-called best friend than you better start finding new friends because that's just messed up! Honestly, you just seem really cocky. If you really want to you need to sit down and talk to the two of them. Don't be rude about it, but sort things out and explain to them how it makes you feel, because they're not you, they aren't supposed to know how you feel if you don't tell them. When you're explaining yourself don't make yourself become the victim because no one in this situation is a victim, it's just a little misconception. I hope this helps!
-Swimmer133
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