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Rejected by a guy I wanted
I want to start off an say that I am in a great place in my life. I feel happy, beautiful and hopeful. However, I am trying to move forward from a recent rejection and I just want to hear some encouraging words. So, I got rejected by a guy I notice at school. I had decided to give him my number and he never called. When we see each other in class, neither one of us says hi or even hold eye contact. I was sort of surprise he did not call but they are reason other than me that I have to consider. However, this is the first time I seen someone who I am attracted to and he seems smart , but I only know him from school. I just want to move on knowing that the right guy would find me to be great as I see myself. However, I did notice this guy and I wanted him but since he did not call, I have to move forward. I would love something to make me feel better.
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Right now, you are on a kick. Everything is going well and you feel powerful, confident and successful. But the one thing you can't control is situations that involve other people. I know the feeling. Just keep being amazing and focus on the fact that you feel happy and beautiful right now. Life is not perfect, so you must appreciate the good. I'm going through something similar right now. I have a close friend I've been crazy about for years, and am always going through a viscous cycle between being hopeful and feeling like he has absolutely no interest in me. It's so repetitive and tedious. You are better than me because at least you took that plunge, and indicated to this guy you like him. I am too afraid to tell my friend I'm in love with him, and as a result, never experience rejection and that's why I've never had a boyfriend. Don't get caught in the same stupid cycle as me. You can't be afraid of rejection and you can't let rejection get you down. I commend you for putting yourself out there. Be proud of yourself for that.
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Let me start out with this; you cannot let a phone call define your self worth. Now, I understand this can be a difficult thing to do because now and days it seems all we care about are the phone calls from the cute boys/girls. Although I don't know you personally, I can guarantee that every negative thought about yourself is untrue. You have probably been thinking about reasons why he didn't call, the monster in your head saying things like "am I not attractive enough? Am I not thin enough?" Etc. The answer to those questions is, you did nothing wrong. Boys can be difficult to understand, and so can girls. We may never know why he didn't call you, we may never know whether or not he liked you. Maybe he was nervous, maybe he simply hasn't raised the courage to call you yet.
Whatever the answer to that infamous question is, it doesn't matter. The reason why he never called you is not something of importance, what is important is moving on and finding somebody worthy or your time and emotions. If a boy is going wait you out and make you sweat and agonize over hearing his voice on the phone, he isn't worth it. There is somebody out there who likes you, maybe you don't know it- maybe they don't even know it yet.
In a few months or years, or however long it takes, you will get over this boy and you won't even remember him at all. Perhaps you will remember him forever, but all he will be is a memory of a boy who wasn't worth your time. You are amazing, beautiful, and I hope that you truly believe it.
I don't think I could tell you anything that will make you forget him, that is something that only you can do. All I cans say is don't let a boys rejection define your self worth or how you feel about yourself. Stay beautiful.
~Kenzieanon
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