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A guy I've never met is spreading rumors about me
I'm a 16 year old girl.
A few days ago, my friend gave my number to a guy who lives a couple towns away from us. He started texting me, saying he was bored and all. We chatted for a couple days and he wanted to know what I looked like (he doesn't have a facebook) so I sent him some of the pictures I have up on facebook. He sent one back. Later, he said the email had been deleted and he asked for more pictures. I sent him a couple more (we had been flirting) and one of them was slightly scandalous. I was in a t-shirt and underwear, but you couldn't see anything terrible and it was basically innocent.
A couple days later, my friend tells me that someone had "nudes" of me. Of course, I was flustered. I didn't send the guy anything bad, but it still makes me nervous that he's spreading rumors. I texted him asking why he was such an asshole about the situation, and he got extremely defensive and just called me a whore.
I want to take some sort of action about this whole thing. I've been trying to track down his mom to email her or something but I can't find her. What should I do? This is extremely upsetting to me.
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I would speak to the mutual friend (who is so free to hand out your # to disgusting little pervs) immediately and ask just how well she knows him! I am sure you already know that you shouldn't have sent suggestive pictures to someone you barely knew but that doesn't give him the right to lie about it! You need to tell your parents or a trusted adult friend and try to track down his parents. They need to know what their charming baby boy is up to! In the future I wouldn't send any pics unless you know the person VERY well!Sorry this happened!Best of luck!
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Although something like this can happen and sometimes comes down to nothing but someone spreading rumors based on nothing but hearsay this situation seems to be a little off.
I would say to speak to your parents and let them know of everything that has happened. You've not done anything wrong and I suspect that this is just a matter of this guy telling your friend how you sent him nudes (which weren't nudes but being a guy its no surprise that he decided to embellish this) and when you confronted him he just got defensive because the truth came out i.e. you hadn't sent them and he is a liar. Speak to your parents and see what can be done. I would imagine they will want to speak to your friend (or your friends parents) to find out how your friend knows him and what he/she knows about him and if his parents can be contacted. I would say that involving the police could be a big help but I am unsure, given the circumstances here, that they will get significantly involved. For peace of mind though it might be a good idea just so they can look into who this guy is.
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Tell your parents everything that has happened as you wrote it here. You will not be in trouble. Let them know who gave this person your number. Tell your folks you thought pictures were a normal request until you learned of what someone told you.
They will know how to deal with it and should bring the matter forth to school administration. It needs to be because who knows who else this is happening to that hasn't stepped forward.
I would get all your texts printed out and NOT contact this person further or send off any e-mail to anyone about it. Let adults deal with this for you as they are most equipped and know the law and what is illegal etc.
Even though you aren't sure if it's the guy who is doing this or your so-called friend who gave him the number they both need to be brought up to adults and you should steer clear of whomever it was because they're bad news.
The transmitting via e-mail, text or any method of any kind of picture of someone underage in a state of undressed is illegal and the people who are sending/receiving such material knowingly will definitely be charged for it.
Like I said, tell your family and get adults you trust involved to take proper action for you. You have every right to be upset and to feel violated here but you must come forward with the truth of what is happening to get action and stop these people from doing this to others.
There is a remote chance that this guy is caught up in it and your so-called friend is behind all of this but as you cannot be sure both of them need to be mentioned and brought to the attention of adults.
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