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if im horny and a girl what do i do about it?
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If you're a sngle girl and don't want to go for purely recreational/casual sex without commitment (which is not usually a great idea and doesn't make a girl, or guy feel that special really) then you can relieve the tension and horny feelings by masturbating. Perfectly normal, harmless and can be lots of fun and very satisfying. Why not set aside some quiet 'me-time' when you're feeling horny and just explore what makes you feel good? Let your mind conjure-up some favourite fantasies and just indulge in them. If you like watching sexy movies (aka 'porn' really) there's no harm i doing so. Lot's of girls get-off better via imaginiation and ideas than visual images...but it's your choice, there's no right or wrong. Try varying what you do. How long you pleasure yourself for. Where. Different rhythms and pressure. And so on. You can use the time to explore your responses. Find out what feeels great, what's sort of 'ok', what definitely doesn't do anythng for you, etc. And explore orgasms/climax too. It's sure to feel great and you'll learn lots about yourself in the process. And it'll repay itself as and when you are in a relationship too. Lots of women complain that their partners don't really know how to please and satisfy them...sometimes they haven't learned what makes them feel great themselves! So take the opportunity now, don't waste those horny feelings. Go with them! How's that for an enjoyable and productive way to use that sexual tension? Have fun! X
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if you can you might want to get someone thats older that you trust to order to either a dildo or a small vibrator. Vibrators are small and very easy to tuck away somewhere so someone ELSE does not find it. Dildos are a bit bigger and more cumbersome when it comes to concealment.
for someone thats very young but feeling the urges we all do, i feel that this would be the best solution. its safer than sex with a person who could get you pregnant because neither of you know what your doing yet.
you can also get quite creative with an electric toothbrush if you dont have the money. I feel the education on this is important because NOT knowing is what leads to pregnancy.
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Adviceman covered it all very well. I agree. I am writing just to mention that I used to attend several different Christian churches that all taught it was a sin to masturbate. If interested in the story why as I was told, you can message me. But I can say it is a bunch of baloney. Many Teens these days suffer from great stress or even depression. Another good benefit to masturbation is the release of tension caused by stress which if not released, stress can build until one becomes depressed.
I do have one more thing to mention:
Since teens can not access a sex toy store, due to likelihood of pornographic items on the premises, you will have to search else where if you want to find a personal massager as well as using your own hands. Some will purchase a massager at a pharmacy. These cannot be used internally but work great on the clit. I have heard many girls write that they use the vibrating part of an electric tooth brush for that as well. If your mom is an openminded sort, you can always ask her to buy you your first vibrator.
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Since you did not supply you age I will assume you are a teenage girl between 14 and 18 years of age. If so sexual intercourse is not the answer to you being horny. The reason for feeling this way is the hormones of puberty.
The best and safest way to deal with this is by masturbating also called playing with yourself. Now mom, when she had "THE TALK WITH YOU," may have said this was something that was bad or dirty and not to do this. This is not true and very much hypocritical of parents who say this to their children. Why? Well for one thing masturbation or mutual masturbation is part of foreplay prior to intercourse and very likely something your parents partake in when they have sex. According to a research survey 85% of us masturbate including married adults.
As I said this is a safe and pleasant way to release the sexual tension you are feeling. As far as I know, no young lady has ever gotten pregnant from masturbating. Also contrary to what you may have been told none of the recognized religions consider it a sin, though most will not condone it. Mainly because it is pleasurable and most adults feel it will lead to wanting to have intercourse. It does not have to, it is entirely up to you; your morals and your will power to hold off until you’re older and mature enough to have sex. I generally recommend for both sexes to hold off until their 18th birthday when by law they are old enough to have a sex life regardless of whether they live at home or not as they are adults and legally entitled to all pleasures of an adult.
As to how and where to masturbate I recommend as to where the following: Either in the privacy of your bedroom with the door closed and locked so you are not intruded upon or in the bathroom while bathing or showering.
As to how to masturbate is something you will have to self-explore. When it comes to sexually exciting women there are women that are excited through clitoral stimulation, vaginal stimulation or both.
You can go on the web and use a search engine type in "Female Masturbation Techniques." You will get a host of returns to look at. Being a male and being married for 43 years I know how to stimulate my wife. As to how to stimulate you is something you need to find out by yourself. Yes I am old enough to be your grandfather and after raising my own family I now find that it is important to be blunt and straight forward when it comes to questions like yours.
You only have one virginity to give to someone; don't give it to a high school sweetheart who does not know the difference between love and lust. To teenage boys love and lust are the same. “I am not saying you should wait until you find the man you wish to marry as that to would be hypocritical. What I am saying is to wait for someone who is mature enough to understand the gift you are giving him and to make the first time as pleasurable for you as he can.
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