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Is This Guy Crazy or in Love
This guy is obsessed with me. It's been going on for years. I had a feeling at first that feeling was confirmed when he wrote a poem. This poem was about me and it was sexually explicit. So I got scared and stopped going to the same places as him etc. So fast forward two years and I stopped being scared. So, I wanted to see what kind of feelings does he have for me. He likes to keep our conversations short which frustrates me. Its really hard to tell what kind of person he is or how crazy he is from talking to him. My conclusion was he is really shy and has a big crush on me. I wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt. When I tried to make conversation with him I asked if he had a Tumblr. He said “No”. I later found out that he indeed does have a Tumblr. Some other guy gave me the address. When I first visited his blog I became intrigued. Its erotic and I loved it Then I began to read some stories that he wrote. And what do you know? They are about me. It’s like I’m his muse. At this point he will not receive anymore contact from me. Because he is obviously sick and needs help and I don’t want to fuel his obsession. Also I think he is cyberstalking me. There’s more however I will not share at this time for personal reasons. What do you think? Thanks. :)
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it all depends on if u love him if you can stand him. all what is doing, is freaky behavior you can change that but you must be sure you ready to go down that part if not just stay away from him. but if you realtime love him you need to reach out to him. first tell him to stop pasting or writing stuff about you instead he should be telling you those stuff face to face you have let him feel that he can tell you every thing so from there you start telling him what you like and don't like about him. and he will be the man you want him to be but you need to be careful
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That is creepy. Find someone else. He does not seem to be in his right mind.
You could do better,
Miss Piggy
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No, he's crazy. Hopefully harmless crazy, but you really should keep your distance. It sounds like he just prefers to fantasize and you are ruining it for him by trying to stepping into his reality. I think that is why he wants nothing to do with you in person. If he is indeed cyberstalking you it might be a good idea to speak with the police about it. Sometimes these crazies can go for years and then decide it's time to make a move. It sounds like a whole lot more than a crush or a harmless prank. I really do think you should make the police aware, that way if he tries anything they already have the info they need to move in on him.
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He's sexually attracted to you, definitely, but he doesn't sound like the kind of guy you want to be involved with. What he's in love with is his fantasy version of you rather than your true self with all your likes and dislikes and interests and personality. By keeping conversations short, it's prevented reality from spoiling his delusions and prevented you from finding out too much about him. Be careful. Not only does it sound like he doesn't have much to offer by way of a healthy relationship, but honestly he also sounds dangerous, try to keep your distance.
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Some males are very socially lacking in skill how to interact with females in a normal manner. They can say or do things in public that creep a girl out.
We automatically believe that most the men with lack of skills and odd behavior and speech in approaching a girl is due to him being shy. I believe in most cases it's either shyness or more likely lack of knowledge and experience in speaking with the opposite sex and dating them that makes a guy act so awkwardly around females.
Then theres the last possibility, the guy has an unhealthy obsession. From what you have shared, it certainly sounds so. For a guy who's not dating you to give you such a poem to begin with is not appropriate courting or dating behavior. Once a couple have been together and professed having feelings for each other, a gift of a poem like that perhaps for Valentines day if they were lovers, is normal.
When a male is truly interested in a girl, he will be attracted by minimal surface level things he can see and observe, like your looks, laugh, how you carry yourself, etc... That is enough for a guy to want to get to know a girl better, which means approaching, talking to and conversation is to find out what things they have in common, learn more about each other. Words are cheap though and may not reflect who a person is at core, so then spending more time together to be able to observe each other enough to see if what they say they are and believe reflects what comes out in their actions.
He has done nothing as far as you have shared to attempt to get to know you better.
I am no psychologist, but it seems to me he may have only a sexual obsession with you, or at the least, a fantasy relationship in his mind that revolves mostly around sex.
If this is true, there's a chance he may not even want to try to pursue a normal healthy relationship. He may be perfectly happy with using the female of his choice as his fantasy girlfriend. This means he would make up the entire relationship in his head and imagine everything in detail. Since he does not know you and your character, he has to make it all up and so its entirely possible that not a bit of what he imagines is the real you. That might be why he is reluctant to talk and attempt to pursue a real life friendship even because he won't want the truth to crush his imaginary relationship with you.
No, this is not normal behavior. I can't say if it means he is crazy or dangerous. But since there's no way for you to know, I would say it is best to avoid any contact with him or do anything that encourages him. If you have more regarding him you have questions regarding, feel free to write me. Blessings to you.
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