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I'm really sick of no one wanting me as a girlfriend.
20/f
It happened recently that guys just come to me and expect comfort or try to get me and sleep with them (in which they don't succeed.) It's like no one even considers me a girlfriend option. It's either the guys that are crazy about girls who don't even deserve them or the ones who think I'm young and naive and will just surrender to them. I am not that pretty,but I have a strong character,I'm caring,I'm intelligent,and I also have many other qualities. It's just that I'm pretty much invisible. Is it me,or is just the world overcrowded with idiots?
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The problem as I see it is that you are far more mature than guys your age are. This is something you should not do anything about as it is a problem that is as old as time. A 20 year old male from a maturity standpoint is the same as a teenage female between the ages of 16 and 18. They have not grown up yet, they are still boys. Whereas the females are ready, for the most part to nest, make a home, make a commitment and have a family by the time they are in there young or early twenties.
No not all twenty year old boys are this immature there are some who grow up faster than the others. You won't find these boys where the majority of young boys hangout, you will find them at places that take a commitment.
These are places volunteer fire departments, Auxiliary Police Officers, Civilians on Patrol Groups. These organizations require time and commitment to be members. They also separate the children from the men and women who join these groups quite quickly. Any group or organization that requires any type of commitment is where you will find boys of the maturity age equal to your own.
There is one thing you have to do for yourself. You have to stop believing you are "not that pretty." Beauty is only skin deep, it is wrapping on a package meant to attract. When you are looking for a life mate you have to look beyond the wrapping to the person underneath for this is the real person. Beauty and sex appeal will only take you so far, one day you wake up and find you need to talk to each other and you have nothing in common. This is when relationships fail.
By you feeling you're not pretty you will portray that to others that approach you. If you feel pretty then that is the image you will portray to others. If you feel you must do something to improve your appearance then do a makeover.
Go see a hair stylist and let him or her suggest a hair style to enhance the shape of your face. Let the salons cosmetologist suggest some makeup tips. Enhance your wardrobe from what is comfortable to what is more in style. You do not need designer labels to be in style. Remember nobody is going to see the label while you are wearing the cloths and when they come off if there is a him with you; the label is the last thing he is interested in.
IF the organizations I named are of no interest to you find others like them that require a commitment of time and energy. These are the places where you will find young men and women of your maturity age. Don't shy away from the women for they may have an older brother they would want to introduce you to.
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When you're 20, the world is definitely overcrowded with idiots. People your age are still stumbling around, trying to figure out who they are, which sounds like something you have figured out already.
A lot of guys have the idea that they're not mature enough for a relationship, so they should get their physical jollies and move on. As you grow older, they'll settle down and start figuring out that they want more out of life (most of them, that is).
Maintain your self-respect and don't change who you are for someone else. Eventually, you'll find someone who appreciates that.
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.......and THAT darling is what most men cannot handle. Some can handle it, yes. Other men on the other hand can't.
What I fail to see wrong with certain types of men these days is that they are afraid to commit to something good. You need to remind yourself that a relationship will come in time. As young people we have the strong trait of patience.
It's almost like being a small kid and wanting something that your parents told you to be patient for. Lol I know, lame analogy, but kinda true.
What I'm saying is good things come to good people. Yeah im gonna sound like a church bird but you gotta have faith, and you gotta keep good vibes in you. Negativity will do nothing but kill you!
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