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Get back in the Band
Im going on my sophmore year in highschool, and i love everything about marching band. I am also on the debate team and preparing to take an AP class which my parents find as conflicts. My dad was this huge debate superstar in highschool, and now has decided to force me to quit marching band. I have told him in the past that i love marching band more than anything else that i do in school, and he doesnt care. I asked him to consider my happiness, and he said happiness isnt the key point in his decision making. Also i asked him why i cant do what i want to do, to which he replied "what you do in high school is not your decision." How do i get back in marching band? its the only thing i love about school and its where my friends are.
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Tell him nothing will stop you because it is what you love.And that you are sorry if you were not the one to live his dreams
"If you don't do something you love then you are just like a robot,unfeeling and will do anything that the master tells you to do."
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Use your debating skills to clearly explain how much marching band means to you and why you think it would not conflict with debate team and AP class. As a sophmore in high school, you are still relatively young, but this does not mean your dad should be making every decision for you. By taking on lots of extra curricular activities you will be gaining valuable time management skills that will be extremely useful in college or later life. Also explain how happy marching band makes you. You could also consider talking to the leader of the band and explaining your situation. They are probably experienced with situations of people doing many activities and could give you some good advice.
Hope this helped in some way :)
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He's trying to live through you. Happiness is essential to decisions. If you aren't happy or in to something and resent doing it then there's ZERO point in doing it. You won't gain from it.
He may have been a debate superstar but that doesn't mean it's your forte. If you don't feel comfortable doing it don't do it. Sign up for band. If he doesn't like you following your heart and gut so be it. You can't please everyone and sometimes that means a parent.
What you should do is tell him one last time that you know he enjoyed the debate club in high school but that public speaking freaks you out, you aren't good at it and have no interest and will not be joining it. Illustrate your love for marching band and talent for it
If he doesn't understand have the marching band or other teacher you trust for that matter intervene and talk to them about where you seem most comfortable. Also there may be a way to juggle all three things if your teachers can pull that off for you. Something to think about. He shouldn't force something upon you. That's wrong and bad parenting in this instance.
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