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Am I being too insensitive with my dad?
Alright, well here I go.
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Lets see, you are daddy's 'baby'... asks if you still love him ...tells you he misses you ... sounds to like he might be feeling a little forgotten and insecure.
From what I understand you have grown up, have new responsibilities and new priorities. So sometimes. like many of us, we tend to loose focus and get all wrapped up in work, school careers and all those exiting new things in life and forget who stood by our sides .. our family and friends.
Sometimes you need to put the breaks on, stop and take a moment to reconnect with people, especially family and friends. Dont wait for a phone call... take a few minutes, pick up the phone and call him. Schedule your phone calls if you have to, set a day and time and dont allow yourself excuses.
If you have always had a good relationship with your dad, nurture it. In fact nurture all your good relationships, they will only grow as you do. Never measure who calls who or who calls more.. Your dad may not call because he may feel like he is disrupting the new family dynamic or maybe he feels you want space. Whatever the case may be, we all tend to take for granted that our loved ones are around and we always think ' .. there is always tomorrow or next week ... ' but we can never predict tomorrow so best do it today.
So long answer short: Call your dad. If you never get around to it, it s because you are simply becoming a busy body and you need to slow down and maybe keep a schedule.
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I'm about the age your grandfather would be so I am going to offer you some grandfatherly advice.
I think you should call your dad more often. My reason is the same why I don't call my son as often as maybe I should.
You probably have a cell phone correct. So does my son, it is his only phone; he does not see a reason to have a landline phone. My son is a paramedic/firefighter and I know his work schedule and I could call him at work but being a former firefighter myself, you never know when you will be on a call.
When he is not working, is he home, out riding his motorcycle, on a date, or just what he may be doing and I don't want to disturb him. With us older folks most of us even if we have cell phone we are reluctant to give up that landline we grew up with. I know when I'm home I turn my cell phone off so it is the land line most people use to call me.
Is your dad like this? If so you can leave him a message as most of us do have some type of answering service these days. Where as if you call his cell phone and it is off he may not get the message until he turns it back on. If you also have a landline phone at home he may be reluctant to call for mom may answer and he may not want to speak with her.
These are the reasons why it is better for you to call dad. I suggest you call dad and find out when during the week it is convenient for both of you to be on the phone with each other. Then get in the habit of calling him. I know for a fact that you will make him feel better and you will too. When parents divorce the non-custodial parent is always concerned with how the children are doing and if they can still have a relationship with their children or if that relationship has been poisoned by the divorce.
Your making the effort to call your dad will make him very happy. Your phone call will also allow you to maintain a relationship even if you can't visit him as often as you might since he had to move away.
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