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Do you ever feel this way?


Question Posted Sunday January 31 2016, 7:33 pm

Do you ever feel like life is just so totally meaningless and you're overwhelmed by the futility of it all? Your thoughts race but you're not even thinking about anything really, and you're just so full of the sense of inherent worthlessness, so you just lay in bed for a few hours, and then you come back to earth. And it's an odd feeling while you have it, it's just nervous energy and a drive to do something but you don't know what, but it's even worse to be grounded again in the concrete world, to be content with the mundane mediocrity of life.

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Dragonflymagic answered Tuesday February 2 2016, 9:14 pm:
I love how Rainhorse answered you. He's got a great way to look at the situation and I can truly say he's right, that at times, all people have their periods in life or days when they question life, feel overwhelmed and it feels so futile.
I can get overwhelmed by emotion of how badly things are going in the world, the economy so bad and its so hard to make a living that every person needs 2 jobs to barely break even and each person is one paycheck away from being homeless. I currently live out of my van with the husband. I work part time but with the ways things are in this world, I can't get ahead very easily. Yes, we both could choose to have a full time and part time job in our fifties, work ourselves to the bone, maybe end up run down and very sick or ill in health, never have time for each other but we can say we have an apartment! Those I know who have apartments are only there to sleep at night and gone all the rest of time working just for an existance. We are not willing to lose our health and not have time for each other. Its a 2nd marriage for both and way better than our firsts so we truly treasure what we have. We can look back at just our own parents in the different time growing up and see how successful they were and its something that no longer is a reality unless we win a little something at the lottery.
Then I see a movie or read a book about something terrible that humans have hidden from the public, horribe ways of treating other humans, the biggest we all know about, the persecution of jews and concentration camps but I've recently read something just as bad and it made me heart sick and crying for 2 days for the people my age and older who lived thru such terrible treatment. It made me realize that pretty much all humans are capable of turning on each other, they just need the right thing or event to break down their moral fiber and cause them to react like animals with the fight or flight complex. It doesnt matter how good a person we all are, when our very existance is threatened, we all will fight to save our lives or want to give up. I can think of worse for myself like being blind or in a wheelchair while having to live out of my van. You may have to look hard for a few things that you can say you're truly grateful for but in the whole existanc of your life, it seems like a drop. I may feel overwhelmed and certainly agree life seems futile at times but I also believe that as souls, we are here to learn, and become more like our creator and its hard to learn when everything is rosy. I think back to childhood when times were easier. The greatest achievements of personal growth for me have been from my mid thirties on and I am still making them. It takes tremendous forces in the earths crust to transform carbon into diamonds. I like to think of us all as diamonds in the making and if not for this harsh life on earth that seems meaningless, we might not grow. Don't get me wrong, my personal growth triumphs seem like so few compared to the mundane daily schedule of my life, but thats the way it is for all of us. I think it would be equally overwhelming to learn and achieve a new success on a monthly or daily basis. I had one year like that and I can tell you it was just as overwhelming as the hardships of life...feeling like I was on a rollercoaster going faster and faster with no ability to slow down or stop the thing so I could get off. I felt just as out of control with all the ground shaking break throughs I was having all too many and too quick all together. So trust me, versions of these feelings can occur on both ends.

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rainhorse68 answered Monday February 1 2016, 6:04 am:
I think it's probably fair to say that, yes, most of us feel this way sometimes. There may be a definite reason which we can attribute it too. A reason we cannot clearly identify and link, but which is causing it. Or no reason at all. It might be a good idea to keep a record of it. How severe is the feeling? Like, are you finding it difficult to function, even impossible, or can you still manage to get through the essential. And also, how frequent are the episodes? Over that month, would it be some days, most days or every day? Then evaluate things. Not particularly severe, and only on some days....nothing to worry about. More severe, and more frequent....think about it. Can you identify a reason? Can you work at resolving or easing the cause? If you find the symptoms are severe and it's every day, or nearly every day, then it is a good idea to arrange a chat with a doctor/health-care professional soon. It's important to be totally honest in your records. Don't over or under rate the severity and frequency. Our lives can often be mediocre, and mundane I'm afraid when we look at it. And much of what we do daily can often be handed over to routine, the 'robot of habit' as you might say. Not very inspiring, exciting or challenging! But not an indication that your life is meaningless/worthless/futile either mate. So, how about you start to quantify how severe and how often for a start, and go from there? Try and stay positive. These thoughts are always introspective, kind of looking into yourself and your life, asking questions. We are very much social creatures at heart so reach out and talk to and interact with others as much as possible. Friends, family and so on. It helps keep things in perspective. When we examine life, our own life, how we feel etc in isolation we lose this (important) perspective. The desire to 'do something' is a positive force, even if you have seem to have no specific direction to channel it into right now. So that's a good thing. There is a 'horse and rider' analogy in our mental processes and make-up. I won't complicate stuff too much if I can help it. Just think of one 'part' of our minds being the 'horse' providing the energy and motive power. The other 'part' is the 'rider', the one who guides and directs the energy (the horse) in a particular direction or on a definite course. And of course, it's great when the horse and rider work together. Possibly you're a little at-odds with your horse right now, not quite working together, that's all.

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