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I really don't feel good about myself.
Hey. I know this is gonna sound really negative, but I'm really not happy with myself. My BMI is 30.1, which is considered obese. I feel really alone in this, even though I know others are going through the same thing. But it really makes me feel horrible (yes, horrible) when my friends post beach pictures of themselves and they have washboard abs and I have to wear a shirt at the beach. I have a farmer's tan. Ew. I'm 15 now, and I used to be really thin. lIke I was a tiny kid before 3rd grade. But then, I had surgery every six months until last June for scoliosis and I really regret not using those six months in between surgeries to lose weight. I couldn't and still can't play many sports, but I could've lost weight anyway. Also, I really don't have my own thing that I"m know for. Some of my friends are known for their love of surfing. A lot of my friends know me by my obsession with Beyonce. that's not even a real thing like an activity. Any help would be appreciated (except if you're cocky and say that weight loss is easy, because it's not). I've really tried to lose weight. I do intense cardio for like 25 minutes at the gym 4 days a week. Why am I fat? I'm 5'10 and I weight like 218. Don't say I'm not fat.
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Hi. I understand that you have tried to lose weight by exercising. But you haven't mentioned anything about your diet. How many calories are you consuming a day? How many should you be consuming? And some individuals find it a bit easier to lose weight because it seems like yesterday that they were obese or overweight, but honestly- it isn't easy. There are a lot of lifestyle changes involved in losing weight but if you want/need to lose it so desperately, I'm sorry, but you will have to deal with the difficulties. Not trying to sound harsh at all. I have a friend that had scoliosis surgery and he has been having issues maintaining his weight. Maybe that is why you are "fat".
Also, Stop looking at pictures that make you feel worse about yourself as that is pointless and not constructive at all... focus on how great you'll look once you lose the weight that you want to lose because you WILL LOSE IT! Losing or gaining weight is all a matter of breaking and making habits, which is hard to do, but not impossible. You will be getting your confidence back at some point, I guarantee you.
Here are some tips that have helped me lose weight as I was overweight myself:
-you mentioned that you exercise for 25 minutes a day. 1 hour of exercise a day is what I have always heard is the ideal amount of time to exercise.
-Try to make exercise easy. Walk around the block throughout the day , run a couple of laps or swim a couple of laps.
-Anytime you feel tempted to eat a burger or pizza or a large snack- think of how great you'll look with the body you have dreamt of having. Always keep your goal in mind and remember it in any times when you are caving in to stop exercising or eat junk food.
-a lot of times our minds trick us into thinking we are hungry when we are really just thirsty. Drink a glass of water when you are craving a snack.
-try to only drink water or hot green tea (helps lose weight) and cut all soft drinks from your diet.
-living without sweets honestly feels a lot better.
-eat at restaurants as little as possible.
-whenever you feel like you have less energy because you eat less- remember that all your energy is in the fat stored in your belly haha.
-sugar is addictive. But Try going a week without it and you will feel so much better.
All of these tips are hard to adapt to, not gonna lie. But they are not impossible. And if you are serious about losing this weight, you need to promise that you will try them. Eventually you WILL get used to these if you try them for a week and make them habits.
And trust me, you may feel like you are alone, but seriously, you aren't. Do you know how many people are obese? A whole lot of them...
And try to find yourself a new hobby. Please. Maybe not having activities to do makes you turn to food.
This will all take time.
BUT IT WILL BE SOOOO WORTH IT IN THE END!!!
I apologize that this is so long but these tips have worked for me and I wanted to share them with you. I wish you the best and I know you'll feel and look a hundred times better with the confidence that you will find eventually.
Lastly, you are young and these are the best years of your life. It is important to feel good about yourself and have no regrets on what you did or did not do. Time is running out, so use it wisely.
Good luck and please let me know how you are doing.
-talldivaofbeverlyhillz ^-^
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Look everyone is different. You dont need to be super thin to have fun and actually have a life. You need to learn to love yourself. The important thing is that your trying to get into shape a lot of people just complain about their weight but do nothing to fix the issue so I think your awesome for that. Being healthy is important dont pay so much attention to the scale because the number isnt important its how you feel about yourself. Keep exercising eventually you will lose the weight you want but until then dont beat yourself up, take it slow and just enjoy your life. The best tip i can give you is dress up look your best because when you look good you feel good and everything will be great.
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