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i dont know about my bf.
Ok so my bf is 20 and I'm 19.
He said that he was a Virgin and I was a virgin.
But he tells me about his ex's and he was engaged to her at the same time as me but she is all the way in new York and he broke up with her for me which I'm living with him now.
I am worried that he still has feelings for her.
I also know its wrong but I looked were he talked to his brother in law and it stated that she was going to be using condoms with him to be "safe".
I have also caught him looking at porn flaming that he was getting ideas for us.
I need help because he is getting married to me and going to have a baby boy with me.
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So you caught him in a lie. If you do not want a marriage partner who lies, then don't get married to him. If u want to wait to see if his character improves as he grows older since he's only 20, then wait until at least mid 20s or late 20s to see what he is like and then decide whether to marry or not. As for porn watching, I do not see it as a crime or harmful to a relationship as long as the partner is getting all of their sexual needs met first in a very satisfactory manner. Then watching porn does not interfere. Sometimes, one partner has a higher libido than the other so this is a good release valve. As for attempting to learn about sex more and how to please a woman, porn is one of the worst places to look to actually learn anything. It contains nothing more than the basics he already knows of what part goes where but often theres little base in reality such a the porn male removing his penis from her anus to stick it straight into the vagina. Thats the fastest way to getting a vaginal infection that there is so in reality, that is a porn may be popular to watch but is not at all practical in real life. I recommend finding books on how to please ones sexual partner, including safety, birth control, disease control, etc. I married at 20 thinking I was mature and grown up. I didnt know that I was too young and innocent without any real life experience so I was unable to catch some obvious warning signs, not recognizing them for what they were. I can see them easily now but that costed me 30 yrs of marriage to an abusive man. Theres nothing wrong with a long engagement if you want to wait a couple of years. Especially if you worry that he has feelings for someone in his past. Without trust, a marriage will be doomed. trust takes time to build, not weeks or months but longer. Depends on how much time you spend together and the quality of the time, such as lots of in depth talking and getting to know his core beliefs as a man, a family member, and as a potential mate.
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He was engaged to her at the same time as he was engaged to you?
Run. No person who engages in that degree of deceit is going to turn honest overnight. Trust your instincts and keep yourself safe.
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