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He wants pictures of me naked!
16 female
I have been talking to this guy for about 6 months now but my mom says I can't date him because the police says he is on there watch list because he does drugs but I still have been talking to him via text and I just got in trouble because mom goes through my texts and told me if I continued she would take my phone and he sent me a text saying if I wanted him to still be my friend I had to send a naked picture but what if my mom sees it what should I do help?
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Hi!
Number one rule when you're on the internet, NEVER send naked photos of yourself, not just naked, but any photos that you wouldn't want the internet, or anyone to see! Once you post something online, there's no such thing as deleting it. Even if you press the 'delete' button, that photo will still be saved somewhere on the internet. Another thing about the internet, things can spread like wildfires. Once you hit 'send', or 'post' millions of people will have already seen it. If I were you I wouldn't be as worried about my mom taking my phone away, I'd be more worried about what I send and post online. My point is PLEASE DO NOT POST OR SEND ANYTHING YOU'LL REGRET!
-Swimmer133
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Hon, since you've already been making some unsound decision, bad ones really and trying to hide it from Mom, I wonder why you are asking here unless you are looking for someone to tell you its a good idea to send a pic let alone continue to chat and stay in contact.
I don't think badly of you and your decisions hon as that is something that is quite normal among teen and even early college age people. Let me explain. You have something working hard against your ability to see what is reasonable and whats not and what repercussions there could be down the road to any decisions and actions you take. This thing I speak of is our brain. Oddly enough, our bodies mature to adult looking form long before the prefrontal cortex of the brain is done growing. So with this very important part of the brain still in an immature state, our thoughts and beliefs and actions just don't see wisdom or warning signs when it is very much needed. Its no excuse for continueing to tread in dangerous territory though. Once you've had it explained why its not a good idea and how dangerous it is, you need to trust adults with the fully developed brains that can reason out things like this better, who are looking out for your best interests. Even at 18 when you are pronounced an adult, before making any decisions since you are not yet at 25 when this part of the brain is done growing according to scientists, it is best that you still ask around, get other opinions and viewpoints so you have a broader picture and input before making your own decision. You did write us and i hope this means you are looking for wise help not a way to get away with sending the pic and Mom not knowing. What you risk is starting to do this kind of unwise decisions and actions now, is it can become a nasty habit that you continue on through your college age years and end up a very unhappy and messed up woman with nothing to show for her life who wishes later that she could go back and do it all over again but differently. So I hope you decide to listen to Mom and us. Do NOT send the pic. Block the guy, and tell Mom of his request for naked pics. The police may be interested to know of his latest request as he may not just be dabbling in drugs but child pornography as well. Your mind will not be able to see the wisdom of any of our cautions to you until you are on the far side of 25 or so. You'll just have to trust us on this. On an aside, the fact that those under 25 are unable to make good decisions on their own yet, is why this age bracket is so suspectible to people on the internet scamming them or talking them into doing things that are not legal.
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You should tell him that possessing a naked picture of a 16 year old is a crime, and that an guy who is so damn stupid that he is already on the watch list, probably shouldn't take the risk of possessing underage pornography.
Then block him. On everything. Everywhere. All social media, and on your phone and email.
A guy who says he wont be your friend or boyfriend unless you provide him with sexual activity or images, is a monster. No question. No grey zone. A bully, a predator and a monster.
Cut him loose. Keep yourself safe.
If you think your mom is going to find out about that text, do yourself a favour and tell her before she finds out on her own. That way you can tell her that you have finally woken up to what bad news this guy is, and are going to stay the hell away from him and his criminal, bullying ways. That will probably help to reduce her anger a good bit.
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You should absolutely NOT ever send ANYONE naked pictures first of all ok. Once something goes out there he can put it on the internet or if his phone does automatic uploads it will go online to his personal account and he can share it where ever he wants. You will regret this if you do it. It sounds like hes already a shady guy if the cops are watching him ok. You dont need to be mixed up with someone thats already under their radar.
If this WAS a legit relationship (which i dont even think it is) then he could see you in REAL life. Fuck the pictures ok. Save your dignity for the right guy and dont lower yourself by just letting any fool that asks for pictures have that, your special, your body is special, and only the RIGHT guy should be able to see that stuff and i might also mention, the right guy WONT ask for pics. ; )
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