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I'm living a life of mediocrity
Hey! Okay, so I'm not trying to be a Debbie downer or anything, but I feel like I don't have a meaningful talent. I mean I don't have a good talent like music or sports. Like my only talents are talking/socializing a lot and picking out paint/fabric colors for my house. And instagram. Absolutely none of those count for anything for a person who wants to be a dentist (I also suck at Biology, which is bad). I'm mediocre at high school. I'm mediocre at singing. I'm mediocre at art. I suck at sports. So, what do I even do? I don't want to go through life being a loudmouth who's good at picking out colors.
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I see two qualities from which you might find a life's passion. Though first you need to lighten up on yourself. It is normal for a teenager to question themselves at this point in their lives. Being mediocre is not bad and it is not good, it is average which is okay.
Now is the time that you really have to decide where your talent lies. Yes you want to be a dentist. If so then you need to buckle down and learn how to get better at the science you need in order to get into dentistry school. Being mediocre at something says you can do it; you need to decide if you want to do it. If you want to it bad enough you will find a way to do it.
An example of finding a way would be like if you ever wanted say a dress but didn't have the money for it. You really wanted that dress and you eventually bought the dress. How did that happen? It happened because you wanted it bad enough that you found a way to get it.
If you want to be a Dentist, I mean really want to be a Dentist then you need to buckle down and find a way to get there and get into Dentistry school. You start by contacting one or two schools and find out what the admissions process is and what you need scholastically to gain admission. This becomes the goal, just like the dress in my example. Then make a plan to get there and follow that plan.
Based on what you wrote you might also want to look at interior design and fashion design. Being good at picking out paint and fabric are two much needed talents for interior design. Picking out fabric is a much needed talent for fashion. You will have to improve your art work I'm sure but again if you want something bad enough you can do it.
I'm not aware of any schools for interior design, I know there are some I'm just not aware of them. Though if you are interested in Fashion design. The best School for that in this country is the New York school of Fashion & Design. Contact then and find out what is needed for admission.
Most importantly lighten up on yourself. Your normal and questioning yourself at this point is absolutely the right thing to do. Just do not become obsessed by it. It is also okay at this point to change your mind on what career you for this is the time to do so.
Review your options, see what you're good at and what you can most easily improve at. Then make a plan and follow it. Now is the time to do so. Talk with your parents let them help you. Just remember this is your life. What you do in the future is what you have to be happy doing, not necessarily what your parents may think you should be doing. Follow you heart and you mind equally.
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What you're feeling is such a good sign! Not feeling good about what you can do is your soul urging you to work harder. There's nothing motivating about being self-satisfied. If everyone were happy with their abilities in HS, the world would be devoid of professionals! Anything worth doing takes years of effort, and it's part of what gives life meaning to test yourself and apply yourself toward great efforts. (See the writings of Cal Newport for his realization that to be of value to his community, he had to work hard at an under server skill).
My worry is that you're treating "knowledge of biological facts" as though it's an intrinsic skill that anyone could possibly be born with when you say you're "not good at biology." No one can possibly have innate aptitude in biology, and no baby's first words were "kings play chess on fine grained sand" (that's the mnemonic for kingdom, phylum, class, order, family, genus, species).
Everything worth doing is a skill learned through persistence. Look up the rule of the 10,000 hours. It doesn't hold true in every case, but it's a good measuring stick--if I'm not good at something, how many hours of hard practice have I put in? There's no advantage to being content with what you can do now, and I think it's a great display of maturity that you want to work to make more of yourself.
Persistence!
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