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A cousin of mine keeps giving me the silent treatment.
My question is that is being quite a form of rude ignorance. This cousin of mine have been nothing but silent ever since we moved in together. She rarely expresses her opinion and completely ignores my existence. We have been staying together for more than 1year but we speak on formal terms. Do you think she just dislikes me or is it really embedded in her behaviour? I don't expect her to become instantly talkative but wish to see her atleast put some effort in talking to me. What should I do to not get affected by this?
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Well, there could be several variables in this scenario. What was her behavior prior to you living together? Did you have a strained relationship? Did you, in some way, offend her or hurt her? Is she perhaps just that way with everyone? The best I can think to tell you with this limited information is to try to discuss it with her- ask her what's wrong, and go from there.
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the question in my mind is "How well did you know this cousin before moving in together? Was her behavior towards you different before living together?
It could be that the little she saw you before wasn't enough time to reveal to her that you just aren't the type of person she enjoys hanging around with.
Who knows, she may have regrets for becoming roomies but Since you are a cousin, she may feel awkward saying anything about how she feels.
If the two of you decided to share a place just to get out from living with parents and being on your own, was the decision to room together because there was no one else for either of you? Or did the two of you figure that being room mates with a cousin was better than with a non relative?
If it's been this way for a year, it's not likely to change. So either live with it the way it is, or if it bothers you too much, engage her in conversation and ask if she's happy having you for a room mate cus if she's not, you'd like to know. Dont take it personally if she's not happy.
This is just two personalitys not being a good match for living together, being that close. Its the same problem people find when dating...
moving in with a boyfriend, you both get to see more of each other and thats when you discover that you don't want to be with that guy anymore, he's just not right for you. But both of you will be just right for someone else, for friends, for roomies and when the time comes for a future boyfriend.
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Why are you living with her if you don't like her?
Look, it's been a year. Chances are she isn't holding a grudge, because most people can't live a year without blowing up and explaining why they are angry. It's far more likely that she is just the silent type, and is perfectly happy having a roommate and a cousin, who she doesn't really speak to at all.
I've had many roommates. Some of them just would rather pretend like they are living alone. It's normal.
So, suck it up. Look for friendship elsewhere, or, if this really getting under your skin, look for another place to live. Unless she tells you there is a problem, pay her the respect of assuming there is not.
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