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Friends at school
im girl, 3rd year in high school and im shy...i have no close friend in my class... i finally feel i can have close friend in my class..im sitting with girl called Kaja...im sitting with her only because the classmate(girl) she was sitting last year, Dia went to study for 1 school year to Norway. they are really good friends. I really started to get comfortable with her, we laugh and etc. But I am worried that when Dia comes back Kaja will sit with her again :/..I finally figured out that i want to be friends with these two girls because i am really comfortable with..because its hard for me to get comfortable with someone bc im really shy. I am also snapchatting with Dia while she is in Norway.. Im want to text her on Facebook but i dont want her to think that im intruding between Kaja...but i really want to like friends with them....and also when im sitting with kaja at school i just want to take spontaneous selfie with her but i dont know ho she would react..and maybe post it on Facebook, or i would want to ask her if she would go to cinema, or just to hang out ...but im really scared and shy to ask her ...please help me :)
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Hey!
I was just like you in Elementry school. I was always super shy and didn't have any close friends. Going into High school, it was completely different for me because I was no longer with the same people. That gave me another chance to get out of my comfort zone. Don't be afraid to go and introduce yourself to ask if you can hang out with them. Who cares what people think! If you don't try news things and get out of your comfort zone once in a while you can never learn from your mistakes, and who knows? Maybe you'll enjoy it! IF you ask them, and they're rude to you, or they say no then screw it, they're not worth your time.
Anyways I hope you go and try new things, and be confident in yourself! :)
Best wishes!
-Swimmer133
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Yeah i see no reason why you this girl that SO FAR has seemed to really warm up to you would go and start saying no to stuff all the sudden!
Also, if you know that this girl is good friends with another girl, you should try to start talking about her before she even comes back so that when she DOES come back, they'll want to include you into the friendship circle!
You cant really do anything wrong if your "just trying to be nice" ; )
Add them BOTH on facebook if you want! if your a friend of a friend then there should be nothing wrong with that.
The best way to start a good friendship is to get people to laugh and joke with you on things! thats pretty simple, then play off it and keep the jokes going. Do it with everyone and soon youll discover you have yourself LOTS of friends.
(I was popular in high school ok, not to brag here) but that was my secret to making LOTS of friends. even with popular people! whenever you get a chance to catch them alone, ask if you can borrow a pen or something, then keep it and return it to them a day or two later while their infront of all their friends! act like you have a casual friendship with them when you do it, and smile and say hi at everyone around them, then say see ya later! and leave.
When it got to the point where i knew almost everyone in my high school and a few close friends would ask me "why" i was talking to this person or that person (because they didnt like them for some reason) i would just say, well i know alot of people and that doesnt mean their ALL my friends! and laugh it off. Whatever personal problem one of your friends has with someone else that you happen to talk to sometimes is between them and that person and has nothing to do with you and you should say that.
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Hey!
You seem like a nice girl, and hey, it's totally normal to be shy! I went through situations like this when I was younger. Who wouldn't want to go to the cinema or hang out after school? Sounds like fun. There's nothing wrong with wanting to make friends, and I'm sure Kaja will be happy to hang out and be closer friends. She might be wondering herself if you would like to do something fun after school, and when you ask her, she'll most likely be happy about it. Just enjoy yourselves, keep having fun and laughing together!
Hope this helps! If I didn't answer properly you can give me some more info by clicking on my name at the top of this answer, and then clicking 'get advice' when you're on my advice column!
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