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masturbation is ok or not
I have always been told masturbation was bad but I always here adults say yeah I used to masturbate to and I turned out fine I don't know what to belive
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Well, make up your own mind... find out what you believe in.
First of all the, the people who say that masturbation is a sin are wrong, It personally would make me feel dirty if I did it, (because that is my personal opinion for what ever reason) But it is NOT A SIN. If you do it, you have broken no contortions with God. It is not in the bible.
But for men, masturbating too much can lower sperm count. Don't abuse of masturbation. I like to think of it as junk food. Too much of might make you feel guilty. And for most people it is not as good as actually having sex.
Whatever you have been told by anyone, is their own opinion. If you have no reason to feel that there is something wrong with anything you might have heard of- then do what your mind tells you.
Don't live your life by what other people tell you because what they believe is what makes them who they are. Find out who you are.
Anyway, anyone can write an essay on the pros and cons of masturbation, because it is such a debated topic, but it is time that you stop asking for permission on personal things.
Decide yourself if something is "ok or not".
-talldivaofbeverlyhillz ^-^
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Whatever everyone says its normal but in moderation like everything.If you abuse with it you can be hooked and it becomes an addiction.
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Adviceman shared everything I would have said. I will only say I grew up in church and that is where the strongest message against masturbation came from. If elders were questioned as to why it's bad, they really couldn't give a good enough logical answer. If you questioned anything you were taught in church if it didn't make sense, you were told not to question it. So if your family has a strong church background, you're not going to get support from there that it is okay to engage in masturbation. Some people even not in religious circles but from what they may have picked up in society in general or from the era they grew up in, may have formed the idea that it is wrong, never questioned that and automatically pass that thought form onto their kids.
Every faith and belief out there including Christianity has some things right and have misunderstood or misinterpreted on others. As you grow into an adult, you will need to learn how to decipher what is practical good advice or morals or guidelines for life to live by or not. Some ideas out there have very little basis in reality. Never assume anything but read books or get on the net on any topic you are not sure or confused about conflicting answers or interpretations of and do the research yourself. So I am glad you came here to ask. Your parents are going to do the best they know how, even if some of their ideas and concepts are outdated or they have misinformation. Don't hold this against them. Just decide for yourself privately what it is you believe is right for you. If a person is applying the 'Golden rule' in their life then its likely you won't go wrong. I do like the Wiccan interpretation of that rule, "If it harms no one, then do as you will". This would mean if any action you intend to take will not harm yourself nor anyone else either intentionally or unintentionally, then there is nothing wrong with it. Keep that in mind in life.
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There is nothing wrong with masturbation as long as it is not something done to the exclusion of everything else in your life. Meaning it is something you do at night in your bed or in the morning in your shower but not something you do all afternoon and night.
Masturbation is a healthy outlet for the sexual tension young people get when going through puberty and having to deal with all those new hormones coursing through their bodies. It is also a great way to identify with your sexuality though fantasy as you masturbate. You also learn about your likes and dislikes as to how you like to be touched so allow your hands to roam your body not just your sex organ.
According to a recent survey 85% of us masturbate. In a family of 4 that means 3.4 members of the family masturbate. That's right even your parents masturbate except when they do so it is most likely called foreplay. A handjob is a form of masturbation as is a blow job or oral sex and fingering. When couples masturbate each other it is called foreplay which leads to the reason why adults tell children not to masturbate.
Lets face the facts; when you masturbate it feels good. If you allow someone else to masturbate you it feels even better and is why it is called foreplay. For it leads to the ultimate sex act; intercourse.
Parents feel if the can keep children from masturbating they can keep them from having sex. If they keep you from having sex then no one gets pregnant and they do not have to deal with the problems of teenage parents.
Masturbation is not a sin. While most religions do not condone masturbation they do not forbid it or consider a sin. They do not condone it for the same reasons parents don't want children to masturbate.
As a parent and now of the age to be a grandparent I told my son and had I had a daughter I would have told her this. Sex as a teenager is more trouble than it is worth. You want to feel a girl up go ahead but keep your dick in your pants. When you get home go in your room close the door and jerk off. There were more than enough girlie magazines around the house such as Playboy and Maxim to use for inspiration.
That's me and my wife. We have been a ittle more liberal in our views on sex and our children. Listen to what your parents say. Trying to stop someone from masturbating is like trying to hold back the ocean. Masturbation is natural so just do so in private which is where it should be done any way. Close and lock your bedroom door so you are not disturbed or do so in your morning or evening shower.
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Masturbation isn't physically harmful. It wont make you sick, or do anything bad to do (as long as you aren't so rough you hurt yourself).
Masturbation is normal and healthy. Like anything that is normal and healthy, some people can take it to far and have a problem, but that's not common. The vast majority of people masturbate, and most people will never experience any problems because of it.
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