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My mom embaressed me!
So we were sitting outside of our house by the pool. I CSS wearing a swimsuit, so my arms were exposed. She then lifted my arm, and shouted at the top of her lungs, "you need to shave that armpit hair!" People were outside, and they all heard her! She always yells at me for not thinking before I do something, but here she is doing it now! I mean really, why would you shout that outside! I've been rambling enough now. I just don't know what to do! Please help me! :(
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Armpit hair is a natural thing that grows out of both guys and girls.
I don't get why your MOTHER would shout this out. I mean, was it a joke? Maybe she was messing with you, even though it resulted in you being completely embarrassed.
Though, if she was serious and she didn't intend for her blurt out to be a joke, then I'm a little weirded out by your mom. (I'm not saying this out of disrespect.)
Like I said, armpit hair is a normal thing. EVERYONE has it. Girls just shave it. Well some...
And MOST guys never trim nor shave their armpit hair, which is completely okay.
Talk to your mom and inform her that you are aware of what is going on with your body. Let her know that she also embarrased you and ask her to be more considerate of your feelings. Speak to her with the most upmost- respect and if she continues to do stuff like this then talk to a family member and see if they can speak with her on behalf of you to reason with her.
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This is a though question for two reasons. First I would like to know your age and second I really do not know your mother so it makes it hard to give advice that she will accept.
If you have armpit hair you are going through puberty which would put you at or close to your teenage years. You have a right not to be embarrassed in front of people. The problem is for some parents we forget our children have gotten older and are now self-aware and do get embarrassed.
As a toddler and a younger child are not as self-aware and we can correct them in public without embarrassing them. As children grow older they become more self-aware and they become embarrasses over things they should and shouldn't get embarrassed over.
As a parent I will take the blame for this for all parents as we forget what it was like when our parents would embarrass us and we swore we would not do it with our children, Then we forget or we don't realize you have grown up. The solution is you have to remind us as my son had to remind me.
There is two ways to do this. The first is to sit down and talk with mom and remind her you are older now and self-aware. Remind her there are things she does that embarrass you in front of friends and strangers that you wish she would not do in such a manner but save to do in private. The other way is when mom does something like what you have written about is to turn to her and say; "mother that was embarrassing please stop.
You may have to do both before mom remembers you are older now. You know mom better than anyone so you decide if my advice is helpful or if it will cause you to get in trouble. If it will cause you to get in trouble then I suggest you speak with a favorite Aunt or grandparent who might speak to mom on your behalf.
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