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is the teacher being unfair ?
I met a new friend at school and we are getting to be good friends (far as I can tell) anyways I had issues before with previous friendships not given them space etc ,anyways I learned from that. The teacher met with him and asked him if he had any problems with me hanging out with him and he said no. then she made a plan and she said we can no longer have lunches together and only can sit together once a week before school and we can say hi and have a small talk in the hall. We both had to agree with this ,Also she told me ,He is not ur friend ,you can only be friendly with him. She said we are teaching you too Personal space and limits with people. (he had some problems like i did but not with me ) is the teacher being unfair ? we are both in highschool
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I'm the same way when it comes to not giving people much personal space, considering I'm very talkative, and can honestly say that yes, I do think the teacher is being unfair. Your personal life should be none of his/her business. If your becoming good friends, then don't let what a teacher says affect that. See if the principal agrees. If not, then he will speak with the teacher and say to lay off. If he does, then you may have to be friends outside of school. A teachers job is to teach, nothing more. Make sure that's clear. Just not to where you will get punished
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It seems like there might some information that we're missing. Do you or your new friend have an IEP, BIP, or 504 plan of some kind (special education)? Teachers will meddle in social issues like this if it's part of a larger plan for you and your education. If that's the case, your parents have to agree to it too. Did they? How do you know that your friend has told the teacher that he doesn't have any issues with you? He may have expressed a small concern that you might get too close and didn't want to tell you because he really does want to be your friend and didn't want to hurt your feelings. It's also possible that something is going on with your friend that you don't know about. Sometimes schools/teachers/adults make decisions for good reasons and they don't tell you about them because they think that it's better for you not to know or because of confidentiality rules. Whatever the reason is, I wouldn't worry too much about it. You say you "had" to agree to the plan. What would have happened if you didn't? If your parents aren't involved, see if they will get involved. If you parents object to the idea that you're not allowed to have lunch with your friend, the school/your teacher will probably lift the restriction. What would the consequences be if you did decide to have lunch with your friend or talk more often? Did a lone teacher make all of this stuff up or is it part of larger education or discipline plan for you? Would you even get in trouble if you didn't follow the new rules? Lastly, think about a possible online friendship with your new friend. The school can't really regulate you talking to your friend online off of school property and after school hours. It might be easier just to follow their weird rules and simply talk to your friend after school. Unfortunately, I can't give you a solid idea because there's a lot more to this story than you're said or possibly a lot more that you don't even know about yourself. Good luck!
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You wrote with the same issue a month ago and I was one who answered you. All I can guess is that you didn't somehow see the answers. It was Jan 15th. Anyways, my previous answer still stands and here it is:
What kind of school do you go to? I have never heard of anything like this. Back in the 60's we still had some teachers who liked to discipline with slaps and ear pulls and take the time to make judgements, set rules and punishments for individual kids...but that doesnt happen in todays schools. Teachers are only supposed to teach, not play God over the kids. Any behavioral issues if they truly exist are handled by other staff, counselors. This sounds unreasonable. And if no one ever complains, this teacher will continue to get away with it. Talk to your parents and let them know what is going on. If they don't approach the school staff about this, then you go to the school counselors and mention this.
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