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Truth & Right: mother of my kids and child support
so I just want some understanding is it possible that the mother of my kids. mother put me on child support even tho I support my kids an I'm always there for them she wants to put me on child support cause I don't help out with the pregnancy bills but the job I have cant afford them an only have money for my kids an my bills. I live in Alabama I don't see why she think she can put me on child support when 1.i have no kids by you
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Advice man is correct. But I am a bit confused when the first sentence mentions the mother of my kids and the last says "why she thinks she can put me on child support wen I have no kids by her." You put you but i think you meant her.
So am I to guess that she had kids by someone else when you came along and got into relationship with her? You were willing to take on the kids and help raise them until for whatever reason the two of you parted. That you are saying you never got her pregnant and she never bore you children that were biologically yours? IF this is the case, she has no legal support to come after you. If you were simply being a nice guy and deciding of your own free will to help her with funds for her kids, thats your decision and you can cut that off too if they are not biologically yours and you never signed any legal documents that you were of your own free will taking on the financial responsibilty for those kids. If she is claiming the child she is carry or just had is yours, a paternity test can be done, even before the baby is born. If you got her pregnant before leaving her, then only the baby would be your responsibility to pay child support and you'd have to ask a lawyer about pregnancy related Dr. bills. But if her older kids are not yours, even if she had 5 or 8 kids all by different Daddys, you are only responsible for your own. If a man isn't working, its impossible to garnish wages to get child support and some women had to do without cus the guy was unemployed, or in prison. I have known several women who had 3 or 4 kids and each one had a different Dad. So its not uncommon a thing but such a woman can't force a man to pay support on 3 or 4 if only one is his and not being able to find the guy or him not having a job, in prison or ex con, was the main reasons why they weren't getting child support on the rest and hoping some nice guy would pay up for all by his choice. When couples part, that messes up the nice guy paying for all plan so I can see a gal trying to see if she can threaten child support if you don't voluntarily pay but I advise you to check with a lawyer on the latest law changes if any and not pay a penny on pregnancy costs until she goes to a Dr. of your choosing or of your lawyers choosing so you can trust the results she has that may say its yours are not a lie and favor done for her by an unscrupulous Dr who could be bought to lie. Good luck.
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While the laws differ somewhat from state to state the purpose of child support does not. The purpose of child support is to see to it that the children, your children, have a roof over their head, clean clothes, food on the table and their medical bills paid. The court who will order the support will not be concerned with your bills only their needs. You are legally responsible for your children's support until they reach the age of 18. You may also be ordered to take out life insurance in the amount of the totaled sum of 18 years worth of support for each child you have fathered.
Once the court has awarded the mother of your children or her mother if she herself is not of legal age, child support. The court can then order your wages garnished and if need be any tax return garnished and garnish any savings you may have.
If this woman has children by another man they are not your responsibility and the court will not order you to support them. You are only responsible for the child or children you have fathered. Once again though the court will put the best interest of the child or children first. The child or children always come first for they did not ask to be here. You are responsible for them being here and your needs are secondary to theirs in the eyes of the law.
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If those are your kids, then their guardian or custodial parent can ask for a child support order.
Remember that a child support order is NOT about the mother's rights. It's about the kid's rights. It's about the fact that kid's are safer and better cared for when finances can be planned and it is known how much money is coming into the household. Your children are not a charity that you can decide to give money too this week, but not next week. The need more security than just "helping out when you are able". Regular, agreed on support from the parent who is not in the home, is the best situation for the children.
If they are not your children, than it's unlikely she'll get an order. If it is the children's grandmother who is trying to get the order, it's unlikely she'll be able to unless the children live with her and she is their guardian.
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