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Will this relationship go anywhere? does it have potential to work?
21/f
So about a week ago I stepped out of my comfort zone and went on a blind date with someone I met online. I have never done this before and I was so worried that he would look nothing like his pictures or be really weird. He picked me up and we went for drinks and it was so easy to talk to him and everything felt so natural. He was very open and said he has met up with 2 other girls about a month ago on a blind date and it was very awkward and nothing ever happened. One red flag i discovered was that he got out of a 2 year engagement about 4 months ago. When he dropped me off he kissed me goodbye and texted me right away saying he had a great time. He lives about 5 hours away but was in my city because all of his family lives here and he has come to my city about 8 times in the past month.... so the next day he wanted to see me again so i invited him over to watch a movie and he met my parents and they thought he was really nice. We just talked, cuddled and watched movies and then he left. He went home the next day and he always texts me and calls me cute and says that he really enjoys my company. Last night he told me that i am welcome to come and visit for a weekend whenever i want, and he also said next time he was in the city that I should come to his family's place and play games with them.
I have been hurt so much in the past and I'm really scared that I'm "catching feelings" way too fast for this guy and I'm trying everything not to develop feelings. It feels as though it's too good to be true and he's just saying all of this to get some action. So I was wondering what everyone else thinks? and also... should i go up and visit him for a weekend?
Thank you so much for taking time out of your day to read and answer this
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It hasn't been long, so it's okay to be skeptical. You don't really know this person yet. It's okay to have doubts.
But, you should give people the benefit of the doubt, because if you don't, you'll never find love. You might get hurt. He might not be as good as he seems right now, but that doesn't mean you've got any reason to distrust him right now. He's putting in a great deal more effort than somebody who just wants to get 'some action'.
If he has made that much effort to come and see you, it would be fair and respectful for you to make the trip to see him and meet his people. If you aren't ready to worry about 'staying the night' then don't stay overnight, or stay with a friend, or a book a hotel room.
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Well if his family is down where YOU live then thats a really good sign. This means that hes tied to the city your in and Once hes done with whatever it is hes doing (maybe school or a temp. work situation) he could easily consider moving back because YOUR also there.
Him having just got out of an engagement isnt necessarily a "red flag" because you dont know the story behind all that yet. When you learn of what actually happened between the two of them, then THAT will give you what you need to judge weather or not he is ok to be in another relationship again.
So far it sounds ok, just make sure this is what he also wants and is ok (or willing to consider) distance.
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