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I want to share my story but cant...
Hi. I'm 15 years old and a sophmore. Two summers ago I got into a casual relationship with a guy 3 years older than me. What I didn't know about him before hand was that he was depressed and suicidal. He trapped me into getting in a relationship with him that I never wanted, making me think that if I didn't he would kill himself. I talked him out of suicide 3 times, each I was balling on the floor usually cutting with a razor. Nobody knows I did that. He also had anger issues. Very bad ones. One minute he would say he loved me, the next he would tell me I'm a selfish b*tch and worthless and should die and should go to hell etc. I cut more because of it. He made me insecure about my weight and i went from 138 pounds to 10p and im 5'6." I was anorexic, eating only a few bites a day, and a far from accurate view of my appearance. I thought I looked fat when I was stick thin. I felt worthless. But I got throught it. I got through all of it, entirely on my own. It was the worst year of my life but I have learned so much from it. I want to share my story, to encourage others or just so I won't feel like I'm hiding my past from the world but I'm scared and don't know how. Help!
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To get through something so terrible is quite an achievement and is something to be very proud of. Never forget though that there is always help out there with things like these.
As for getting your story out there, adviceman49 mentioned many ways you can do this. I have a friend who went through an abusive relationship many years ago who decided to tell her story through a youtube channel, often doing some talks about things that she went through and being an inspiration to those who may be going through the same thing and showing them they can break free from that kind of abuse. This is just one of the ways she decided to share her story. There are many groups on things like facebook and other such social media. Even on here you would be in a unique position to be able to offer your help to many people who might be going through the same thing. They are more likely to listen to you because unlike many who will just say what they think is the right thing to say (or what the person needs to hear) you are someone who can speak from personal experience.
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Hi there. I'd definitely investigate all of adviceman49's channels to air your story. That's some journey you've been on and coming out of it the way you have would be inspirational, edifying and encouraging to others. Counselling is a two-way street and so many don't appreciate this. It's up to you to act on it. No analyst or counsellor or therapist can actually live your life for you. You've done it single-handed as you might say. Which is a big achievement indeed. Tell anyone who will listen. Don't hide that past. It isn't how you start, it's how you finish. There will certainly be people reading your message right right here who can identify with your story and they'll see plenty of light in it. Good luck and X's mate!
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There are any number of different ways you can share this story and do so anonymously.
1. This is the type of story you could write to any of the national advice columnist almost exactly as you have written to use. It is they type of story I believe all would publish. The one thing I would suggest you could add is what was the one thing that caused you to see the light and turn your life around before it was too late.
2. This is also a story where we would ask you to be brave and tell it to others for your not alone in this type of fight. There are many others in it as well. I would think if when school opens you went and spoke to your guidance counselor or your school Principal this would be an issue they would like to have your help in dealing with.
3. Lastly I would suggest if your parent do not know about this that you tell them. While you have do a terrific job on your own. I'm sure they were worried during the time you were suffering. By telling them what was happening during that time you will lift a great weight form their shoulders a weight that will I'm certain pay many dividends to you in the future.
4. There are any number of groups for people that suffer from anorexia and low self-esteem that could use your story to help others.
5. Most every community has a crisis intervention center. Your story would be of great help to them in dealing with those who contact them for help. Consider calling the crisis center in your town and possibly volunteering to help as well.
In closing let me say I'm old enough to be your grandfather. When I finished reading your story I was very proud of you for being able to help yourself. In the future if something like this should ever happen again be you still be in your teens or be you an adult. Do not be afraid to reach out for help.
Help is never any further away than your phone. You can call 911 or a crisis center. No one will think badly of you and the help is always confidential. One other thing to remember; there is no such thing as a problem to large as there not to be a solution for. Someone someplace will have the answer or the solution.
Enjoy your Sophomore year of school.
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