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Puberty: my friends are making fun of me!
What do I do if my friends make fun of me for being late in puberty
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My guess is you see this as a problem rather than okay and normal. As you've heard already, others had to go to some kind of teasing too. The first ones to develop got teased, those with bigger or smaller parts were teased. Everyone is different and in the end, we are all the same so how fast or slow one gets there is irrelevant.
People only tease if there is a pay off, if you respond with sadness, anger, pouting, defending yourself, asking them to stop, etc.
The best thing is to not give them the response they are looking for. So instead of feeling hurt for being teased, join them and make jokes about it yourself. I used to be extremely socially anxietous or shy. I can relate to how it feels. ONce I was cured of my anxieties among other things, I gained the confidence to not let what others think or say, bother me and often it involved facing that which was uncomfortable by speaking up first and joking about myself, in my case it was wearing glasses and my last name that got me teased. Lets say the last name is Odermun and they laugh and tease uh oh, heres comes the Odor man and you could say, yep thats right and I brought clothes pins for you to wear on your noses when around me. I might have the Odor but you'll all be looking silly. The way you say it, lighthearted and with a smile shows your not serious. I am in my fifties and working part time in fast food place and a new manager in training caught me in the break area and point blank said, You're fired. I replied back with a smile, "Oh Goody! like I was offered a raise instead. She started and her eyes grew round, "What do you mean by "Oh Goody"? I said, "You weren't expecting that answer, were you, that why I gave it, same as the reason why you said what you did, cus I wasn't expecting to hear that." She then grinned at me. I had a hard time telling when someone was trying to be mean or just friends doing friendly teasing. NOw I have learned that teasing from FRIENDS is Because they care about you. If they didnt like you, they wouldn't as friends take the time to bother. THeres a chance they with their little knowledge are worried or concerned for you but dont know what to say so they tease instead to cover up not knowing what else to say. Its not often a teen will say, Hey Joanie/Jake does it bother you that you haven't gone started puberty yet? Have you looked up online about it to see if its something to be worried about or not. No, young kids dont think of that kind of thing to say, so its teasing. Work on how you personally view teasing. And the moment embarassed thoughts fill your mind, remind yourself that you are normal just later and later doesnt make a person abnormal so theres no need to be feeling bad. So why not have some fun and join the teasing.
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Try to ignore them. I know it is easier to give that advice then it is to receive it. Facts are that the later you go into puberty the easier it will be for you emotionally and physically. Especially for girls but boys as well.
I remember when I went through puberty I was about 10 or 11 I believe. If the physical pain of the growth spurts wasn't bad enough I suffered migraine headaches. I remember having to be in a completely dark room with an ice pack on my forehead and a blindfold over my eyes so my sister, who was 6 years younger than me, could feed my dinner with a flashlight to guide her. My friends who went through puberty later in life at ages 14 and 15 didn't suffer the headaches.
Everybody's voice changes and boys voices crack when they talk and everyone will laugh when it happens. Just laugh with them. Girls will grow breasts and get their periods. Getting their period can be painful for them and giving up their undershirts for Bra's can be traumatic.
So while others may be teasing you just remember they have gone through entering puberty and were teased too. Ignore them or remind them of the pain you will not suffer as much from because your body is waiting for you to mature more.
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Just ignore it as best you can. In honesty there's not really anything you can do to speed it up so when it happens it will happen and it does so at different times for everyone. So it's a little later for you but it's no big deal and certainly nothing to make fun of but some people will use whatever they can just for an excuse to make fun. Best thing you can do is laugh with them about it and I'm pretty sure they will eventually just get bored. :)
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