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i really like my classmate (boy)
i´m a girl, 3rd year in high school, I really like him but the problem is that he is not nice to me..I mean when i say something he always have something to say to me and he laughs at me, but when some other girl is saying something he is quiet..or we have som really fat girl and he doesnt make any comments in front of her, he laughs behind her back with boys, but when im around he doesnt have problem telling it to my face, something about my weight (im not really that fat), it hurts me because i really like him, last year he was sending me cute snaps of him and his dog and now doesnt send me any snaps :/ i dont know what happened...once i told my twin brother (we go to same class) that he is always sending me pics of his dog.but i didnt mean it as a complain..and my brother told him about it (they are best friends) ans i hate him for it...i dont know why my classmate started to behave different to me..even my friends noticed he´s been acting different to me than last year... and i cant tell him ot text him anything..because like i said he and my brother are best friends...and they say everythig to each other...i just wish my classmate wouldnt be mean to me but my brother says he doesbt think it seriously..what should i do ?? i do really like my classmate.
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Well, since you are miserable with things as they are right now, I see it as a fifty fifty chance that he might be interested in you and become nicer and attentive as a friend if he knows you like him too, or he isn't interested in you as a person for a friend or anything else and he is just an immature rude boy who will laugh at you and or reject you. Since there is half a chance he will respond favorably, the thing to do is to forget he's your brothers friend. Don't involve your brother to speak for you and don't tell your brother what you plan to do. He is a male too and most likely will not understand again what you are doing. Next time you see him, tell him your brother misunderstood about the pics. You did appreciate receiving them and considering that a friendly gesture but you've been hoping to expand on friendship and be able to chat about all sorts of things and do stuff together. Ask him if he'd like to hang with you sometime when he's not hanging out with your brother.
It may go well and he may just not be interested or just make a game of telling your brother stuff, true or not just to mess with you, or he may actually say things that are not nice and treat you worse. If so, this is not the kind of boy to be interested in and you need to tell yourself that you deserve better in male friends or boyfriends and just wait for your heart to stop feeling this attraction.
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Don't you get it he probably likes you because when boys like girls they play rough sometimes there mean. So what you should do is confess to him I know it's easier said than done bought you must.
You never know if you'll ever see him again and you don't know if he likes you too.
So just confess to him and don't go run off crying if he doesn't respond or if he says I don't like you.
If he doesn't like you than you can't do anything about that so that's why the simple answer is
Confess to him!
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well why dont you laugh and have a sense of humor back??
Maybe your brother went behind your back and told him to stop sending you things?? they ARE after all good friends right?? so thats totally possible. And maybe he DOES like you back but sinse he was told NOT to because "thats my sister and thats gross" or something, he doesnt know how to act around you.
Why dont you send HIM stuff?? nothing raunchy, just act like your responding to the things he used to send YOU? like instead this time you send HIM and pic of you and a CAT? lol. that could make him laugh if he used to send YOU pics of him and his dog right? turn it into a game! so he'll talk to you again.
im betting someone told him not to try to get at you because this makes no sense and because him and your bro are friends he wants to honor the friendship.....other then that idk.
you could try things to get him to talk to you again like watch him and then during the day sometime FIND a way to get him alone and then ask him if you can borrow a pen or a pencil?? then keep it for a day or two and then walk up to him when hes with all his friends, act like you guys are totally buddy buddy, and give him the pen back while hes there with them all and see how he acts!
This will tell you if hes not talking to you anymore because of his friends or because of you. guys act different when females approach them with their friends around. If hes nice to you and your nice to him and you smile and say something like "hey thanks for the other day, i forgot to give this back to you" and just look at his reaction and the faces of all his friends sitting there, just THAT will tel you alot.
Males are very simple creatures, they dont over analyze things like we do. They also arent usually trained very deeply on handling feelings even though they should be.
just try it. ; )
good luck.
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