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When my nephew was about four months old, my sister told me that she and her husband had named me as my nephew's legal guardian in their will simply because I was already his godmother. I was very surprised and touched, especially because at the time, I felt I was the most unqualified of anyone who could have taken him. I was 28 years old, unmarried, temporarily unemployed, didn't have my own place to live, and had zero experience caring for a child on my own. I thought they were crazy for choosing me. I was the only adult in the baby's life who had ANY of those problems and I lived nine hours away from them and still do, as opposed to my brother in law's entire side of the family.
Recently, I had to rewrite my will and when naming a legal guardian for MY children in the event of my death, my sister wasn't even on the list of prospective guardians and it makes me feel very guilty, especially since she and her husband obviously had so much faith in me to take good care of their son when they made their will. The thing is, my sister has nothing to do with it. I think she's a wonderful mother and there are few people I'd trust as much to raise my children. It's my brother in law, who is the problem.
I do NOT want my brother in law, Matthew to raise my children for many reasons, including that I just don't want my kids to turn out like Matthew. He's rude, anti social, vulgar foul mouthed, selftish, arrogant, disrespectful, and shallow. He drinks too much and pushes others around him to do the same and he has an anger issue. I would really hate for my kids to develope these qualities.
I also don't want him to push my kids to be like him the way he pushes my nephew, Lane to do so. Matthew is a very avid hunter and fisherman and has not given Lane the choice not to take part in those activities as well. I have a lot of kids, almost all boys, and only one has the slightest interest in hunting while none of them like fishing. They like target shooting, but not hunting. Most of my boys are athletes and very much like sports. One (who I love very much and don't mean to insult) is kind of a nerd and likes things like comic books and video games, and one is into theater. My daughter likes things like swimming and creative writing. I want my kids to be able to be themselves and to do the things that make them happy. Matthew doesn't seem interested in letting Lane do what makes him happy and I'm afraid he'll be the same way with my children. I'm afraid he won't let the athletes play sports because their practices and games would interfere with hunting season. I'm also afraid he'll destroy my nerdy son's self esteem and make him think it's a bad thing to like the things they like and that he'll keep my son who likes theater from participating in it.
Finally, I don't think Matthew likes my kids very much. He doesn't like me very much, so I think my kids are disliked by association. I don't want him raising them, but I feel bad that it'll mean my sister wouldn't get them either. They're not even on the list of prospective guardians. I named my parents as the guardians, my in laws as the guardians if my parents can't do it, my husband's two brothers after them, and two of my uncles and two of my aunts after them. My question is, SHOULD I feel bad about not making my sister the guardian of my children when she made me the guardian of hers? Am I justified? And how do I tell my sister if she ever asks me who the guardians. (link)
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Well if you don't want to then don't. It's as simple as that you should't feel bad sure she made you the guardian of her kid but she did that cause she wanted to and if she asks you who the guardians say the truth and say your sorry if she wanted to be the guardian but what's done is done.
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I was on the phone with my boyfriend last night. I was at my best friend's birthday party before he called. My best friend is gay and my boyfriend knows that. He said how being gay is sick and how those people should be killed. Needless to say I was shocked. I tried reasoning with him but to no avail. He even got mad and wanted to skip meeting me for about a week. I called him out on that and he said he will meet me after all. I just won't ever feel comfortable around him again. I love him very much,but him saying such things about my best friend is disgusting. He would hurt a gay person for no reason. What if he kills me too? I am,quite honestly,terrified. Do you think this is a red flag? Should I run from him while I still can? (link)
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Tell him about how gay people are no different then other people because someone could probably say to him ew people who date are nasty someone could say that and tell him "How would you feel if you were gay and you get people yelling at you for being gay or tell you that you should die" He would probably respond like "I'm not gay and never will be and they should all die"or something I don't know just tell him that being gay is not bad and say I'm going to give you time to think about what you said about gay people.
If he changes his mind and you love him stay with him if he doesn't change his mind but you still love him then stay with him a bit longer until you are sure you don't want to be his girlfriend anymore.
Or just dump him.
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I am married but my husband is impotent then i met a guy who was same of my age and we become a gf and bf or friends then we get into the point that we have sex thing and after that i didnt know that he was capturing what we doing nude photos and one time he ask me to come see him and i resist and what he did he blow out and send to my husband emails that me and him having sex and even sent to my friends inbox facebook telling on the nude pics that inam a whore because i did not meet him.so what should i do? (link)
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You can't do a lot of things at this point but you can tell them to delete the nudes and the guy who sent them punch him in the face grab his phone and delete the photos.
Now since your husband saw the nudes and he is probably mad at you explain why you did it then say your sorry and that you understand if he wanted a divorce.
Look I'm not sure what you should do but you do the thing you think is the best thing to do and have no regrets meaning you have to fix this problem the people giving you advice can only help you a bit we can only push you a bit that's all CIAO!
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The one who loves you is the one who cares for you//// (link)
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Maybe, Maybe not you may never know it depends so it's not always true but sometimes it is true.
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i´m a girl, 3rd year in high school, I really like him but the problem is that he is not nice to me..I mean when i say something he always have something to say to me and he laughs at me, but when some other girl is saying something he is quiet..or we have som really fat girl and he doesnt make any comments in front of her, he laughs behind her back with boys, but when im around he doesnt have problem telling it to my face, something about my weight (im not really that fat), it hurts me because i really like him, last year he was sending me cute snaps of him and his dog and now doesnt send me any snaps :/ i dont know what happened...once i told my twin brother (we go to same class) that he is always sending me pics of his dog.but i didnt mean it as a complain..and my brother told him about it (they are best friends) ans i hate him for it...i dont know why my classmate started to behave different to me..even my friends noticed he´s been acting different to me than last year... and i cant tell him ot text him anything..because like i said he and my brother are best friends...and they say everythig to each other...i just wish my classmate wouldnt be mean to me but my brother says he doesbt think it seriously..what should i do ?? i do really like my classmate.
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Don't you get it he probably likes you because when boys like girls they play rough sometimes there mean. So what you should do is confess to him I know it's easier said than done bought you must.
You never know if you'll ever see him again and you don't know if he likes you too.
So just confess to him and don't go run off crying if he doesn't respond or if he says I don't like you.
If he doesn't like you than you can't do anything about that so that's why the simple answer is
Confess to him!
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