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My dad
Wht doesn't my dad care about me anymore
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This is the type of question that requires a lot more information as to why you feel this way. It is easy for children to get the feeling their parents don't care when they really do. Usually something has happened in the parents life that they are trying to protect the children from.
I can only speculate as to why you feel this way. Has dad recently changed jobs? If his parents are still alive is one of them very ill? It is Christmas time, has dad told you he can't afford something you feel you must have for Christmas? Has anything changed in the family that would cause dad to be short tempered or unable to afford things he was able to afford in the past?
These are the questions and other things about dad we need to know in order to answer your question.
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You haven't provided enough information for us to know what is happening that cause you to believe Dad doesn't care about you anymore. Sometimes there are kids growing up in a happy, normal home with caring parents and the parents try to show love and care to all their children the same way as they learned to do with their first, so though they believe they are giving you what you need, it doesn't communicate to you that they care.
If this is a recent change and you know your Dad cared before but now it seems he doesn't? Then perhaps something big, a major change in his life that he is focusing on takes his attention away from you. Maybe money problems, loss of job, separated or divorced now from your mom, a major illness for him or another family member, a death in the family? There are many things that can take up a person's attention, even grown ups. Some times, the best thing you can do is start the communication process by letting him or your mom, know how you are feeling and how it bothers you. That way, if the parent is not doing every in the best way possible, they can choose to make some changes to focus on you more and maybe in different ways that mean more to you. If the problem doesnt lay with Dad but how you are seeing and interpreting things, then he can reassure you that He loves and cares for you.
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I cannot say why with 100% certainty why your dad doesn't care about you anymore because I do not know him. All that I can say is that you are not alone. Some parents just don't care about their kids. It's sad, but true. Often this happens because the parent has something going on in their own lives. They are focused on themselves and do not bother treating their children properly.
Most likely this is what is happening to you. Just understand that none of this is your fault. Your dad probably has his own personal issues he is dealing with.
Your dad may come around and start treating you well in time. But if he doesn't come around, good riddance. You deserve people to treat you well, regardless of their own personal issues.
For now, here is what you can do. Approach your dad and say: I feel like you don't care about me anymore. I miss how things used to be between us. I don't like how things are now. I need us to work on our relationship.
After you say this, your dad might apologize and agree to try harder. If he does, that is good. But, you need to keep letting him know how you are feeling so that he continues to improve.
On the other hand, after you say this your dad might not agree to change. Accept this. He's not a very good dad if he says that.
Toodles,
Miss Piggy
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