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No more laughter
I have always had a wacky personality and loved to make people laugh, but everybody hates me now. Ok ok I know I might be overreacting, but it's kind of hard to not feel that way when your friends are calling you crazy and stupid. I'm starting to think I'm really going insane! I have started crying a lot more and acting really shy. I just want the old me back! I just want somebody that understands me. I am a 13 year old female if that helps.
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I can;t tell you where I read it but I've seen several articles mentioning a problem that is becoming more prevelent these days with teen girls going thru puberty.
It's not you dear, the possibility I am bring up tho is very real. The blame for your problem may well be due to polutants in the world today that all of us live with and can't escape. Tests have shown that there is a pretty high level of synthetic female hormones in our environment that we slowly absorb from infanthood thru the rest of our lives. So your body already has plenty of these hormones before hitting puberty and your body releasing a mega load of them all at once.
In the past, without the influence of such high levels of female hormones in our environment, young teens would struggle with the hormonal changes of puberty, some pretty insignificant but others really great to the point of being overly angry and picking on other females or over sad and weepy or depressed. In time your hormones of puberty will level out and its possible to eventuallly feel normal again but that may not happen until you graduate high school.
Total personality changes have also been documented such as you are noticing.
Luckily there is something doctors can do for this. I dont know if there new research and methods now but what i read entailed of Drs checking your hormone levels and if they were too high, prescribing a medicine that helps to normalize those levels. In most cases, it is only needed until your own body's natural hormones level out, giving your body a chance to adjust.
So show this response to mom and have her get you in to see the Dr. Ignoring this won't make it go away if this is the problem. If you indeed have developed social anxiety, that is still something to see a Dr. about as that has become a current day affliction for many that wasn't as prominent as issue when I was growing up. I am hoping you can soon get back to your happy self. good luck dear.
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I know how you feel. I go back and forth between two extremes, really serious and reserved and really, really goofy and wacky. I am pretty much the clown of my friend group. So it goes to show the more confident you feel, the easier it is to let your guard down and be your crazy, goofy self. With that being said, there are times I feel it's a little too much and I overwhelm myself with the wired energy I have, with too much laughing and too much fooling around. My friends see it just as much as I do and I start feeling like this absent-minded fool. That's always a sign to me that I need to slow down and take a breath and reel it in. So sometimes you do need to put some of that energy to rest. But be friends with people who genuinely appreciate you for how funny and entertaining you are. If they are making you feel bad all the time, screw them. Get new friends or let go of the need to have them take you seriously. At the end of the day, joke's on them.
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What really will drive you insane is trying to please everybody. People around your age are very confused. And can be very cruel. Some think being mean and bullying might be funny or cool. But they're just A-holes. Playing a prank or being funny at the expense of others is not welcome either. Treat others how you would want to be treated. Wanting to have people like you is normal and understandable. Its a normal human need. But you gotta think about what's more important. Being fake and make some fake friends with your fake self? Or being yourself and have some true friends. Being your age can be very hard sometimes. Being phony to please people who you can't be yourself with is pointless. More importantly, you have to let yourself shine even if you just want to hide away. If you hide and make yourself invisible it will probably only make your pain and loneliness worse. I had a similar experience growing up. I was a real happy kid. Then I moved and wasn't accepted. I also became shy and just wanted to be left alone. Now I can tell you that was way worse, than just being myself even if some people didn't like me. Being shy just made things worse for many years. So be yourself, you can't please everybody anyway, so why try? Be your happy self, the world needs more happy people to spread laughter and smiles.
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