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Mom
My mom is weird. She yells for the stupidest stuff and gets angry quickly. Today we rented a movie and my brother played it off the ps3 . She started yelling and screaming why youbeat the system use the cd playr in front of my cousin even tho the movie plays either way. She gets mad when the house isn't clean to perfection and in stores she'll yell at the manager if things aren't flawless.if I don't want to do something she'll give me this speech" I gave up my life for you . I sacrificed everything" if we don't do things her way she screams. She's always taking pics and posting them on fb and if the pics aren't perfect she'll yell. I stress out and am getting acne bc of it. I tryed talking to her but then she's like" oh your trying to act like the victim " I don't no what to do. Please help me
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I'm sorry you are going through this. I had a similar experience with my mom growing up. And once I was older I learned that it was my mom who was unhappy with her life and she took that anger out on my brother and I.
Try talking to your mom and let her know how she is making you feel. It is possible that she is having a hard time coping with the stress in her life and doesn't realize the effect she is having on you. Just know that your mother does love you.
~Best of Luck!
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If you are under 18 and still being raised by mom, then there's nothing much you can do to make her stop.
But heres just a few ideas:
Is there a dad in the picture. Talk to him about your concerns. If she is having a temper, anger problems and unhappy with everything no matter who, even strangers, then she must be going through something big personally. You didn't say if this is a recent change in behavior. If so, hopefully her behavior will stop as soon as whatever is bugging her goes away.
If she has always been like this but slowly gotten worse there could be something wrong that a doctor or mental health professional can help her with. Theres always a possibility of her having anger issues and needing counseling, being depressed and acting out from that condition, needing doctors care, or perhaps she is a perfectionist in personality and will not ever be happy with anyone or anything always finding something is just not good enough.
Her reactions to what she's going through are not fair to others. Dumping on others and using them as an outlet to spew all her frustrations on is not right. She could get worse and begin true verbal abuse. I lived with a verbally abusive husband for 30 yrs and know how the stress of someone like that to live with can affect your health.
Usually it will do so in one way or the other...It can affect your emotional and mental health and you begin to have self confidance issues and other issues. (From someone who knows, its not your fault, nor will it ever be)
If you are able to keep your emotional sanity on the level, then you will be attacked physically...the stress has to go somewhere. Right now you feel acne came from this...It can get much worse. If you have other relatives you can talk to, have a private talk and let them know how this is affecting you. If you are going from the intention to simply take care of your needs to be stress free and you are not talking to share 'dirty laundry' information about things at home, then you are doing so for the right reason. Always in life, not matter what your age, you will always be responsible ultimately for your welfare. Parents aren't always perfect and make mistakes. Just because we are adults does not mean we are mistake free. And sometimes the kids suffer because of our mistakes. Usually its just a one time thing or temporary for parents if they do wrong or just not the best. But if its day after day, it can take its toll on you and begin to affect your performance and grades in school. Thats why I encourage you to find someone you can talk to. Sometimes just having positive words and love an encouragement from an outside source is enough to combat all the negative you get or witness from mom. And the positive stuff can cancell out the negative as far as how it is affecting you, but usually you need twice as much postive to cancel out the stress from the negative.
I would also encourage you to talk to school counselors and ask if there is any counseling they can get for you...not because you have anything wrong in you that needs fixing but because you need help dealing with the affects of her behavior.
If you go to church, go talk to your pastor. And you can also be praying for mom. But you will need to develop your own support group to help you through the years ahead. If you are willing to talk to a pastor but dont have one, think of a friend who goes to church and ask their mom if you can go talk to their pastor. Pastors are very familiar at hearing and dealing with the worst of human nature...even in church...more common than you may think, and may have some great suggestions for help. I have one more idea:
the Big brother/big sister program. I think you may benefit from that. It may need adult approval for you to join so ask them how you can get that if mom isn't willing. YOu would get matched up with a positive role model and friend, someone who may be able to give you times any from mom at times when shes the worst, perhaps to come rescue you and take you away for some time to recoup.
How this helps.
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Hi,
Sounds like your mom is going through something personal and must be very private to share with you. I'm not sure you can help until she is ready to tell you what is really going on. I'm not sure how old you are, but if you are under 18, I can only recommend to be passive and just let her be. Keep asking and don't give up trying to find out what's going on. She might not even think something is wrong. You know? Keep hope alive and it might sound easier to just type, but some time, patience , and persistence will keep you feeling better. Meaning you cannot feel bad for not trying, right? Sure hope you agree with me. As of now keep a close bond with your brother and talk about this. Help each other and be there for one another... Best of luck and smile.
ULB
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