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I am married but my husband is impotent then i met a guy who was same of my age and we become a gf and bf or friends then we get into the point that we have sex thing and after that i didnt know that he was capturing what we doing nude photos and one time he ask me to come see him and i resist and what he did he blow out and send to my husband emails that me and him having sex and even sent to my friends inbox facebook telling on the nude pics that inam a whore because i did not meet him.so what should i do?
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ok from what im reading right now you're cheating on your husband? Well in my opinion, in no way is that ok ever. I do not support unfaithful spouses and I think he deserves to know.
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You can't do a lot of things at this point but you can tell them to delete the nudes and the guy who sent them punch him in the face grab his phone and delete the photos.
Now since your husband saw the nudes and he is probably mad at you explain why you did it then say your sorry and that you understand if he wanted a divorce.
Look I'm not sure what you should do but you do the thing you think is the best thing to do and have no regrets meaning you have to fix this problem the people giving you advice can only help you a bit we can only push you a bit that's all CIAO!
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Depending on the laws in your state you may have both criminal and civil charges you can bring against him. Taking sexually explicit photos of someone without their knowledge or consent is generally considered illegal. Publishing them is also considered illegal. His sending them to your friends may be considered publishing them. Using the internet for that purpose could amount to wire fraud as well. With the exception of taking the pictures without your consent the rest of the charges will depend on state law. He may have also violated federal law but getting a Federal District attorney to prosecute him will be hard you best way to file charges is through your own state legal system.
Now if he threatened to release them unless you continues to have sex with him this too would be a crime of sexual harassment. You have every right to say no to anyone at anytime even if you a have had sex with them in the past or in the middle of sex. You have the right to change your mind.
My advice is to call the police and have an officer come to the house to take a report. The report will go to detectives who will interview him and decide what if any charges should be brought against him or if they should make an immediate arrest. Then you local State or District attorney will review the case and decide which charges to take to court.
You also may have several civil charges you can bring against him. No matter the outcome of the criminal charges. In a civil trial the degree of proof is less and he must prove his innocence there is no assumed innocence in a civil trial.
For this I suggest you speak with an Attorney. Most Attorneys do not charge for a first visit to see if you have a case they can peruse for you. If your case is viable and the award is big enough they may offer to take the case on contingency which means they take a percentage of whatever they win for you.
As for your husband and marriage. You did not talk about how this has affected your marriage. I'm sure your husband's impotency is the trigger of your affair as we all have sexual needs. If your husband understands this then maybe you can salvage your marriage.
Has your husband seen a doctor for this. There have been great strides made in the past few years in the area of male impotency. IF his problem is Erectile Dysfunction there is a lot that can be doe to assist him. There is also a considerable amount of medical problems that can cause erectile dysfunction. Most of them if not all of them can be treated successfully.
If your husband hasn't seen a doctor or seen one recently then have him see a doctor again. You should go with him and talk to the doctor and tell the doctor how your husband's impotency lead you to having an affair if it was truly the cause. The doctor may be able to refer you to someone to help you navigate the elephant in the room and get your marriage back on track.
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Well what you could do is talk to a lawyer about suing this guy for doing this to you because you didnt know he was doing it and didnt not give consent.
Im surprised honestly that he didnt black mail you first with threatening to spread photos around but i guess he didnt even want to do THAT much work.
What you need to do next is sit down with your husband if hes still willing and have a conversation with him about "needs" Stay CALM during this conversation and hear him out. Let him talk but also ask him to hear YOU out as well. Explain to him that we all have needs, and that because this issue (im assuming) wasnt addressed in a timely manner, you gave into your human urges, but that it doesnt mean that you dont still care for him. Theres lots of married couples that have an issue with ED and DO really love each other and make GREAT companions, but also understand that humans have basic needs and one of them IS sexual. Weather people like to admit that or not, it is.
Ask him if hes willing to try to fix things and go to counseling because if you really DO still truely love him and this is the ONLY thing thats in the way for you two then this marriage may be worth salvaging because you ONLY did this because you couldnt get it from him and nothing more. There may not have been any emotional cheating and even though sex IS a large part of a solid marriage, its not ALL there is to it. Its also companionship, kindness, caring, devotion, and so much more.
When your friends if they saw the photos and want an explanation, then im afraid to say this but, its time to get real and just be honest. I mean what else can you really do in a situation like that BUT just SAY what happened and that youve been going through alot and just didnt want to burden anyone else with what was going on. The best thing you can do is just be honest with people (providing that you do it in a kind manner so that they can tell that your genuine) If people feel that you need them for emotional support and your trying to lean on them for that, then they may be more sympathetic to your situation with all this and want to help you move forward and not scorn you for your actions instead.
i hope this helps
good luck ; )
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