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My very christian girlfriend of 5 months won't give bj.
So I am only 17 and was was dating this girl who happened to be christian for two months until she broke up with me. The reason we broke up was because I am agnostic and she couldn't take it anymore, even though I told her I was in the first place. In this relationship she never gave me a blowjob but only handies but she said no sex and no bj's while we were dating and I was totally cool with that untill... when she broke up with me she almost immediately had a thing with another her guy and she sucked his dick after she was supposedly against it. She came back to me a 2 weeks or so after she gave the other guy head and she told me everything that happened and was extremely sorry and I took her back. She said if she could go back in time she would definately change what happened. She told me she now did blowjobs and here we are five months later and I haven't even gotten a handjob, I only finger her which ive done about 10 times since we've been together again. So my question is should I talk to her about giving me head or just anything sexual? Or am I just way overreacting and I should leave this whole thing alone. She's really in love with me now and I almost broke up with her about a month ago because of what happened right after our breakup. One thing about this girl is that she has been fingered and gave hand jobs to plenty of men in her past and it just bothers me that I never get anything in return.
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I don't think she's the girl for you. You seem to be holding her past against her.
It seems like you're bothered because she doesn't do anything sexual with you, at least what you want. If you like her, that stuff shouldn't matter.
I agree with the others that said maybe she didn't like it, or maybe she just doesn't want to do it again. Just because a girl has done stuff in her past, even if she did it a dozen times, she doesn't have to do it again. She doesn't owe that to you.
You almost broke up with her because of what happened AFTER your break up...
It just doesn't seem like you love her.
So I'll assume you do love her, and care about her. So if you do, don't hold the stuff she did against her. She was sorry, you took her back and forgave her so that should be done and it shouldn't keep coming back.
Just because she did things with guys in the past doesn't mean she has to do anything with you.
Talk to her if you want to get sexual, if she says no, then leave it at that.
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I agree with Razhie. If your going to hold her past against her then maybe she is not the girl for you.
For example: Lets say for discussion the two of you stay together and you eventually marry. During this time nothing sexually changes between the two of you. On your wedding night you discover she is not a virgin. Will you hold this against her?
Everyone has a past and most of us have a sexual past as well. It is possible that her love is such that she wants a fresh start with you. There have been some famous people; many with very colored sexual histories. Who have had second starts and not had sexual relations with their new intended mates before the wedding night.
Yes you should talk to her and find out what her intentions are towards you. NO you should not demand any type of sexual acts from her to keep you in the relationship for that is sexual harassment.
If she must give you a BJ to prove her love for you. Then I question your love for her.
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You should speak to her about this.
However, you are also over-reacting. Just because someone has engaged in some sort of sex act previously, doesn't mean they are happy or okay with it now. It's not right to say "You did it once so it doesn't matter if you do it again." If she doesn't want to perform a blow job, it doesn't matter how many times she did before. She's allowed to not want to do it now.
You don't 'deserve' a blow job and fingering isn't something she 'gives' to you or anyone else. Even if she did all sort of things before, if those aren't things she wants to continue doing now, her choice deserves your respect. If that is her choice, and you don't like it, then you should break up.
But if you want to stay with her, then by all means talk to her about the fact you'd like more sexual contact, but do not accuse her, or demand things of her, just because she'd had done them before with you, or with other people. She gets to choose each and every time. You never have to do something just because you did it before.
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Break up with her
I'm telling you from experience your wasting your time with her and your gunna regret it. Your 17! Nobody should be holding you down, especially not some idiot that calls herself religious and blows some guy she's not even with. She's one of those girls in high school that's just a waste of time. Break up, date someone else who isn't fake, you won't regret it
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