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i want a baby
my husband said that it will happen when it happeneds what does that mean in the long run?
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Well, be sure he's on the same page and really wants children cus he may not have a great interest in kids and is only considering letting nature take its course so you have one to satisfy you. It could be that attitude is behind what he said or as adviceman said, he doesnt want love making to become mechanical and timed so its more about him doing his duty and performing as the inseminator. That takes all the joy out of love making for lots of people even the females.
There are lots of ovulation and fertility tracking help to read about online. I will list a couple and you can look up more. But I would do as adviceman said, dress sexy, and lure your man to wanting to make love without knowing that it happens to be the time you are ovulating. He doesnt need to know its the right time for it to work for you. Just track it by what ever methods you decide to choose.
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Lastly, I will mention that if your husband wears briefs, rather than boxers or no underwear, that briefs can temporarily prevent a male from having enough sperm. I've heard sheep farmers use this method of binding the anatomy of male sheep closer to the body to prevent them being as fertile, leaving only the choice sheep to impregnate the females. It works the same in men, the temps are higher when its all held close to the body and less sperm are produced due to the hotter temps but it reverses as soon as they are left to...ahem...dangle naturally. So if he's wearing briefs, you might explain and coax him to wear boxers until you do become pregnant if tracking the ovulation times for you doesnt work. If both ways dont work, then it will be time to see a fertility specialist.
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What this statement means to me is. If you are not on birth control then he is saying. He does not what to make love on some type of schedule to try and have a baby. He would rather just go along with your lives making love when and where the moment is right. If one of those moments just happens to be when your fertile then great you are going to have a baby.
I think people feel making a baby is as easy as making love. For about 80% to 85% of couples it is. For others it is not and then trying to have a baby become all encompassing to the point making love is no longer making love it is sex with him being an inseminator.
Men also worry about if they are fertile. There are many things that can cause a man to be infertile. If your not trying to have a baby then he doesn't have to blame infertility for why you are not conceiving it can just be rotten timing. Now I can't say that this is what he is worried about, though I know as a man we all are concerned with this.
There are two things you can do about this.
1. Talk to him and ask him if he is worried about being infertile. There are ways to find out about his fertility and yours as well. If either one of you are infertile there are options. Sperm or egg donations and adoptions to mention just three.
2. The other option is you should know when you ovulate. If you do then you should imitate love make a couple of time three days before and three days after when you should ovulate. In this way it is not a chore or schedule for him to react to. He just enjoys the fact that you want to be intimate. Make sure to dress for the occasion with some sexy nightwear.
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well, thats hard to answer. Maybe hes not in a rush? maybe hes feeling deep down like things are not right for a baby right now? money? insurance? life style?
Do you already have ONE and your asking for another? maybe hes feeling like one is enough for now??
Your question is very vague given the question so i would need more details here before i could give any real helpful kind of advice that you could apply.
These are all things you need to talk to him about, because if your not on the same page over something this important then it could cause huge problems down the road.
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