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Am I slut if my bf touches me?!
So, im 15 years old and im dating with that guy for 2 months. He's sweet and stuff and i reaally like him and we meet very often. So, last night he came and picked me up with his car and we went to a dark place (but we were in the car). We talked and laughed and then he came on top of me and we started making out. I waas feeling super hot. Then, his hand moved down there and he started ''petting'' the area. It felt good and i wasnt really thinking cos of the atmosphere. At the end, he fingered me and i liked it a lot. However, when i went home, i cried and called myself a slut for enjoying it!. Did I do the right thingg? Am i too young? Am i a slut?
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You're definitely too young,
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We (human beings) are sexual. It is perfectly normal what you describe and nothing for you to worry about. You should never feel pressured or forced into doing anything however providing that you wanted to happed what was happening at the time please do not worry about this at all.
Do not EVER call yourself awful names like that - you deserve far more respect and are worth far more. Take care and have fun with guys doing anything provided you feel comfortable doing it.
Go confidently in the direction of your dreams, live the life you imagined,
Ashok
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Hon, humans come with sex drives and by 15 those drives are in full gear. It is normal to be attracted to the opposite sex and feeling desire and wanting to pleasure your partner and be pleasured by him.
There are too many misconceptions in society that people spout off without knowing any real truth if any behind what they are saying.
Since the two of you get along really well and like each other lots and the chemistry sexually seems strong since you're both enjoying yourself, I want to caution you that it is easy to get carried away..as you said "not really thinking", like the brain shuts off and only the senses are awake drinking in every sensation and when we aren't thinking we tend to overlook use of birth control.
If you find that you and he get together more often for the same level of sexual exploration or going further, like mutual masturbation....thats the point at which you may want to be on the pill. teens can go to Planned Parenthood. And they give out condoms but do offer help with anything regarding your reproductive organs and you can get on the pill. Its a lot safer in case pre cum gets anywhere near you or transfered to you by hands and then theres the risk of pregnanct without him being inside.
Planned Parenthood is under the same obligation to uphold the law of privacy for their clients. Your parents would not have to know if you go see them. So just keep that in mind in case it looks like you two are going to go further.
Exploring sex with someone you enjoy is a wonderful thing. There are some kids who just do it with someone they dont care about just to be able to say they've done it.
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So, he's sweet, you like him loads, you talk a lot and he makes you smile and laugh? And you've been seing each other a reasonable time without being this intimate? This is ticking plenty of 'good' boxes. And when he WAS a little more intimate you got caught-up with the 'atmosphere', felt really hot and enjoyed it at the time? Even more good boxes ticked! Afterwards, when inevitably your mood and feelings swing back the other way it looked different, eh? Being a bit tearful isn't so unusual. It's the outward show of the reaction to all the strong feelings you experienced. Was it the right thing? You've certainly done nothing wrong. Are you too young? You are not doing anything unusual for a girl of fifteen to be enjoying with her boyfriend. Are you a slut for enjoying it? Most certainly not! You're supposed to enjoy it. Do you think HE will think you are slutty because you 'let him' do it? He will not, so don't put the silly idea in his head by thinking it yourself. Chat, laugh and love and enjoy being intimate together when the mood is right. Strikes me the pair of you are getting everything just about perfect. X
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No sweetie your not a slut, that's perfectly normal for couples to be doing that. Also it's your control for what u want your boyfriend to do to you. If u don't like it tell him to stop!
Hope this helped!
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