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a boy asked me out
a boy at school who I like asked me by message if I wanted to go out with him
my mum thinks im too young but I want to say yes what should I do
im 11 btw
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I am a mother of 3 girls now all grown. Heres what I told my daughters. You might check with Mom if this is agree-able to her if agreeable with you and this 'boy'. I told my girls that when they were before the age I gave as old enough to date, that it was okay to have a 'male' friend welcome to come hang with them at our house as long as we were home and her bedroom door remained open. At your age, I know that kids can start 'liking' each other. Its early for romantic dating. But the time is perfect to start getting comfortable talking with guys and learning how differently they think from females and also how to understand what they say. Its a good time to become 'just a friend' with a boy. Not all parents may be okay with this. And by the way, not a single guy ever took my daughters up on it, none ever came to visit them at our house.
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It is strange I should see this question today for last night I watched an episode of "Tanked" and in it the owners’ 13 year old daughter was asked out on a date. He felt his daughter was too young to go out on a date at 13 and you are only 11.
I'm afraid I have to agree with your mom, you are too young to be dating or going out with a boy in any manner other than maybe a group type thing at a mall or a boy girl party supervised by parents.
You have a lot to learn about dating and socializing between now and the time you become a teenager. These are very important skill especially for a young lady. Do not be in a rush to grow up. Take the time to learn the skills you need and earn the trust and respect of your parents. Without your parents trust and respect it will be a long time before you will be allowed to date. Just remember until your 18 your parents word is backed by law.
What you tell the boy is. "My mom; or your parents, whichever you’re more comfortable with, do not allow me to date," very straight forward, very simple.
You left out the boys’ age or if he is in the same grade as you. IF he is older than you and a grade or two higher than you I would totally understand mom refusing to allow you to on a date with him unsupervised or supervised.
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I can see where your mum is coming from, however I can also see where you are coming from. In school you will have a lot of experiences with relationships, it's not very likely that this boy will be the love of your life, but it doesn't mean you shouldn't go for it. Being in relationships at quite a young age can be good for you, it can teach you a lot. If you like him, then you should go for it. Even though you are young and it's important that you are mature in your relationship and don't do anything you don't want to do, lots of people get into relationships at your age, and as long as they are responsible, it doesn't affect them. Make sure that you do what you want and only what you want, don't let him force or pressure you into anything you don't want to do. You're young, have fun! You'll go through many guys before you find 'the one', this is just experimenting with relationships, and that's fine. At your age, you will be curious and your feelings will be all over the place, it's all down to you, if you like this guy, then why not?
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