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have never gotten a detention before and I don't know how to tell my parent
so i got a detention for mucking around in the kitchen at school and I dont know how to tell my parents. i was given a detention slip and one of them has to sign it but i don't know how to give it to them without them getting really mad or shouting at me, because i've been really good all year. PLZ HELP ;-;-;-;
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As has been already advised, yes you have to tell them. Faking their signatures only adds to your black mark.
If as you say you've been an exemplary student all year, then please note that ANY caring parent is going to be concerned since this sort of behavior is So out of character for you. As a parent, if my child who normally followed rules did such a thing, I'd be just as concerned to want to know what caused them to want to do it. Parents these days must have an inkling that life is more stressful for teen than in their time, and they'd be imagining all sorts of things like for example that you have been drinking or using drugs and something like that altered your behavior. So be ready for that line of questioning. Or you could choose to let them not it's not caused by those things. By they may want to check up on you more often and it may invade your privacy but they will need to lay their minds at rest and it is a right of parents to go to this extreme if needed if there is even a sign that their child may be starting down the wrong road. THIS is one of the consequences of your stunt if it happens at all. If you think hard, you may come to personally realise why you did it. Was it to become part of a circle of friends or to impress some kid at school, you acted on a dare, you felt it was something to do to be part of the 'in crowd'? It's not the detention slip or getting caught that is bad but what caused you to do it in the first place. It's that kind of thinking that will get you in trouble again in the future if you didn't learn from it. You may want to be prepared to discuss this all too with the parents if they ask. An answer of 'I don't know' means they won't be satisfied and you probably didn't learn anything from your stunt. Think about why you did it...specifically what kind of thoughts you had that led you to doing this. I was always the obediant type kid so if I did or said something out of character, I was prepared to explain to the parents my thought processes just before. It's helpful to them to then explain why it isn't necessary to go to those extremes and whatever else they may want to instruct you in.
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The thing about real life is, when you do something stupid, it normally costs you. In the movies, the heroes can make as many mistakes as they like. It doesn't matter what they do, because everything works out in the end. They'll beat the bad guys and put things right and everything ends up cool. In real life, vacuum cleaners kill spiders. If you cross a busy road without looking, you get whacked by a car. If you fall from a tree, you break some bones. Real life can be nasty and cruel. It doesn't care about heroes and happy endings and the way things should be. In real life, bad things happen. People die. Fights are lost. Evil often wins. I just wanted to make that clear before I begin.
You really have no options, You're going to have to give the detention slip to your parents. My advice to you is just do it. Don't try and explain your reasons for "mucking around in the kitchen at school." It would only make things worse. Just say "I'm sorry. It won't happen again" and then lower your chin and take it like a man. The worst of it will be over fairly quickly.
There's a lesson here and it's best expressed by Baretta of the old TV series: "If you can't do the time, don't do the crime."
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Explain the situation to them before handing it to them so that they listen before just going off on their own thing. Tell them how stupid it was, and that you Really are sorry, and it won't happen again and all that, and be genuine. It is best to just get it over with and be honest rather then cheat your way out or lie or something, because it probably will catch up to you, and either make you feel really bad and guilty, or someone will find out eventually, and then it will just be worse than getting it over with, with the truth. If you have been really good all year, then they would be pretty ridiculous to really flip out on you for one small thing. So if they do, (which they may not) try not to take it too hard.
Hope this helps~
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