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My SISTERS EX
Hii,
23,F.
Lately I've gotten close to my sisters ex who treated me like a little sister for years and everything was fine until 1 day we are sitting in his jeep and the roof top was missing so I was teasing him saying my back was soaked and he asked where and went to reach for my back and the next thing I know we are kissing. NOW. My sister and him were never official and it was only for a couple months and she broke things off with him 4 years ago, she's now happily married and she's actually friends with him. Would it be wrong for me to pursue this?
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If she's already married, she's moved on. So there should be no issue with you pursuing him.
My only caution would be, since she was the one cutting things off with him, you may want to let her know that he's shown interest in you lately and you want to know if there are any warnings she may want to pass on. He didnt dump her, she dumped him and had a reason. Now if its something like not having the same goals in life, or he didn't want to have kids, or she decided there wasnt a strong each chemistry romantically between them and giving it time didnt make a difference, then those are all valid reasons that may not affect you with him. But if he exhibited any kind of behavior that is destructive to a relationship or hurtful to a partner, you'd want to know that as a person who isn't willing to work on improving themself will be just the same no matter who he dates. She loves you and as her sister won't want to see you hurt or upset by him. So it may be time to find out why they parted ways. And trust what she says. If you feel she's being indictive, then date him about 2, 3 months. He can only hide his true self about that long before letting his real character slip through to either confirm what sister said or negate it. If its it bad, then break up and dont look back.
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I do not see any reason why you shouldn't pursue
a relationship with this guy. Though out of respect to your sister you should speak to her and tell her you have feelings for him and want to pursue them. Since she is married and considers him a friend I doubt she will have any reason to tell you not to. She may also have some advice for you good or bad that you might want to know.
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It would better if you spoke to your sister before this went any further.
Not so much to 'seek her permission' but to tell her your respect her opinion and feelings and want to hear from her before you make any decision.
A sister can be one of the most amazing friendships you get in your entire life. It's not worth throwing it away, or damaging it, over any guy. Talk to her first.
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